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It is fucking uncanny how significant events fall on top of each other. At least 90% of my free time is pretty flexible and open to whatever comes up. I'm available as fuck. But inevitably:
YAYYYY Rolling Stones tour kicks off in San Diego a couple miles from our new place, awesome!............ shit. We will be in Charlotte.
FYF IS THE BEST FESTIVAL YAYYYYY I CAN'T WAIT TO GO AGAIN!........ fuck. My bridal shower is that weekend. Room has already been reserved/paid for and I would be a gigantic asshole asking them to move it.
It's all good things, but dammit! Basically the ONLY two weekends that we have anything going on. WHYYYYYYYYYYYYEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE?!
How long ago did you reserve it? It's still four months away, and if they have open dates near then I don't think it would be a big deal to them if you changed the date; they still get your business. They've dealt with Bridezillas before (which I know you won't be), so I don't think you rescheduling a date would be put you very high on their list of assholes. Though if you've invited a lot of people who have requested off work or whatnot for that day it might not be the best idea.
I didn't reserve it, is the problem. A group of friends and my mom are planning it together, so they reserved it and they'd all know I was an asshole.
I feel like it might come off as "Heyyyy it's really cool you guys love me and are doing this and all, but I have better shit to do that weekend, so can you move it? k thaaaaanks"
How long ago did you reserve it? It's still four months away, and if they have open dates near then I don't think it would be a big deal to them if you changed the date; they still get your business. They've dealt with Bridezillas before (which I know you won't be), so I don't think you rescheduling a date would be put you very high on their list of assholes. Though if you've invited a lot of people who have requested off work or whatnot for that day it might not be the best idea.
I didn't reserve it, is the problem. A group of friends and my mom are planning it together, so they reserved it and they'd all know I was an asshole.
I feel like it might come off as "Heyyyy it's really cool you guys love me and are doing this and all, but I have better shit to do that weekend, so can you move it? k thaaaaanks"
Right? My potential-butthurt meter may be off.
yea you may be off. like a music festival can only happen one weekend of the year......
How long ago did you reserve it? It's still four months away, and if they have open dates near then I don't think it would be a big deal to them if you changed the date; they still get your business. They've dealt with Bridezillas before (which I know you won't be), so I don't think you rescheduling a date would be put you very high on their list of assholes. Though if you've invited a lot of people who have requested off work or whatnot for that day it might not be the best idea.
I didn't reserve it, is the problem. A group of friends and my mom are planning it together, so they reserved it and they'd all know I was an asshole.
I feel like it might come off as "Heyyyy it's really cool you guys love me and are doing this and all, but I have better shit to do that weekend, so can you move it? k thaaaaanks"
Right? My potential-butthurt meter may be off.
Ahhhh gotcha. Yea I'd be wary of moving it in that case.
5.5/four tet, daphni b2b floating points, avalon emerson 5.12/neil young 5.19/mannequin pussy 5.21/serpentwithfeet 5.25/hozier 6.12-16/bonnaroo 6.28/goose 6.29/goose 9.17/the national + the war on drugs 9.23/sigur ros 9.27-29/making time 10.17/air
Thanks to my husband's primary care manager and his all infinite wisdom of how brain injuries work, his pushing of exercise and full work days have actually caused a regression. As it turns out, this was more than just a mild concussion; lots of scary stuff being thrown around today in back to back appointments with cognitive therapy and his TBI case manager. It's really hard to keep track of everything they say so that I can tell him when he forgets, and the massive amount of appointments coming up is staggering--at least until they can figure out if he can be placed in the hospital for intensive therapy.
The sucky thing is that I while I am learning how to help him deal with these changes, I'm also learning to deal...but I think I'm going to need some help learning how to deal with dealing with it, if that makes sense.
Thanks to my husband's primary care manager and his all infinite wisdom of how brain injuries work, his pushing of exercise and full work days have actually caused a regression. As it turns out, this was more than just a mild concussion; lots of scary stuff being thrown around today in back to back appointments with cognitive therapy and his TBI case manager. It's really hard to keep track of everything they say so that I can tell him when he forgets, and the massive amount of appointments coming up is staggering--at least until they can figure out if he can be placed in the hospital for intensive therapy.
The sucky thing is that I while I am learning how to help him deal with these changes, I'm also learning to deal...but I think I'm going to need some help learning how to deal with dealing with it, if that makes sense.
