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i love bonnaroo, i went in 05 and loved every minute of it. i went back last year with my wife and we had a rough experience. as you all know it was a lot hotter and insanely dusty. she got some kind of rash so wasn't in the best mood. plus we got lost the first night and didn't find our tent until the sun came up and sat. night the dj's kept us up all night, so there wasn't much sleep. she was pretty miserable the entire time. she loved the music but she hated everything else. she had told me that she never wanted to go back. but i still want to go of course. since i want to go so much she has said that she would go back. but now i'm thinking, i don't want her to be miserable again. she doesn't even like the lineup near as much as last year's. what should i do?
Me. I wouldn't go with her and go with buddies. I'd just say to her remember all the issues you had when we went last time. You didn't have fun. I want fun with no complaints. So I'm going with my buddies this year. or say If you go no complints. remeber it maybe hot,wet,dusty and we will get lost but it's ok. It's about 3 days of no work and fun. I hope I was helpful.
Me. I wouldn't go with her and go with buddies. I'd just say to her remember all the issues you had when we went last time. You didn't have fun. I want fun with no complaints. So I'm going with my buddies this year. or say If you go no complints. remeber it maybe hot,wet,dusty and we will get lost but it's ok. It's about 3 days of no work and fun. I hope I was helpful.
yea, i don't really hang out with anyone that would go to bonnaroo. either they wouldn't be able to afford it or just wouldn't be interested. also, we have only been married for a year and a half and we have never been apart for a night. so it would be hard for me to go away for 4 days. i really want to go, but it's looking like i shouldn't. i'm giving myself a consolation prize though, 2 radiohead shows and the mars volta.
Go by yourself; she may actually be more comfortable with that than knowing you're going wild with your single guys. By June you'll know many of us and can join up to camp with a posse of Inforoosters!
I know last year I was a bit of a drag to my hubby. I got a bit messed up, got tired, made him get up in the middle of the night and hold my hand to the pota potties because the fog freaked me out, whined some and wasn't the ball of fun I usually am. Now that I am prepared I think this year will kick-arse. Possibly the same could be for your wife....
We had a very similar time last year. My wife has asthma and the dust almost killed her.
I hear VIP is worth every penny. Just a thought... Good Luck! We hope to see ya'll there!
we have talked about that. is vip really worth it? we have also talked about staying somewhere else instead of camping, is that even possible? we have talked about what we can do differently to make it better for her and she had agreed to go. i'm just thinking i don't want her to go back and be miserable again, because it took away from my experience as well.
You have the expensive option....go VIP and there will be at least a few more creature comforts for her to feel a little more comfortable.
Or the cheap option. Go to bonnaroo with friends like the above poster said or by yourself...but this is the clencher. Take the money you would have spent on the ticket and leave it for her to go shopping with and a spa day or something. When you come back you'll be happy you went to roo and she'll be happy and relaxed. And she might be so happy when you get back that you might have a little something to post in the Sex at Bonnaroo thread (even though it wasn't at bonnaroo).
Post by destination5250 on Feb 15, 2008 11:37:14 GMT -5
Go to Wakarusa or another festival. I know wakarusa appeals more to a family environment, but still has the good ol' festie vibe. Lake to go swimming, shuttles if you don't want to walk the whole time (or take a bike), and a hell of a lot of good music.
Go by yourself; she may actually be more comfortable with that than knowing you're going wild with your single guys. By June you'll know many of us and can join up to camp with a posse of Inforoosters!
I know last year I was a bit of a drag to my hubby. I got a bit messed up, got tired, made him get up in the middle of the night and hold my hand to the pota potties because the fog freaked me out, whined some and wasn't the ball of fun I usually am. Now that I am prepared I think this year will kick-arse. Possibly the same could be for your wife....
i don't think she would want me to go by myself. like i said we haven t even been apart for a day. my cousin has been to bonnaroo before and i thought if she went along it would be better for my wife, to have someone there. because i like to go all day and night. i don't go back to the tent or anything, i watch music the entire time. if she had someone that would take a break with her i think that would be better. but my cousin doesn't want to go because she doesn't like the lineup. and we don't really have any other friends that would go.
