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Post by questionablesanity on Mar 9, 2010 15:43:20 GMT -5
Yes, good dates so far. The long distance girl emailed today and wants me to come down again tomorrow and then she invited me to see Tea Leaf Green on the 24th. The local girl wants to trade massages. I hope she knows the Lingam massage. jk, kind of.
Man Dani, a pharmacist =smart, makes good money, plays the guitar. I'm a dude but any guy that can play the guitar is more appealing. And of course he digs you silly.
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Post by GratefulHippie on Mar 9, 2010 19:19:06 GMT -5
i've recently admitted to myself that i'm in love with my best friend. everyone who's spent time with us says we should be together, but i think we both know it's not the right time. we live in different cities, and neither of us is in a stable enough life situation to move to where the other is. and we both have things we want to accomplish before being settled down. i've been getting a lot of pressure from people to say something to him, but i don't see a reason to make a great situation slightly awkward. i figure if things are supposed to work out, they will.
Good choice, Hippie. I recently had the same thing happen. I admitted to her, we basically agreed that its not a good time, and now its sorta weird. And I had lots of pressure from people beforehand to say something.
I had a similar situation recently (the best friend thing). Actually, only the pieces were the same. The board was quite different, in a manner of speaking.
Do match.com and other sites of that ilk actually work? A year's subscription seems a bit shifty to me.
Post by GratefulHippie on Mar 10, 2010 1:10:42 GMT -5
i've tried match.com before, but it was never a good fit for me. i didn't feel like it offered the kind of people i'm used to just hanging out with let alone date. but, i'm sure it's different depending on the area you're in.
I think it also depends on how much patience you have. I did it years ago and had success within a month - dated that guy for over a year. This time, it took almost 7 months before I found someone with whom I wanted to go on a second date. Not sure if any are going to pan out, but both of those guys are into music and we can talk for hours - so yeah, it keeps me motivated.
Do match.com and other sites of that ilk actually work? A year's subscription seems a bit shifty to me.
You could start by trying OkCupid. I dont know how large where you live is, but it's free and there seems to be a lot of people on it. Though having to actually pay for something probably filters out a lot of people that aren't actually looking to date but just for something to do/pass the time.
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so last night, i'm at the flogging molly show in cincinnati, checking out tshirts, and as i choose one, this cute guy over my right shoulder says "cool shirt" and gives me a big smile. i nod and smile and turn back to my transaction. ten minutes later after i've left the shirt table and he's nowhere in sight, i realize that guy was totally making a move on me. i'm sooo dense! i shoulda chatted him up! oh i hate missed opportunities!!!!!!! sigh...maybe next time!
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i've recently admitted to myself that i'm in love with my best friend. everyone who's spent time with us says we should be together, but i think we both know it's not the right time. we live in different cities, and neither of us is in a stable enough life situation to move to where the other is. and we both have things we want to accomplish before being settled down. i've been getting a lot of pressure from people to say something to him, but i don't see a reason to make a great situation slightly awkward. i figure if things are supposed to work out, they will.
So, I also experienced this same thing recently. As recently as...today! I just found out a little while ago that the girl I've liked for a while now, who happens to be one of my best friends, has liked me too. Do some obviously bad communication though, neither of us realized it and just backed off. Now we know, but she's leaving for Costa Rica in two day. She'll be gone 10 weeks. THIS is my luck with women. FML
So new boy's band is playing tonight, and he asked me to come out and watch.
I just wish I knew what was going on with my long distance thing... I'm completely upside down for this guy, and one day he talks to me nonstop and is cutesy with me, and then I don't hear from him for two days.
i've recently admitted to myself that i'm in love with my best friend. everyone who's spent time with us says we should be together, but i think we both know it's not the right time. we live in different cities, and neither of us is in a stable enough life situation to move to where the other is. and we both have things we want to accomplish before being settled down. i've been getting a lot of pressure from people to say something to him, but i don't see a reason to make a great situation slightly awkward. i figure if things are supposed to work out, they will.
