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So any ideas for someone who doesn't feel comfortable in their own skin? If we are going to make this a therapy session. I don't bother trying to do online dating because of a really bad experience in early 2020, and bad dates across 2019 through those services -- I didn't feel, um, attractive to 90% of the people I'd even get a match with. It felt like they had given up or were seeking to confirm if another relationship was more valuable (I was told three times, that they were pursuing someone specific afterwards -- because I can also be very open with my emotions and sexually related topics).
It threw me completely off and that was me AFTER trying to get over a long term relationship with someone that people here even met. Which is a lot, for me - that you all knew her and I find it difficult to date or branch out.. (or go to a bar, especially with my current panic attacks).
So any ideas for someone who doesn't feel comfortable in their own skin? If we are going to make this a therapy session. I don't bother trying to do online dating because of a really bad experience in early 2020, and bad dates across 2019 through those services -- I didn't feel, um, attractive to 90% of the people I'd even get a match with. It felt like they had given up or were seeking to confirm if another relationship was more valuable (I was told three times, that they were pursuing someone specific afterwards -- because I can also be very open with my emotions and sexually related topics).
It threw me completely off and that was me AFTER trying to get over a long term relationship with someone that people here even met. Which is a lot, for me - that you all knew her and I find it difficult to date or branch out.. (or go to a bar, especially with my current panic attacks).
So where do I even start?
For self love, I suggest the mirror love exercise.
Every single day stand naked in front of your mirror and say the things that you love about yourself. The first day is going to be really difficult and pretty emotional. But every day you build upon that and you find more things that you love about yourself. This is very important because your body and image changes so this helps you as you grow and as you change to continue to love things about yourself.
The longer and more consistent that you do this exercise the more self-love you get for yourself. I personally believe that it's a game changer. It's hard, it's rough, it's emotional, but in the end you'll become more comfortable and confident in yourself.
So any ideas for someone who doesn't feel comfortable in their own skin? If we are going to make this a therapy session. I don't bother trying to do online dating because of a really bad experience in early 2020, and bad dates across 2019 through those services -- I didn't feel, um, attractive to 90% of the people I'd even get a match with. It felt like they had given up or were seeking to confirm if another relationship was more valuable (I was told three times, that they were pursuing someone specific afterwards -- because I can also be very open with my emotions and sexually related topics).
It threw me completely off and that was me AFTER trying to get over a long term relationship with someone that people here even met. Which is a lot, for me - that you all knew her and I find it difficult to date or branch out.. (or go to a bar, especially with my current panic attacks).
So where do I even start?
Online dating I think is very difficult if you try to take it seriously. In my experience its more of a volume shooter's game where you may luck out and find something that works for you but most people are basically casually going on a few dates because it generally lends itself to low effort, you likely don't have connections to the person like seeing them at work or something, and severing ties is pretty easy. That's not to say that it is impossible or anything but personally I never found anything via online dating other than relatively casual fun and weird dates that made ok stories.
Feeling comfortable in your own skin is its own battle for sure. As a relatively odd duck myself I think at some point I just had to accept that what makes me feel like I stick out is a point in my favor, even if my preference is to fly under the radar. No real advice here other than hopefully its a comfort that we are all stuck in our own skulls hoping people can't tell we are a bit insecure.
That's one hardcore troll to get her to expose her account, daaamn boi
She knows my feelings. I found my first apartment in Richmond on CraigsList. It was an old Marshmallow factory from the 1930’s that had been renovated into apartments.
Sex is great and all but have you ever lived in a place that smelled like marshmallows all the time?
So any ideas for someone who doesn't feel comfortable in their own skin? If we are going to make this a therapy session. I don't bother trying to do online dating because of a really bad experience in early 2020, and bad dates across 2019 through those services -- I didn't feel, um, attractive to 90% of the people I'd even get a match with. It felt like they had given up or were seeking to confirm if another relationship was more valuable (I was told three times, that they were pursuing someone specific afterwards -- because I can also be very open with my emotions and sexually related topics).
It threw me completely off and that was me AFTER trying to get over a long term relationship with someone that people here even met. Which is a lot, for me - that you all knew her and I find it difficult to date or branch out.. (or go to a bar, especially with my current panic attacks).
So where do I even start?
