Whether it's your first Bonnaroo or you’re a music festival veteran, we welcome you to Inforoo.
Here you'll find info about artists, rumors, camping tips, and the infamous Roo Clues. Have a look around then create an account and join in the fun. See you at Bonnaroo!!
Post by bojangles22 on Feb 16, 2007 16:11:33 GMT -5
my Step-sisters wedding is soon.... she used to be such a cool person(lying a bit), the dude she's gettin hiched to seems to be a total joke from any concievable angle. Plus, planning every detail to a wedding seems like such a stressful task that over-runs all flavor for the pourpose. Also it's expensive as hell. Why can't people just do the thing cheaply and save all that money for the honeymoon?!?!
my Step-sisters wedding is soon.... she used to be such a cool person(lying a bit), the dude she's gettin hiched to seems to be a total joke from any concievable angle. Plus, planning every detail to a wedding seems like such a stressful task that over-runs all flavor for the pourpose. Also it's expensive as hell. Why can't people just do the thing cheaply and save all that money for the honeymoon?!?!
my Step-sisters wedding is soon.... she used to be such a cool person(lying a bit), the dude she's gettin hiched to seems to be a total joke from any concievable angle. Plus, planning every detail to a wedding seems like such a stressful task that over-runs all flavor for the pourpose. Also it's expensive as hell. Why can't people just do the thing cheaply and save all that money for the honeymoon?!?!
because they want to show off
Or the bride's mom wants to. (At least that's how it was in Dallas, my hometown).
If/when I ever get married, I want a small wedding but a kickass reception. Not to show off, just to have a big party in case I am not allowed out of the house much after getting hitched
We had a small, inexpensive wedding but 19 years of the greatest life I could ask for ever since.
The wedding has become a huge wall beyond which many young couples cannot see, it should be lowered - or even transparent to allow them to see their future together and plan accordingly.
*i like coconuts, you can break them open they smell like ladies lyin in the sun** *Hell I don't even know where I am** *for now I must sit here and ponder the yonder: The herbivores did well cause their food didn't never run** *We listen, if it feels good We shake** *You made a big impression for a girl of your size, Now I can't get by without you and your big brown eyes.**
Post by poopzilla33 on Feb 16, 2007 20:35:56 GMT -5
honestly i want nothing more than to b married and have a family. as soon as i find the right person and have the means (mgiht be a logn while) i plan on having the wedding of the century. for some reason nothign ahs ever been as apealing to me as settling down with one person i can call my soulmate and having children with them. children who share both of our dna, and who will be better than either of us could be for it
Post by ziggyandthemonkeys on Feb 16, 2007 21:11:45 GMT -5
I think if theres funding for a big wedding, why not have one. I agree that its silly to go way out of your budget just to throw a big wedding, but i plan on having one as big as i can. I dont think either one is better, a big or small wedding.
I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years and within that seven years we've seen a variety of wedding situations. And I can't fathom a big or expensive wedding. I can imagine over-planning things, but not spending that kind of scratch.
We have a great idea to do a cheap outdoor ceremony and then a masquerade-themed reception. But my family has to stop being tools first.
There really are a lot of legal and tax perks to being married. And if you plan on raising kids together there's some legalities there too.
We treat mishaps like sinking ships and I know that I don't want to be out to drift Well I can see it in your eyes like I taste your lips and They both tell me that we're better than this
ya have a cheap wedding and use the thousands as a downpayment on a house. or there are children starving all over the world. do we really need to spend thousands on weddings.
and who needs a piece of paper from a government and a religion to be in love. im aware of the tax/insurance benefits. but it hardly seems worth it from the male perspective.
i think its just what people do because society says is its what you should do.
and they say that it makes families more stable. then why do most marriages end in divorce and fighting?? dosent seem stable, and dosent seem like something thats good for chilren. and if thats the case then why not let gay people have a stable married life? marriage is a religious institution and i have no use for anythign relgious. personally of course. i dont care if others wanna get married. althgouh i do try to tell my friends its not necessary and while cause more problems then good. but they all do it anyways. and end up losing half of thier stuff and paying outrageous child support payments that the courts get 70 percent of. a friend pays 375 a month in child support and the mother gets a check for 165 a month. the courts take the rest. it should be illegal for the courts to do nuts like that.
come to your own child support agreement and both sides come out way ahead. and once your in the courts your in them until the child is 18. no going back they wont let you even if both parents agree its what they want. they gotta make thier money taking out of childrens mouths.