So, I also experienced this same thing recently. As recently as...today! I just found out a little while ago that the girl I've liked for a while now, who happens to be one of my best friends, has liked me too. Do some obviously bad communication though, neither of us realized it and just backed off. Now we know, but she's leaving for Costa Rica in two day. She'll be gone 10 weeks. THIS is my luck with women. FML
aw...well at least the feelings are mutual! and like wolf said, she won't be gone forever. take the time while she's gone to improve something about yourself, or take on a new hobby, or read a few books you've been meaning to get into. it'll help pass the time, and in the end you'll feel better for having done something productive. and hopefully you'll be the first person she wants to talk to about her trip to CR!!
So new boy's band is playing tonight, and he asked me to come out and watch.
I just wish I knew what was going on with my long distance thing... I'm completely upside down for this guy, and one day he talks to me nonstop and is cutesy with me, and then I don't hear from him for two days.
And boys say WE'RE the confusing ones.
You're upside down for the long distance guy or the pharmacist? Either way, 2 days is nothing. People get busy. I wouldn't over analyze that....well maybe you should. I don't know. It's hard when you can't see that person on a near daily basis. In my several failed relationships, I have learned that communication is key. If you want to know what's going on with him, just ask. What's the worst that can happen? If he says that he's not totally interested, then you move on and find someone better. The new guy sounds like a winner. Especially if he's close, you already know that he's into you, he loves music, he goes to fests, he has a career, etc...
A Thieve's Parade 2/24 Conspirator 2/26 Kevin Smith 3/11 Keller 3/17 Papadosio 3/18 JJ Grey 3/25 Bela Fleck/Edgar Meyer 3/26 Toubab Krewe 3/27 O'Death 4/11 Budos Band 4/22 EOTO 4/28 Summer Camp 5/6-29 All Good
i've recently admitted to myself that i'm in love with my best friend. everyone who's spent time with us says we should be together, but i think we both know it's not the right time. we live in different cities, and neither of us is in a stable enough life situation to move to where the other is. and we both have things we want to accomplish before being settled down. i've been getting a lot of pressure from people to say something to him, but i don't see a reason to make a great situation slightly awkward. i figure if things are supposed to work out, they will.
So, I also experienced this same thing recently. As recently as...today! I just found out a little while ago that the girl I've liked for a while now, who happens to be one of my best friends, has liked me too. Do some obviously bad communication though, neither of us realized it and just backed off. Now we know, but she's leaving for Costa Rica in two day. She'll be gone 10 weeks. THIS is my luck with women. FML
I have a friend who recently reconnected with a former high school flame. They dated for two weeks, then she went to Kuwait for four months. She came back, they got engaged and will be married shortly. If it's real, then you can outlast a short period of separation. Although, I still believe that long term long distance relationships do not work. The girl I'm semi seeing right now lives about an hour and fifteen minutes away. The only reason that I'm considering it is because 1. she's awesome 2. She wants to move to Bloomington. There is no way that I would consider dating someone that lived that far away for a long period of time. But I'm a pessimist/realist.
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So new boy's band is playing tonight, and he asked me to come out and watch.
I just wish I knew what was going on with my long distance thing... I'm completely upside down for this guy, and one day he talks to me nonstop and is cutesy with me, and then I don't hear from him for two days.
And boys say WE'RE the confusing ones.
You're upside down for the long distance guy or the pharmacist? Either way, 2 days is nothing. People get busy. I wouldn't over analyze that....well maybe you should. I don't know. It's hard when you can't see that person on a near daily basis. In my several failed relationships, I have learned that communication is key. If you want to know what's going on with him, just ask. What's the worst that can happen? If he says that he's not totally interested, then you move on and find someone better. The new guy sounds like a winner. Especially if he's close, you already know that he's into you, he loves music, he goes to fests, he has a career, etc...