You have the expensive option....go VIP and there will be at least a few more creature comforts for her to feel a little more comfortable.
Or the cheap option. Go to bonnaroo with friends like the above poster said or by yourself...but this is the clencher. Take the money you would have spent on the ticket and leave it for her to go shopping with and a spa day or something. When you come back you'll be happy you went to roo and she'll be happy and relaxed. And she might be so happy when you get back that you might have a little something to post in the Sex at Bonnaroo thread (even though it wasn't at bonnaroo).
that sounds good. that's what i'm looking for. thanks. i will run that by her.
Go to Wakarusa or another festival. I know wakarusa appeals more to a family environment, but still has the good ol' festie vibe. Lake to go swimming, shuttles if you don't want to walk the whole time (or take a bike), and a hell of a lot of good music.
we want to go to that new festival in michigan. we both think the lineup is better than roo this year and it looks like it is made for more comfort. but it's too far away and expensive for us to do.
Check out the KOA campground that is behind Bonnaroo - there are several people on here that stay at hotels and just come in for the day - VIP is a good option - or trying to rent an RV
The other option - get her on Inforoo - let her make friends out of a bunch of us and she will always have someone to stop and take a break with if you wanna keep going.
If you go - hook up with a bunch of Inforooers either in Tent Only or at Wal-mart or a pre determined spot and caravan in so that you can camp close together - that way - she will have people to take breaks with.
Another option is try renting somthing with AC. like a Rv or a truck or van. Bring an extra gas can. Take extra naps in there during the day. bring a big funny flag so you know where u parked.
My wife likes the lineups at Bonnarroo, but will freely admit to not enjoying a sing;e second of the event. So I leave her at home and go with a group of friends. If I didn't have them, I'd go it alone and meet up with some of these Inforoo knuckleheads in Camping Only.
As far as not being apart from your wife for a night...you gotta' cut that cord sometime. Nobody can stay sane in a marriage like that. Just take your cellphone and extra batteries so that you can check in from time to time. My wife requires one phone call a day when I'm at Bonnaroo, so I usually call in the morning so that my 'lack of memory' later in the day doesn't bite me in the a$$.
My wife likes the lineups at Bonnarroo, but will freely admit to not enjoying a sing;e second of the event. So I leave her at home and go with a group of friends. If I didn't have them, I'd go it alone and meet up with some of these Inforoo knuckleheads in Camping Only.
As far as not being apart from your wife for a night...you gotta' cut that cord sometime. Nobody can stay sane in a marriage like that. Just take your cellphone and extra batteries so that you can check in from time to time. My wife requires one phone call a day when I'm at Bonnaroo, so I usually call in the morning so that my 'lack of memory' later in the day doesn't bite me in the a$$.
I concur you are going to drive yourself crazy if you get no you time.
Close your eyes. Picture a convict. What's he wearing? Nothing special, baseball cap on backwards, baggy pants... he says something ordinary like... 'yo, thats shizzle.' Okay. Now slowly open your eyes again. Who are you picturing? A black man? Wrong. That was a white woman. Surprised? Well, shame on you.
As far as not being apart from your wife for a night...you gotta' cut that cord sometime. Nobody can stay sane in a marriage like that. Just take your cellphone and extra batteries so that you can check in from time to time. My wife requires one phone call a day when I'm at Bonnaroo, so I usually call in the morning so that my 'lack of memory' later in the day doesn't bite me in the a$$.
I concur you are going to drive yourself crazy if you get no you time.
coming from a wife - they are right - while I would not let Boz go to Bonnaroo without me - he gets to go to other shows without me - he has been to WSP; Allman Brothers and quite a few others that I was not interested in.
You gotta have different hobbies or the marriage will get old and clingy very very quickly
Post by trippindaisy on Feb 15, 2008 13:24:11 GMT -5
What about staying in a hotel nearby and driving in each day?