Last Edit: Feb 17, 2007 4:10:28 GMT -5 by Dude - Back to Top
Post by poopzilla33 on Feb 17, 2007 11:32:00 GMT -5
i thinkmarriage is incredibly romantic. i would never get marrie din a church or by a preist (not my faith), but being leagally married to someone is the ultimate way to say i love you
Post by chicagorooer on Feb 17, 2007 14:52:15 GMT -5
marriage is a holy sacrament to many people. I find it weird why some people hate anything religious but to each there own. religion is a persoanl thing u don't have to go to church but as a wise man told me there are no athesist in a fox hole. Sure lot's of people get married for the wrong reason but if u take marriage serious it really is one of the most self less acts u can ever do. You and your partner live as one. So throw a big wedding and invite all your friends. Might as well do it right if u have the means to do so.
Post by trippindaisy on Feb 18, 2007 14:32:21 GMT -5
I was married for many years - unhappily for the majority of it but I mistakenly stayed because we had a child. It was not a stable situation for any of us. Needless to say, I eventually left.
Now many years later, I am engaged to a wonderful man who I have been with almost 3 years and he treats my daughter as his own and we have a way more stable, and harmonious life together than I ever had when I was married. We are engaged but we have no wedding plans yet, because we are both are hesitant to make a change to such a good thing. It seems like everyone I know who is happy with their loved one, gets married and then something changes and next thing you know they are getting divorced. I don't want that to happen to us, so we have the committment of being engaged (and just buying a house together) for now and that works
Post by trippindaisy on Feb 18, 2007 15:22:30 GMT -5
crazykittensmile said:
i say people should just get married at roo, then you have an awesome multi million dollar reception on someone else's dime!
Haha I will ask what he thinks about getting married at Roo That might just be a great idea for us (IF we finally can get the balls to actually do it) ........
Last Edit: Feb 18, 2007 15:23:17 GMT -5 by trippindaisy - Back to Top
Post by billypilgrim on Feb 18, 2007 21:09:54 GMT -5
I've been married for almost 20 years. As for the wedding thing, it is mostly for the bride. As long as we had an open bar, live band, and chocolate wedding cake, I was going to be just fine. To me the wedding is 1% ceremony, 99% reception. People still tell me our reception was one of the best parties they've been to. As for the marriage thing, if you want to build a life together, share everything, and have kids, it makes sense. Not for everyone, but for some of us. I think your sense of commitments greater if you go through the process than if you don't. It's clearly not something anyone should ever rush into.
Post by stuckinutero on Feb 19, 2007 13:57:46 GMT -5
bojangles22 said:
my Step-sisters wedding is soon.... she used to be such a cool person(lying a bit), the dude she's gettin hiched to seems to be a total joke from any concievable angle. Plus, planning every detail to a wedding seems like such a stressful task that over-runs all flavor for the pourpose. Also it's expensive as hell. Why can't people just do the thing cheaply and save all that money for the honeymoon?!?!
Most people get married for the wrong reason. Either they feel its getting too late to have kids, they're getting too old, etc. These are all extremely irrational thoughts. Nobody ever wants to think about failure, but this is one of the biggest aspects in life where looking at that is imperative. In the long run you're not just screwing your own life up, but also the life of whatever child you bring into this world.
I'm 22, I love kids and cant wait to have a family. I understand at this point (Also scared) that I'm not entirely mature enough and my bad habits or personal views might effect this child in a detrimental fashion. Some of the strongest marriages you'll ever see involve people getting married for the 2nd time over later in their lives. At that point nothing really matters (kids, money, etc) except the love of 2 people.
As far as weddings go, I'm right with you. Personally, a Voodoo Priest somewhere down on the water in New Orleans is where I'm leaning......seriously.
Hope all goes well and this guy turns out to be better than you think. Just pay attention to how he treats your sister. I'm a younger brother and have unfortunately had to step before and lay a beat down. Not something I'm proud of, and really wish it hadn't happened. Its a crappy situation, you have to fight, your sisters mad at you for beating up her BF, and it goes on. Just put personal opinions aside and make sure he treats her right. Good luck .
I was born in the back seat of a Yellow Cab in a hospital loading zone and with the meter still running. I emerged needing a shave and shouted 'Time Square, and step on it!
Post by bojangles22 on Feb 19, 2007 14:24:23 GMT -5
I'm thinking he will probly treat her right. it's just his negitive views on life and other things in general, and I don't want that attitude dragging her down. . . . . . . . . I think marrige might be the same as Chinese water tourture (hear me out on this one). saw this on myth busters"... ya got two people, each in a chair, each also have small amounts of water dripping on them. The only difference is one person is strapped down, and the other isn't. the one that is strapped down freaks out and starts panicking because there is no control over her peril. she is Strapped in(married) and can't do very much about the water dripping on her. person#2 is free to move away from the dripping water, however the drip doesn't bother the person because #2 knows he can move away if it starts to bother him.
