In all seriousness, I think a couple of other folks have said it pretty well. I've yet to meet anyone who ultimately, no matter what their personality or appearance, didn't find someone else. I've been the "friend" and "like a brother" before and at first it always sucks, but every time I looked back, I realized they weren't good for a meaningful relationship anyway. Keep being yourself and I promise you'll run into someone, someday who will be looking for someone to fall in love with, or maybe just hang out with for a long while, who also wants that person to be trustworthy and special - just like a friend or brother.
Tom, my logical side wants to agree with this 100 percent. Deep down I know it is probably true. Without going into too much detail: When the time frame starts to stretch into years (well beyond 4)...and the same scenario plays out over and over and over, it is hard to not start to believe you are doing it wrong. It is a nice thought that "If you are patient it will happen" but very difficult to sustain that patience for years on end. I am not complaining, I have a lot to be thankful for. This conversation just hit close to home with me. It finally occurred to me that in universe of infinite possibilities, several of possible outcomes are not positive. Not trying to be a downer, just trying to be rational.
Keep up the good work and positivity. :-)
I should have been more specific - I went through this period for 10 years, so everything you say is perfectly understandable.