5.5/four tet, daphni b2b floating points, avalon emerson 5.12/neil young 5.19/mannequin pussy 5.21/serpentwithfeet 5.25/hozier 6.12-16/bonnaroo 6.28/goose 6.29/goose 9.17/the national + the war on drugs 9.23/sigur ros 9.27-29/making time 10.17/air
I can't sleep past freaking 8 am anymore. During the week I have to get up at 4:30 every morning. On the weekends I'm still getting up before 7:30. Dislike. Also I hate Spring. Stupid allergies!
I can't sleep past freaking 8 am anymore. During the week I have to get up at 4:30 every mornings. On the weekends I'm still getting up before 7:30. Dislike. Also I hate Spring. Stupid allergies!
Benadryl at bedtime. Help with sleep and allergies.
I can't sleep past freaking 8 am anymore. During the week I have to get up at 4:30 every mornings. On the weekends I'm still getting up before 7:30. Dislike. Also I hate Spring. Stupid allergies!
Benadryl at bedtime. Help with sleep and allergies.
I can't sleep past freaking 8 am anymore. During the week I have to get up at 4:30 every morning. On the weekends I'm still getting up before 7:30. Dislike. Also I hate Spring. Stupid allergies!
Yeah, I can rarely sleep past 6:30 on the weekends. It's pretty irritating.
TL;DR- selling a house sucks and my mom is making it worse.
I love my mom. I really do. But goddammit she's being so incredibly selfish and frustrating right now. We're trying to get this house ready to sell and she keeps texting me and calling me to tell me she has scheduled shit for the house. Hey, great, thanks! That's helpful. Excerpt that idk what she wants and then she doesn't show up and then gets mad at me when I "don't get the right info". The she texted me today and said the realtor wanted to come out and take exterior photos of the house because it's nice out. Ok, well we need to mulch if we're going to do that. I can't do yard work right now and she can't come over today or tomorrow to do it either, which is fine. Except that she then proceeded to get mad at me and tell me that she doesn't even know why she bothers trying to help me if I can't make "a little effort". A little effort?! You want me to get down on my hands and knees to mulch when I still can't even stand up straight without pain? It's bad enough I had to vacuum today because she didn't show up for the floor people and now my whole tummy hurts like hell.
It's just agitating that she wants all this out of me but yet she knows I am basically worthless right now. Then gets mad at me like I'm just being lazy. But then she can't come over for 5 fucking minutes to look at this paint job, or tell me what she wants for the floors, or help me with yard work or even just maybe offer a little support to calm me down when in stressed the fuck out and overwhelmed. Instead she piles more on and I literally can just sit here and feel stressed the fuck out. UGHHHHHHHH
/rant. I'm sorry. I needed to vent and I have no one to vent to right now and if I don't get it out I think I'm going to burst into tears just from being overwhelmed.
TL;DR- selling a house sucks and my mom is making it worse.
I love my mom. I really do. But goddammit she's being so incredibly selfish and frustrating right now. We're trying to get this house ready to sell and she keeps texting me and calling me to tell me she has scheduled shit for the house. Hey, great, thanks! That's helpful. Excerpt that idk what she wants and then she doesn't show up and then gets mad at me when I "don't get the right info". The she texted me today and said the realtor wanted to come out and take exterior photos of the house because it's nice out. Ok, well we need to mulch if we're going to do that. I can't do yard work right now and she can't come over today or tomorrow to do it either, which is fine. Except that she then proceeded to get mad at me and tell me that she doesn't even know why she bothers trying to help me if I can't make "a little effort". A little effort?! You want me to get down on my hands and knees to mulch when I still can't even stand up straight without pain? It's bad enough I had to vacuum today because she didn't show up for the floor people and now my whole tummy hurts like hell.
It's just agitating that she wants all this out of me but yet she knows I am basically worthless right now. Then gets mad at me like I'm just being lazy. But then she can't come over for 5 fucking minutes to look at this paint job, or tell me what she wants for the floors, or help me with yard work or even just maybe offer a little support to calm me down when in stressed the fuck out and overwhelmed. Instead she piles more on and I literally can just sit here and feel stressed the fuck out. UGHHHHHHHH
/rant. I'm sorry. I needed to vent and I have no one to vent to right now and if I don't get it out I think I'm going to burst into tears just from being overwhelmed.
gurl, sometimes you just gotta let it out. I would be frustrated as hell if I were you too. maybe she just needs to be reminded that, while you want to help, you're doing the best that you can in your state. it sucks that house prep time has overlapped with surgery recovery.