Online dating I think is very difficult if you try to take it seriously. In my experience its more of a volume shooter's game where you may luck out and find something that works for you but most people are basically casually going on a few dates because it generally lends itself to low effort, you likely don't have connections to the person like seeing them at work or something, and severing ties is pretty easy. That's not to say that it is impossible or anything but personally I never found anything via online dating other than relatively casual fun and weird dates that made ok stories.
Feeling comfortable in your own skin is its own battle for sure. As a relatively odd duck myself I think at some point I just had to accept that what makes me feel like I stick out is a point in my favor, even if my preference is to fly under the radar. No real advice here other than hopefully its a comfort that we are all stuck in our own skulls hoping people can't tell we are a bit insecure.
Everything here resonates. But I'll expose myself. I feel uncomfortable being the black friend in my friend groups (no, inforoo is not the only situation where this exists). I have a complex situation where I've felt like the token pickup and also that because I'm not the typical look I'm just ugly. I'll say it straight up, my lack of self confidence is deep and I go to therapy to deal with my anxiety and depression. (This conversation could go so many directions that I don't have a last line)
Online dating I think is very difficult if you try to take it seriously. In my experience its more of a volume shooter's game where you may luck out and find something that works for you but most people are basically casually going on a few dates because it generally lends itself to low effort, you likely don't have connections to the person like seeing them at work or something, and severing ties is pretty easy. That's not to say that it is impossible or anything but personally I never found anything via online dating other than relatively casual fun and weird dates that made ok stories.
Feeling comfortable in your own skin is its own battle for sure. As a relatively odd duck myself I think at some point I just had to accept that what makes me feel like I stick out is a point in my favor, even if my preference is to fly under the radar. No real advice here other than hopefully its a comfort that we are all stuck in our own skulls hoping people can't tell we are a bit insecure.
Everything here resonates. But I'll expose myself. I feel uncomfortable being the black friend in my friend groups (no, inforoo is not the only situation where this exists). I have a complex situation where I've felt like the token pickup and also that because I'm not the typical look I'm just ugly. I'll say it straight up, my lack of self confidence is deep and I go to therapy to deal with my anxiety and depression. (This conversation could go so many directions that I don't have a last line)
Yeah man I would imagine visibly sticking out would only exacerbate those feelings for sure. This is not remotely meant to invalidate what you are saying, but personally I think of the insecurity as being a state and then whatever the reasons are that I feel the insecurity are just the path I chose to get there. If I wasn't insecure about one thing, I would find another reason to be insecure. Ultimately sounds like you are taking the steps already to deal with that, but inevitably if we have an intangible feeling we will find some sort of tangible thing to ascribe it to. Hopefully that doesnt sound like acid casualty gibberish.
Online dating I think is very difficult if you try to take it seriously. In my experience its more of a volume shooter's game where you may luck out and find something that works for you but most people are basically casually going on a few dates because it generally lends itself to low effort, you likely don't have connections to the person like seeing them at work or something, and severing ties is pretty easy. That's not to say that it is impossible or anything but personally I never found anything via online dating other than relatively casual fun and weird dates that made ok stories.
Feeling comfortable in your own skin is its own battle for sure. As a relatively odd duck myself I think at some point I just had to accept that what makes me feel like I stick out is a point in my favor, even if my preference is to fly under the radar. No real advice here other than hopefully its a comfort that we are all stuck in our own skulls hoping people can't tell we are a bit insecure.
Everything here resonates. But I'll expose myself. I feel uncomfortable being the black friend in my friend groups (no, inforoo is not the only situation where this exists). I have a complex situation where I've felt like the token pickup and also that because I'm not the typical look I'm just ugly. I'll say it straight up, my lack of self confidence is deep and I go to therapy to deal with my anxiety and depression. (This conversation could go so many directions that I don't have a last line)
Speaking for myself, and probably a bunch of others - I like you because of you, and it doesn't matter that you're black.
I kinda get the whole being an oddball in the group (spectrum), but you're not just "the black friend".
Do you have self image issues because of being black, or something else?
Everything here resonates. But I'll expose myself. I feel uncomfortable being the black friend in my friend groups (no, inforoo is not the only situation where this exists). I have a complex situation where I've felt like the token pickup and also that because I'm not the typical look I'm just ugly. I'll say it straight up, my lack of self confidence is deep and I go to therapy to deal with my anxiety and depression. (This conversation could go so many directions that I don't have a last line)
Speaking for myself, and probably a bunch of others - I like you because of you, and it doesn't matter that you're black.