I live in Nashville and I am a camping hating female. So I drive in each day (about an hour drive) and have loved doing it that way. The drive home at night kind of sucks but it is better than camping and I get to sleep in my own bed and shower ;D
The others are right. If she doesn't care, then go without her. I would happily go alone if my fiance didn't want to go and he would be fine with it also. You have to be apart at some point in your marriage or things will get really old - I assume you are newly weds?..... My fiancee is on the road for 4 months atm so doing our own thing is necessary in our relationship
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My wife is not into the whole hot, 4-day camping thing either. So I go alone every year. But we've been married almost 16 years, so she's probably happy to be rid of me for a few days! ;D
My wife is not into the whole hot, 4-day camping thing either. So I go alone every year. But we've been married almost 16 years, so she's probably happy to be rid of me for a few days! ;D
VIP is a very good option. Just being better prepared is also an option. Many of the problems you had the first time around won't happen with a little bit of planning. Bring earplugs so you can sleep. Make note of your campsite and nearby landmarks so you don't get lost. There are great sources on this site and you can also make some friends before the event so that Bonnaroo isn't 80,000 strangers.
Dude i have been married for 15 years and my wife IS NOT a festie goer! She goes to roo for like one or two shows each year but that is it (we live right beside roo, so she can go home when she wants) But i also do Allgood, Echo, and have been to Vegoose and some smaller shows and she simply stays at home.
Its only a weekend and for us, its good to be apart for a few days, amkes us real happy to see each other when i get home, and I get to have a great time at fests and not worry about her being miserable.
Granted now, our marriage has a HUGE amount of trust that we have built in those 15 years and i would NEVER do anything at a fest to betray my wifes trust. Hell she let me go to Vegoose with teine and two female roosters she had never met (crazykitten and Tara).
So, if you have that level of trust in your marriage, then you should go alone or with buddies. Inforoo has been great for a lone festie goer like me as i have met some great people on here that i hang out with at fests. (where you at wooz!!!)
Post by trippindaisy on Feb 15, 2008 14:49:04 GMT -5
^^^^
I totally agree. It is good for the relationship to do stuff like this apart sometimes. Of course you have to have the trust, but my fiancee is on a tour bus and gone for months at a time, so you know we have total trust in each other for our relationship to endure that. It would never occur to him that I would do anything to break that trust while I am at Roo and I wouldn't.
Post by localweather on Feb 15, 2008 15:16:54 GMT -5
It's a challenge sometimes when you're married to actually do something where you are completely separated from your spouse for several days participating in something not related to family or business.
I have been to Bonnaroo twice without my wife, she has zero interest in going but she understands that I have more fun there than anything else I will do all year. It's about trust and I am not about to do anything stupid to violate that trust. That being said, there are only three things I am not allowed to do at Bonnaroo:
1. Get arrested 2. Get killed 3. Have sex
As long as I follow those rules, I can continue to go to festivals and have my kind of fun.
I compare it to a hunting or fishing trip. Many men do this sort of thing. I don't really care to hunt or fish, but I love partying at rock shows, so that's my "guy's getaway" weekend thing.
The only downside is that I know my wife gets tired of hearing all my stories after the first day or so that I am back home.
Post by jm.squared on Feb 15, 2008 15:17:04 GMT -5
jmkm said:
Talk her into VIP... ?
We had a very similar time last year. My wife has asthma and the dust almost killed her.
I hear VIP is worth every penny. Just a thought... Good Luck! We hope to see ya'll there!