Getting close to giving up on the dating scene...again. I've been using Tinder for about 6 months and while some good has come out of it, its mostly full of flakes and misinterpretation. Maybe I should just abandon it and give OKcupid a try, or just stay single indefinitely. The latter would certainly be better for my finances.
Thanks to my husband's primary care manager and his all infinite wisdom of how brain injuries work, his pushing of exercise and full work days have actually caused a regression. As it turns out, this was more than just a mild concussion; lots of scary stuff being thrown around today in back to back appointments with cognitive therapy and his TBI case manager. It's really hard to keep track of everything they say so that I can tell him when he forgets, and the massive amount of appointments coming up is staggering--at least until they can figure out if he can be placed in the hospital for intensive therapy.
The sucky thing is that I while I am learning how to help him deal with these changes, I'm also learning to deal...but I think I'm going to need some help learning how to deal with dealing with it, if that makes sense.
Ugh, that must be so extremely frustrating and scary. I'm sorry his PCP is a ding a ling. Sometimes they take way too much liberty when they should really be referring certain things out to a specialist. Like, say, BRAIN things. Jeez.
Absolutely, get yourself some help sweet lady. Ask one of his specialists or your PCP for a referral to a counselor or maybe a group for loved ones/caretakers dealing with this sort of thing.
Also, it might be helpful to bring a digital voice recorder (or use your phone, if you have a decent amount of storage) to his appointments so you can play back the information later, and possibly even transcribe it if you have time. SO MUCH information is flying around at appointments so quickly, too quickly to take good notes.
TL;DR- selling a house sucks and my mom is making it worse.
I love my mom. I really do. But goddammit she's being so incredibly selfish and frustrating right now. We're trying to get this house ready to sell and she keeps texting me and calling me to tell me she has scheduled shit for the house. Hey, great, thanks! That's helpful. Excerpt that idk what she wants and then she doesn't show up and then gets mad at me when I "don't get the right info". The she texted me today and said the realtor wanted to come out and take exterior photos of the house because it's nice out. Ok, well we need to mulch if we're going to do that. I can't do yard work right now and she can't come over today or tomorrow to do it either, which is fine. Except that she then proceeded to get mad at me and tell me that she doesn't even know why she bothers trying to help me if I can't make "a little effort". A little effort?! You want me to get down on my hands and knees to mulch when I still can't even stand up straight without pain? It's bad enough I had to vacuum today because she didn't show up for the floor people and now my whole tummy hurts like hell.
It's just agitating that she wants all this out of me but yet she knows I am basically worthless right now. Then gets mad at me like I'm just being lazy. But then she can't come over for 5 fucking minutes to look at this paint job, or tell me what she wants for the floors, or help me with yard work or even just maybe offer a little support to calm me down when in stressed the fuck out and overwhelmed. Instead she piles more on and I literally can just sit here and feel stressed the fuck out. UGHHHHHHHH
/rant. I'm sorry. I needed to vent and I have no one to vent to right now and if I don't get it out I think I'm going to burst into tears just from being overwhelmed.
Oi vey. Poor Monie.
Does she have partial ownership of the house? Or is this all under the guise of being helpful Mom?
Either way it sounds like you need to straight up tell her that you appreciate her "help" but that you literally cannot put this sort of effort in right now due to your physical state.
Stress is terrible for healing, so is pushing yourself too far physically.
I know you hate conflict, but sometimes you have to put your foot down with people. Especially when it comes to your physical/mental well being.
Getting close to giving up on the dating scene...again. I've been using Tinder for about 6 months and while some good has come out of it, its mostly full of flakes and misinterpretation. Maybe I should just abandon it and give OKcupid a try, or just stay single indefinitely. The latter would certainly be better for my finances.
No real suggestions here, just something that sounds really corny but is true:
Eventually you will meet someone who will show you exactly why things didn't work out with everyone else.
Getting close to giving up on the dating scene...again. I've been using Tinder for about 6 months and while some good has come out of it, its mostly full of flakes and misinterpretation. Maybe I should just abandon it and give OKcupid a try, or just stay single indefinitely. The latter would certainly be better for my finances.
No real suggestions here, just something that sounds really corny but is true:
Eventually you will meet someone who will show you exactly why things didn't work out with everyone else.
Look at this asshole with her happiness. She's right though. Things will work out eventually. Just got to keep at it, tronik.