I kinda get the whole being an oddball in the group (spectrum), but you're not just "the black friend".
Do you have self image issues because of being black, or something else?
This is complicated so I'll break it into parts.
1) Being the odd person out when it comes to cultural discussions, that sometimes are related to me being a black nerd and not a black athlete or sports enthusiast; makes things more difficult. I am an oddbird in my own group to say it plainly, adding on then not being..."white" enough is a thing. I'm working on it.
2) I have been picked out as a black guy as the person to have a one night stand, and it would be absolute bullshit for someone to think that has not ever happened in gentrified Brooklyn/Queens.
3) I have self image issues with not having enough positive experiences with black women, and having to figure out if it's all circumstance - how I was raised by the media - or if something is wrong with me. It get's very complicated and I don't know how to explain that there is a deep guilt associated with not dating in your own racial group thrown on you too - and you are dealing with that ideal/trauma at the same time. Especially when the average is leaning towards white women and that will gain you judgement by your extended family.
I got too many pages behind to read through it all. But if this hasn't been posted already, for those who really do want to hook up at Bonnaroo and don't have the "I wanted to until I got there" mindset, Tinder apparently has a new festival hookup setting. Get yours today!
I got too many pages behind to read through it all. But for those who really do want to hook up at Bonnaroo and don't have the "I wanted to until I got there" mindset, Tinder apparently has a new festival hookup setting. Get yours today!
I got too many pages behind to read through it all. But for those who really do want to hook up at Bonnaroo and don't have the "I wanted to until I got there" mindset, Tinder apparently has a new festival hookup setting. Get yours today!
They brought it back? I think tinder had something similar a couple of years ago.
I know absolutely nothing about dating/hookup apps and have no social media profiles at all. But the article seems to indicate this is a newer enhancement to their application. So maybe it's something similar?
They brought it back? I think tinder had something similar a couple of years ago.
I know absolutely nothing about dating/hookup apps and have no social media profiles at all. But the article seems to indicate this is a newer enhancement to their application. So maybe it's something similar?
I feel like I've seen "festival mode" before but this might be an updated version.
For self love, I suggest the mirror love exercise.
Every single day stand naked in front of your mirror and say the things that you love about yourself. The first day is going to be really difficult and pretty emotional. But every day you build upon that and you find more things that you love about yourself. This is very important because your body and image changes so this helps you as you grow and as you change to continue to love things about yourself.
So, I like my personality. I'm smart, funny, have tons of adventures, have varied interests. There's plenty I like about myself, and there's plenty that people should like about me.
Now this flesh prison in which I inhabit, it's meh. But, that's a discussion for another day.
For self love, I suggest the mirror love exercise.
Every single day stand naked in front of your mirror and say the things that you love about yourself. The first day is going to be really difficult and pretty emotional. But every day you build upon that and you find more things that you love about yourself. This is very important because your body and image changes so this helps you as you grow and as you change to continue to love things about yourself.
So, I like my personality. I'm smart, funny, have tons of adventures, have varied interests. There's plenty I like about myself, and there's plenty that people should like about me.
Now this flesh prison in which I inhabit, it's meh. But, that's a discussion for another day.
We will fight over this, but your flesh person means a lot less than your personality if you use bonzai's strategy of more contact and putting yourself out there. And finding your stride and ease, what works for you does matter.
Being stuck in a mind prison is a bitch. Because it involves finding validation for your state of being, and Vieux knows that my problem is that I do not like myself.
Almost forgot to mention that I brought this up to friends last night and we talked about this for awhile (and thanked me for bringing the conversation starter).
Welcome back Bonz, but I do not find it strange that your presence being requested in the Orgy thread and then you showing up, like it was the quacking Bonzai Bat Signal.
We're all a mess of paradoxes. Believing in things we know can't be true. We walk around carrying feelings too complicated and contradictory to express. But when it all becomes too big, and words aren't enough to help get it all out, there's always music.
We're all a mess of paradoxes. Believing in things we know can't be true. We walk around carrying feelings too complicated and contradictory to express. But when it all becomes too big, and words aren't enough to help get it all out, there's always music.
but I do not find it strange that your presence being requested in the Orgy thread and then you showing up, like it was the quacking Bonzai Bat Signal. 
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