The Catch a Feeling thread

I was hoping someone could clarify that point. I still get NARBs.

To catch up on the past few pages:

I think having unrequited crushed keep life interesting- it's a reason to be excited to go somewhere, a reason to look your best... I think all-in-all, it's a boost to daily life. Harmless flirting is great. I do agree that once the word is out or you crossed the line, it does change things.

I have a friend at Cheesecake that I have worked with since October 2007. I have consistently said he’s my favorite male coworker, we flirt and give each other HUGE hugs every time we see each other. On a Saturday night, three weeks ago, me, him, and two other guys were hanging out watching football. He began aggressively hitting on me- pressing up against me, trying to slip his hands down my pants and at one point when we were alone, he whipped his weenie out and said, “I’ve wanted you for five years, please just touch it.” Yeah.. I know. Smooth (and no, I didn’t). So skipping all the rest of the details, I see him a few days later and I am NERVOUS to see him. I finally do and I give him a half hug and give him an out, “soooo you were pretty drunk the other night…” And his response was that he wasn’t… Ever since, I can’t look at him the same, I have to force hug him… Life is different. He should have never crossed the line after having this banter for so many years. I don’t think that I’ll ever be able to return to where we were before.

I think “just friends” can have sex. I’ve been there. However, for me it still had to be monogamous. I had an long-time ongoing situation with someone my sophomore year in college. We didn’t do dinner, we didn’t call… we just partied and messed around. Until the day that I walked in on him with another girl in his bed. Oddly, I was actually quite happy for him. He had been pining over this girl forever and I was glad that he snagged her. But we were over. No sharing.



I’d keep that more quiet. If I knew that about my boyfriend, I would be so insanely jealous every time they hung out. And I am not an insanely jealous person. Everyone has their limits.

Duh.

Also, I'm still shocked guys whip their d*cks out as if the sheer presence of the male phallus is all a woman needs to get the juices flowing.

Dammit, this dude is stealing my go to move.

No way would that ever work. What was that guy thinking??


There needs to be visible scrotum too.

Back to the "friend zone" thing, I am KING of the friend zone. But that's like when Balon Greyjoy was King of Pyke. Nobody respects your title and your kingdom is a giant pile of sh*t so it doesn't do you much good anyway.

I admire your kindness and optimism, Nick, but I'm with those who say that once I make my feelings clear and they go unrequited, it's pretty hard to go back to friendship. I think it depends on the person, though. So if you can handle that NoD, more power to you.

I would have so many feelings to a few men in here, but we are all spread out!


As for my update: I hate how I can be into someone, and once they start messing up grammar/spelling (of simple words) I'm over it.... Am I searching for something wrong? Too picky? Ugh.

Well, it kind of depends. Like, let's say I was a fitness fanatic. I work out 4 hours a day (before and after work), count calories, do all the crazy stuff that Ben Stiller's character in Heavyweights was about.

Is it too picky for me to only want a person that's fit and dedicated to their workouts the way I am?

If you're attracted to intelligent people, it's stands to reason that's going to be one of the things you focus on.

If a girl uses words like "wat" or shortens words that don't need to be shortened, I immediately get turned off because I don't like texting someone and feeling like the responses are being filtered through a 9 year old.

Haha I use like semicolons and sh*t in my texts.

My dad gave me grammar tests when I was in first grade after he decided my teacher's English curriculum was going to leave me "mentally inept."

Hot Jeff gets hotter and hotter (for the record, so do I).

I get disappointed when anyone (a potential caught feeling or just friends) has bad spelling or grammar. I especially hate abbreviations in texts. Once in a while is fine...if you're in a hurry (or if you txt while driving like Bonnie ) but if you ALWAYS use "ur" then I get bothered.

It was onnnneeee pooooosstttt I was just so excited to show off GL's T and get other people to order. I... <sniffle> was just trying to be a good friend

Yep. I caught em. Quite a while ago.

Here's the funny part. I bought tickets to Hangout last year for me and this girl I was seeing at the time. Well, about a week after securing a room with Bonzai and her sister and Eric, the girl did something dumb, so I Broomed her. I told Bonzai "don't worry, I'll have someone to bring" pretty much convinced I'd find someone worthwhile to take.

It's been a year and we were planning out our summer (obv including festivals) a couple of days ago.

This DISEASE you all call "caught feelings"? Gets worse every day.


As far as the sleeping with friends discussion, as far as im concerned there are only a few people off limits:

1) friends exes. Even if it was a one nighter.
2) roommates
3) your hairdresser
4) your bartender (at the place you often go)
5) your landlord

Friend doesn't make the list, so get it in all you like. And like Bonzai says, keep it to your self when you start dating someone.