I would suggest giving OKC a try. Despite both having the same goal in mind, Tinder and OKC are different experiences. One might feel better to you than the other.
No real suggestions here, just something that sounds really corny but is true:
Eventually you will meet someone who will show you exactly why things didn't work out with everyone else.
Look at this asshole with her happiness. She's right though. Things will work out eventually. Just got to keep at it, tronik.
I would suggest giving OKC a try. Despite both having the same goal in mind, Tinder and OKC are different experiences. One might feel better to you than the other.
Getting close to giving up on the dating scene...again. I've been using Tinder for about 6 months and while some good has come out of it, its mostly full of flakes and misinterpretation. Maybe I should just abandon it and give OKcupid a try, or just stay single indefinitely. The latter would certainly be better for my finances.
honestly know exactly how you feel. like 2-3 years ago I really started to do a lot of dating... and like a year ago I just completely gave up. same experiences - flaky people and no one was genuine, and a lot of "yeah I'm not looking to really date anyone..." even in situations where things seemed great. and I used both tinder & OKC.
it's miserable. and I honestly have given up, so I don't know what to tell you other than I totally feel where you're coming from.
I still have my OKC profile up, but haven't responded to a message in like, 6 months. and find myself increasingly irritated anyone asks "have you seen any concerts lately?" because I irrationally get annoyed that they don't realize I'm going to concerts all the damn time. and my most recent dating adventure has turned into potentially completely ruining a really close friendship, sooo. blah. (/rant)
maybe take a break for a while and focus on friendships and put yourself out there again when you're less frustrated.
5.5/four tet, daphni b2b floating points, avalon emerson 5.12/neil young 5.19/mannequin pussy 5.21/serpentwithfeet 5.25/hozier 6.12-16/bonnaroo 6.28/goose 6.29/goose 9.17/the national + the war on drugs 9.23/sigur ros 9.27-29/making time 10.17/air
No real suggestions here, just something that sounds really corny but is true:
Eventually you will meet someone who will show you exactly why things didn't work out with everyone else.
Look at this asshole with her happiness. She's right though. Things will work out eventually. Just got to keep at it, tronik.
I would suggest giving OKC a try. Despite both having the same goal in mind, Tinder and OKC are different experiences. One might feel better to you than the other.
Definitely different experiences, but I don't think they really have the same goal in mind, unless you wanna be really broad like "potentially contact single people you might be interested in". I know a whole lot of people who just use Tinder for entertainment and never really message or contact people. I don't take that app seriously at all, though I have met up with people a few times. OKC I think is a bit more mature, though I can't say exactly why. Perhaps because there's a way to weed out people you wouldn't be a good match with? Idk. I'd definitely recommend it though.
Tronik I don't remember if we met at brunch last year (and please forgive me if we did), but from what I can tell on here/FB/Snapchat, you seem like a pretty awesome guy. Personable and fun and whatnot. Women like that. Just do your thing; enjoy your own company when alone and share it with others when you're around them. The right circumstances and people will present themselves (or so I believe, anyway). Try not to think of it as "being in the dating scene" or not - things aren't that black and white. Do the things you enjoy while single, flirt with the people you find attractive along the way, check the dating apps/websites every once in a while, but try not to get too caught up in it. Be open to being single and be open to having someone in your life. Don't push either away.
5.5/four tet, daphni b2b floating points, avalon emerson 5.12/neil young 5.19/mannequin pussy 5.21/serpentwithfeet 5.25/hozier 6.12-16/bonnaroo 6.28/goose 6.29/goose 9.17/the national + the war on drugs 9.23/sigur ros 9.27-29/making time 10.17/air
5.5/four tet, daphni b2b floating points, avalon emerson 5.12/neil young 5.19/mannequin pussy 5.21/serpentwithfeet 5.25/hozier 6.12-16/bonnaroo 6.28/goose 6.29/goose 9.17/the national + the war on drugs 9.23/sigur ros 9.27-29/making time 10.17/air
Getting close to giving up on the dating scene...again. I've been using Tinder for about 6 months and while some good has come out of it, its mostly full of flakes and misinterpretation. Maybe I should just abandon it and give OKcupid a try, or just stay single indefinitely. The latter would certainly be better for my finances.
honestly know exactly how you feel. like 2-3 years ago I really started to do a lot of dating... and like a year ago I just completely gave up. same experiences - flaky people and no one was genuine, and a lot of "yeah I'm not looking to really date anyone..." even in situations where things seemed great. and I used both tinder & OKC.
it's miserable. and I honestly have given up, so I don't know what to tell you other than I totally feel where you're coming from.
