Post by itrainmonkeys on Feb 11, 2013 18:56:19 GMT -5
Does the friend know you are getting feelings? Does he know you know that he's crushing on her as well? They aren't dating or anything, are they? He just likes her but hasn't made a move yet? Maybe talk it out with him.....not sure if that's good or bad advice haha.
So I knew this kind of situation was going to present itself at one point or another. I'm starting to catch a few feelings for an amazingly sweet girl. Problem: my buddy seems to have been doing the same for months now. Nothing has materialized between the two of them, and they seem to bicker more than actually talk. Part of me wants to not even get involved with it, and just let them be. The other part says that I may as well try my luck if it's taken them both this long. Basically what I'm getting at, is that an a**hole move or am I in the clear? Needed an outside opinion. Also, sorry to derail the underwear/sheet washing/hygiene direction this thread was going in. You may discard this post if it has.
Little add-on: She's still got more school to do, and I'll be long gone after this semester.
Definitely f*ck her before approaching your buddy about it. That way when he throws a hissy fit, at least you f*cked her once.
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If it was a friend I wanted to keep, I'd stay away from her unless you just feel like you ARE SO IN LOVE WITH HER. If you just want to Quack her it isn't worth hurting your friends feelings IMO. Plus has she even given you any signals she's into you?
I guess maybe I have an old fashioned friend code. :/
Just kind of lately we've actually had some good conversations. Definitely not too serious to any extent. Then again, he's always kind of been wishy-washy when it comes to stuff like this. He drags it along and drags it along. And it's not necessarily just to "Quack her" like you said. I've got thoughts for something more solid than that. Although, that wouldn't hurt the situation.
Personally I'd clear it with my buddy first. But like others have said it kinda depends on how your friendship stands and whether or not you're gettin' signals from her too.
As far as my own Feelies I've missed the girl at my bar by minutes the last time or two we've both been out. But she was textin' me tonight about the next time I'd be there and now we're set to meet up tomorrow night after work. I'm feelin' good enough to most likely ask her out tomorrow fer a non bar date. Fingers crossed!
Well she texted me sayin' she wished I hadn't left the bar early tonight (really wish I didn't have to work all day tomorrow). But I'm now really lookin' forward to tomorrow night!