Long distance boy is who I am upside down about, he just makes me giddy. It's not that simple as just letting him go, we had a thing, and now we don't, or do, I'm not really sure. But I really want us to work out, I just think he is my it.
New boy's band played tonight, it was nice, he's a great singer, he walked me to my car after the show. ;D
texas girls are the shit, im in love with a girl in texas
well thank ya
but i'm sorry to hear of your distance dilemma. how did you end up in love from so far away?
kind of a long story but: She used to live here. Met in class but she was engauged at the time but we'd hang out all the time as her fiancé hated corn. Over time we became really great friends but nothing ever came of it even though it was obvious to the both of us that it should. Eventually her dad offered her a spot in a building he owns in Texas to open her own jewelery store. Her and her fiancé moved out there and about year ago they ended up breaking up. I went out there for a week in September and it was one of the best weeks of my life. So now we talk as much as we can but it's like we don't even need to. In sept we hadn't seen each other in a year other thank talking every week or two and the second we saw each other it was like we were a newly married couple. Walking around her little north Texas town, everyone kept coming up to her saying things like "i can't believe you've never brought your husband out before," not knowing that I had just flown in the day before and until that week we were strictly great platonic friends. I can't move right now and she has her business so she can't move right now either so it is what it is. She's trying to get away and meet me at bonnaroo but it all depends on if she can get away(money, business and what not) I hope she makes it but i'm trying not to get to excited about her being there until i know for sure she will and as of now it doesnt look like she's going to be able to make it.
I was having a nuts -tastic day on Sunday, so my girlfriend took me out for a few beers and then we went back to her place to make some pizzas and drink cheap wine. She also called up her friend, Ron, to come join us. He's 26, a pharmacist, plays guitar, is taller than me and is going to Jazz Fest AND Bonnaroo! We talked about music all night and then he brought out his guitar and asked me to hoop while he played. Swoon.
He texted me this morning and said he digs me and wants to hang out again. I mentioned that this Friday is my girlfriend's b-day... he is coming out with us. I'm pretty excited.
We'll see though, you guys know how I feel about the younger men...
age is just a number! (of course coming from the 50 year old lady who WOULD say that lol). Seriously, though, sounds like a great guy. Let us know how it works out.
but i'm sorry to hear of your distance dilemma. how did you end up in love from so far away?
kind of a long story but: She used to live here. Met in class but she was engauged at the time but we'd hang out all the time as her fiancé hated corn. Over time we became really great friends but nothing ever came of it even though it was obvious to the both of us that it should. Eventually her dad offered her a spot in a building he owns in Texas to open her own jewelery store. Her and her fiancé moved out there and about year ago they ended up breaking up. I went out there for a week in September and it was one of the best weeks of my life. So now we talk as much as we can but it's like we don't even need to. In sept we hadn't seen each other in a year other thank talking every week or two and the second we saw each other it was like we were a newly married couple. Walking around her little north Texas town, everyone kept coming up to her saying things like "i can't believe you've never brought your husband out before," not knowing that I had just flown in the day before and until that week we were strictly great platonic friends. I can't move right now and she has her business so she can't move right now either so it is what it is. She's trying to get away and meet me at bonnaroo but it all depends on if she can get away(money, business and what not) I hope she makes it but i'm trying not to get to excited about her being there until i know for sure she will and as of now it doesnt look like she's going to be able to make it.
so thats the short version i guess...
that's quite a story. timing sucks. at least mine does. the friend i'm in love with used to live right across the street from me. at first, i wanted something, but he wasn't ready. then he wanted something, but i'd started dating someone else. after i broke up with that guy, we started hanging out more just as friends, but then it became physical. however, neither of us felt ready for the kind of seriousness that would come from us being together. it's one of those things where if we're going to be together it would have to be because that was it for us. we can't just casually date. but he's everything i want in a man...smart, educated, ambitious, likes corn, loves music. we just compliment each other really well.
he's since moved to dallas, which is about a 3hr drive or so, and i'm in school, so obviously i'm not going anywhere. but, we've been able to maintain being best friends, as well as having the physical aspect when we're together. it works for us right now, and after 3 years, we're closer than ever because of it. however, bad timing is the story of my life. maybe someday.