I still have my OKC profile up, but haven't responded to a message in like, 6 months. and find myself increasingly irritated anyone asks "have you seen any concerts lately?" because I irrationally get annoyed that they don't realize I'm going to concerts all the damn time. and my most recent dating adventure has turned into potentially completely ruining a really close friendship, sooo. blah. (/rant)
maybe take a break for a while and focus on friendships and put yourself out there again when you're less frustrated.
Thanks for the reassuring advice everyone! Bottom line I've been content being independent for the most part, although I always get these pangs that life (and everything entailed in it) could be better with someone to share it with. Socializing in general take a lot of energy for me (I'm book smart but people dumb) so its frustrating when I put in genuine effort and get so little back. To keep myself sane I've been doing one month on, one month off on the online dating circuit (like there is any other kind of dating circuit in this day and age). I think I'm just reaching that month period where I need to take a break, like you said smellycat.
HAH there are plenty of fine Inforoo ladies I'd love to date, but none seem to live anywhere near Denver. Also I've learned that when intra-Inforoo relationships fail things can get weird (in a bad way). Hope springs eternal.
That being said, I'm accepting applications for Bonnaroo dates! 1karen1 and Bri already have dibs on me for Gramatik I think.
HAH there are plenty of fine Inforoo ladies I'd love to date, but none seem to live anywhere near Denver. Also I've learned that when intra-Inforoo relationships fail things can get weird (in a bad way). Hope springs eternal.
That being said, I'm accepting applications for Bonnaroo dates! 1karen1 and Bri already have dibs on me for Gramatik I think.
I keep saying I want to develop a dating web site specifically for people like us who can't hold on to a relationship because of our one track mind and extravagant spending on all things music.
But maybe it would be wise to pass on the incestual Inforoo family. We're mostly a bunch of alcoholic sluts anyways.
And yes....Gramatik will be a good time. Swing style costume theme for that one. Start planning, lover.
TL;DR- selling a house sucks and my mom is making it worse.
I love my mom. I really do. But goddammit she's being so incredibly selfish and frustrating right now. We're trying to get this house ready to sell and she keeps texting me and calling me to tell me she has scheduled shit for the house. Hey, great, thanks! That's helpful. Excerpt that idk what she wants and then she doesn't show up and then gets mad at me when I "don't get the right info". The she texted me today and said the realtor wanted to come out and take exterior photos of the house because it's nice out. Ok, well we need to mulch if we're going to do that. I can't do yard work right now and she can't come over today or tomorrow to do it either, which is fine. Except that she then proceeded to get mad at me and tell me that she doesn't even know why she bothers trying to help me if I can't make "a little effort". A little effort?! You want me to get down on my hands and knees to mulch when I still can't even stand up straight without pain? It's bad enough I had to vacuum today because she didn't show up for the floor people and now my whole tummy hurts like hell.
It's just agitating that she wants all this out of me but yet she knows I am basically worthless right now. Then gets mad at me like I'm just being lazy. But then she can't come over for 5 fucking minutes to look at this paint job, or tell me what she wants for the floors, or help me with yard work or even just maybe offer a little support to calm me down when in stressed the fuck out and overwhelmed. Instead she piles more on and I literally can just sit here and feel stressed the fuck out. UGHHHHHHHH
/rant. I'm sorry. I needed to vent and I have no one to vent to right now and if I don't get it out I think I'm going to burst into tears just from being overwhelmed.
Oi vey. Poor Monie.
Does she have partial ownership of the house? Or is this all under the guise of being helpful Mom?
Either way it sounds like you need to straight up tell her that you appreciate her "help" but that you literally cannot put this sort of effort in right now due to your physical state.
Stress is terrible for healing, so is pushing yourself too far physically.
I know you hate conflict, but sometimes you have to put your foot down with people. Especially when it comes to your physical/mental well being.
We are both on the mortgage but I'm the primary. And this discussion is coming. We got into on the prone today so I kinda let it go. But tomorrow we're having Easter dinner and I'm going to bring it up after everyone is gone so as not to create a scene or anything. We're both very stubborn.
Amen on the whole online dating thing, but probably for different reasons. It takes me a lot of emotional energy to send a message on OKC. It's not like I expect a response, I'm not convinced my profile particularly highlights my strengths (whatever the fuck those are), but still not ever getting a response gets discouraging.