^^said wife here - i LOVED bonnaroo last year, but yeah it did almost kill me... i think i was more disappointed than anything that i was too beat to catch more shows than we did, just due to pure exhaustion... and i'm not generally one who complains a lot, but not being able breathe can get pretty scary when you're in the middle of 80k people...
i don't want to miss bonnaroo but i can't make it through another 4 days like last year... so it's VIP for us, likely in a camper. it's not really the bed/shower issue for me, just being able to sleep/breathe if only for a few hours at a time...
as far as the whole not being away from each other thing, the BH and i have only been married since Sept, but he dropped me off at the airport on the last day of our honeymoon because i had to go on a business trip and it SUCKED... however, i don't think she should go just for you and i don't think you should miss it just for her... figure out what you can do to make her comfortable... it's all about compromise right?
thanks everyone. we will give vip a look and we had also talked about that koa campground or a hotel. i didn't know you could go in and out of the festival every night like that. so we may do that. but while i was asking for opinions i had pretty much made up my mind not to go anyway. now i'm making plans to see radiohead 2 nights in a row. so we may not be able to afford bonnaroo anyway. but you all gave some good advice for future years. so thanks.
Post by Britney's_Fears on Feb 15, 2008 15:57:19 GMT -5
My wife has no interest in going to Roo. But she knows I love it so she sends me off with her blessings.
I was married before to a woman that wouldn't let me out of her sight. AND IT SUUUCKED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I love the marriage that I'm in now because we understand the value of leaving each other the hell alone every now and then to do our own thing. (except have sex with other people) Of course if I was interested in sleeping around I wouldn't be married.
I also can't find anyone who can go with me. So I'm going alone and I'm going to have a BLAST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Bonnaroo here I come!!!!!!!!!!!! All of my neighbors will become my friends anyway.
The only thing my wife hates is hearing "Bonnaroo, Bonnaroo, Bonnaroo, etc. etc, etc. " for three months.
Yes you will have a blast, not that I can say that this year is my forst as well.
My lady, a love created by gathering of the vibes 2007 and I just talked about the bill tonight and she is as she says "MOIST" she is content with the line up and agrees the diversity thing and the seeing how it all plays out is what makes it keen. Now if she is going well thats up in the air. But no matter she met me as TRIP TOY and discovered the many peole ( A collective of Decent Souls) aka Trip toy Nation and well to say the least we were in love and didnt know it.
My point is Im lucky we met at a fest so its kinda like my hair color its something thats not gonna change and doesn't have to be cause we are chill.
I would say just keep doin what your doing till you find the best solution and maybe she will be encouraged to be more hyped or not factor it all and see what plays out. I think its really really really really cool you are being so considerate, but then again thats prolly one of the reasons she married ya!
Post by Capttrips25 on Feb 16, 2008 9:32:07 GMT -5
sangreal said:
i love bonnaroo, i went in 05 and loved every minute of it. i went back last year with my wife and we had a rough experience. as you all know it was a lot hotter and insanely dusty. she got some kind of rash so wasn't in the best mood. plus we got lost the first night and didn't find our tent until the sun came up and sat. night the dj's kept us up all night, so there wasn't much sleep. she was pretty miserable the entire time. she loved the music but she hated everything else. she had told me that she never wanted to go back. but i still want to go of course. since i want to go so much she has said that she would go back. but now i'm thinking, i don't want her to be miserable again. she doesn't even like the lineup near as much as last year's. what should i do?
I have the same problem. BUT, My wife said she just wanted to stay home with the kids and I can go by my self. SO, Im going with a group of guys and we will just be able to have fun with no strings attached. PRETTY COOL!
We love our wives but sometime they make us do crap we just don't want to do. It will be nice to see the acts I want to see this year.
i love bonnaroo, i went in 05 and loved every minute of it. i went back last year with my wife and we had a rough experience. as you all know it was a lot hotter and insanely dusty. she got some kind of rash so wasn't in the best mood. plus we got lost the first night and didn't find our tent until the sun came up and sat. night the dj's kept us up all night, so there wasn't much sleep. she was pretty miserable the entire time. she loved the music but she hated everything else. she had told me that she never wanted to go back. but i still want to go of course. since i want to go so much she has said that she would go back. but now i'm thinking, i don't want her to be miserable again. she doesn't even like the lineup near as much as last year's. what should i do?