Post by questionablesanity on Mar 11, 2010 10:50:39 GMT -5
I had another wonderful date last night w/ long distance girl. We met for lunch, took a long stroll by the river, talked for hours, had a community dinner. She may come up on Friday for some local music.
Dani, don't let go of the giddiness, but I'd keep talking to the pharmacist.
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I had another wonderful date last night w/ long distance girl. We met for lunch, took a long stroll by the river, talked for hours, had a community dinner. She may come up on Friday for some local music.
yay!!! that's wonderful! i'm in total agreement with you about long distance relationships, but if this chick is only a little over an hour away, i wouldn't write her off if she's as cool as you say. she could very well be worth the extra effort needed to see her. i don't think an hour is unreasonable. much more than that, however, and i'm probably going to look elsewhere.
I had another wonderful date last night w/ long distance girl. We met for lunch, took a long stroll by the river, talked for hours, had a community dinner. She may come up on Friday for some local music.
yay!!! that's wonderful! i'm in total agreement with you about long distance relationships, but if this chick is only a little over an hour away, i wouldn't write her off if she's as cool as you say. she could very well be worth the extra effort needed to see her. i don't think an hour is unreasonable. much more than that, however, and i'm probably going to look elsewhere.
The hour and change drive isn't really that bad. It gives me time to listen to about two cds there and two on the way back. She is that cool. She's a total hippie, has lived in Thailand, Central America, India, has been within 10 feet of the Dalai Lama etc... She loves music and shows, however she went to the first Bonnaroo and said has since sworn off big festivals. She is a very free spirit but responsible.
It's kind of silly but the one thing that I worry about is a very slight difference in lifestyles. She is pro health everything, especially food. I eat garbage all day and night. I guess if it works out, then she'll get me eating right. meh. it's a silly thing to worry about I guess. But for the past few years, I've started looking at women as potential long term mates rather than having fun in the moment. So I worry about the little things that could cause problems down the road. I have dated several vegetarians recently and it always seemed like they looked down on me because I ate meat. Weird huh? That was one of the first things I asked this girl was if she was a veg. She said absolutely not because she used to be and she lost way too much weight. So I got that going for me.
She has just started life coaching, which I always thought was lame until we talked for a couple of hours and realized how much I could benefit from something like that. She is starting a business with her room mate that will consist of life coaching, massage, diet planning, etc... They have an organic garden in their backyard. They have interns who live their and do a lot of the work for them. They already have several clients which seems odd to me since they are in a tiny town in Southern Indiana.
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So, adorable pharmacist boy has been texting lil ol' me all day long just to say hey. It's cute. I love it. He's already asked if he can take me out after Lent is over for some BBQ, since I mentioned that I was suffering from withdrawls AND when I said that maybe we should meet up for a show at Roo, he said, "Well, maybe we should just camp beside each other." He also wants to go to Hangout now that I said I was going. God, I love festie-type boys. He wants to be on the rail for everything (like me), he wants to dance until the sun comes up (like me), he plays guitar, he sings, he's in a band, he cute, he's taller than me, he wants to hang out with me and my friends and he texts me for no reason. Too freakin' cute.
Long distance boy on the other hand... nadda, nothing, zilch, zero, zip, bupkiss.
Tomorrow night is my girl's bday, and the pharmacist is coming out with us. We are headed to the Champagne Bar and then going dancing. If the pharmacist can handle 20 drunk girls dancing to bad techno, cheap Champagne and heaps of sloppy toasts for a whole evening, we may have a winner.