Im catching feelings for my other single lady friends tonight as we eat pizza and funfetti cookies and watch "Valentine's Day" on dvd at my hiz. ...Honestly, I'd rather watch "Love Actually" but since the movie was chosen by my fellow single ladies, I'll go with it. It's about love, right? So we make "Singles Awareness Day" about our FRIEND LOVE!
I've never been a Valentine's Day celebrator, even when I was with someone. Seems silly to me - I'm of the mindset that there doesn't need to be a "day" to go out to eat and exchange a lovey note or whatever, you should tell the person you love that you love them any time. But whatever floats other peoples boats is fine by me!
I guess it is cool to hate on V day. Or so it seems in this crowd. And that is ok. I always used it as an excuse to do something a little extra special. I always try to be a thoughtful person to anybody I am involved with, all the time. I never felt guilty or bad for "feeding" the capitalist machine or anything silly like that. I just like doing nice things for people I care about and this day just always gave me another reason to do so.
My stepbrother is getting married today/ tomorrow. I am not sure exactly because they're in Thailand and the time change has me all confused. I think the date was chosen arbitrarily rather than because of the significance of the date.
3/22 Dorthia Cottrell * 3/26 Swans * 3/27-29 Big Ears Festival * 4/11 Matthew E. White * 4/15 Hiss Golden Messenger * 4/17 The Body * 5/6 Sufjan Stevens * 5/8-10 Shaky Knees Festival * 5/8 Ride * 5/9 Spiritualized * 5/10 Lightning Bolt * 5/21 Yob * 6/5 Future Islands * 7/17-19 Pitchfork Music Festival * 9/10-12 Hopscotch Music Festival
You single people, it's Thursday. There will be an enormous "f*ck this stupid holiday" contingent meeting today at approximately 5:20pm at your local watering hole. Drink away your feelings and scoop up a late-night valentine.
But seriously, don't let this holiday get you down. It's one day out of the year that gives middle-aged couples an excuse to actually have sex for a change. I know why it means what it means to people, I just think you should not care that the calendar tells you what day you should be out on a date.
Lol. As a single person I find what you said extremely patronizing.
FWIW I've always disliked valentines even while in a relationship bc I'd rather someone give me something/take me out bc they want to and not bc a holiday says to.
How was that patronizing? I'm saying don't let a fake holiday upset you because of the way society tells you you're supposed to spend it. I thought that would be the opposite of patronizing.
Yeah well it def sounded like you were saying: All you poor, poor single people don't worry just go get drunk and have a one night stand.
And @gibran I wish all guys thought the way you did. Yesterday I walked by the pe coach and principal of my school and the coach was saying "shoot guess I gotta go get my wife something for tomorrow ugh."
I'd rather get nothing than have that be the sentiment behind a gift. Maybe that's just me.
I'm not sure I know anyone who really loves Valentine's Day. I feel like if people were to rank their favorite holidays, VD would rank somewhere around 10th, behind Christmas, their own birthday, Halloween, Thanksgiving, New Year's, Easter, 4th of July, St Patricks Day, and Labor Day. It is just a lame holiday. Let me explain this further:
If you are single, you may like VD for only a few real reasons which is for the cheap candy the next day or the hopes that your crush may finally admit their feelings to you. Otherwise, many single people are either indifferent about the day or they are miserable.
If you are in a relationship, you may like VD because you are going to go on a fun, special date or you may have a better chance at sex. On the flip side, you should probably be having special dates from time to time anyway. If this is the case, then VD isn't that much different than a typical date night. If this is your only big date night of the year, you are in a sad relationship, and VD may remind you of this. Also, as stated before, many people in relationships have busy work or family lives, and therefore view VD as a burden they must fulfill in order to not get into a big fight. Even if both parties view this the same way, they are either going to still go through with it reluctantly together, or they will view this day indifferently which yet again makes the day unimportant.
If you are married, many of the same things apply as if you were in a relationship. You are either reminded that your marriage is stale and you never go on dates any longer, or this day is no different than a regular date night. Many married couples have kids, and VD means they have to not only plan a VD gift/date, they also have to get candy for their kids. They also have to plan around their kids. Maybe have to pay for a sitter.
If you work in the service industry, you MIGHT get extra tips, but you know you are going to have to work a very busy shift. If you are single and working, you might enjoy making fun of the couples you serve who are too lovey-dovey, or possibly the ones who look like they are miserable. Maybe that is fun to you. Or if you are in a relationship and working, you have the added stress of possibly disappointing your partner by having to work.
If you work in the service industry, you MIGHT get extra tips, but you know you are going to have to work a very busy shift. an upper casual dining establishment, the entire ghetto population of the state comes in because you're a "nice" place to go for them and they tip like shiznit. You will work an extremely long shift because said ghetto people are the only ones willing to 8,000 hours to have that special dinner
Sorry... you might be able to tell that I have been burned a few too many times.