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Post by roolacksreality on Apr 2, 2007 13:15:13 GMT -5
I thought of a good idea for an off-'Roo thread. Hope you guys like it.
We all have problems, and we all need help at times. I've met some really down to Earth people on Inforoo and I'd like to give back to this really cool internet community. If anyone has something going on in their lives that isn't really relatated to Bonnaroo, let me know, I'd love to try to help you out. This thread isn't limited to just me giving responses, if anyone else has something helpful to say feel free to give your two cents. Remember we're all anonymous here, so it's 100% confidential.
We all go through life as an individual, but sometimes it is not until we come together as one that we are able to overcome both mental and physical obstacles.
Oh has this thread come at a great time - I get to vent! Alot of times it does good just to get it out there and have some one say "Man - that really sucks"
soo - here goes
I have had to put my 13 year old daughter in counseling. She is a honor student, plays classical violin (since she was 4), in general a good kid. One of her friend's has tried to kill herself twice, another friend threatened to kill her mother and ended up in treatment. A father called to let me know he found all kinds of notes between my daughter and his talking about suicide and cutting. When I searched my daughter's room - I found similar notes and then found that she had been cutting. Things seem to be getting better but I still stress and worry everyday. I wonder if we have put too much pressure on her, if we expect too much, what I have done wrong and what I can change.
Then my van has been overheating - I put it in the shop thinking it is the thermostat ($280) only to find out that they have to replace the radiator ($513), the dishwasher is leaking and I have to get a repair man out to fix that (hoping it can be fixed).
AND - I have the horrible pressure of applying for a new position within the VA Hospitals - turned all that in today and hope to hear something in the next few weeks because it would mean a much needed pay raise.
Post by poopzilla33 on Apr 2, 2007 13:42:36 GMT -5
^in my younger days i was suicidal. honestly counseling is the best thing for her. counselign will help the depression and as she ages the suicidal thoughts will lessen untill they're eventually gone. i don't beleive in anti-depression medicine cuz that stuff seriously can mess people up and change them completly, so counselling is he best idea
wow good luck with your daughter. thats scary. the rest of that stuff always has way of working itself out. but with the kids its scary. im really not looking forward to the teen years, and they are only 2 years away for me. best wishes. i also say avoid the medications if you can. its does nothing but harm for my family members who have gotten involved in that scene.
Post by trippindaisy on Apr 2, 2007 14:40:36 GMT -5
bos1969 said:
Oh has this thread come at a great time - I get to vent! Alot of times it does good just to get it out there and have some one say "Man - that really sucks"
soo - here goes
I have had to put my 13 year old daughter in counseling. She is a honor student, plays classical violin (since she was 4), in general a good kid. One of her friend's has tried to kill herself twice, another friend threatened to kill her mother and ended up in treatment. A father called to let me know he found all kinds of notes between my daughter and his talking about suicide and cutting. When I searched my daughter's room - I found similar notes and then found that she had been cutting. Things seem to be getting better but I still stress and worry everyday. I wonder if we have put too much pressure on her, if we expect too much, what I have done wrong and what I can change.
I recently went through the same thing with my daughter - she was suicidal and cutting herself - at one point she had hundred of cuts all up her arms...... Very scary for a mother
She was hospitalized in a psych ward for 2 weeks..... She is now seeing a psychiatrist and a therapist and is on anti-depressant and anti anxiety medication. After 3 different medications and 7 months later, we think she is finally on a mix that is really helping. In her case it is genetic and is a chemical imbalance - her father is bi-polar so at this point I have realized that I did not cause her to feel this way. I think I have done a good job at being a mother, although she was put through a lot when she was younger due to her father's mental illness. I finally left when I realized it was damaging us more to try to keep the family together than for me to be a single mother. You also have to remember a HUGE amount of it is hormones. So don't be too hard on yourselves.
She will have to repeat this year of school and is getting kicked out of her school because of it which really sucks. But we are keeping positive and her grades are going up and she is feeling much better so we just hope the next school she goes to is a fresh start for her
Good luck and if you need to talk, please feel free to PM me.
Post by roolacksreality on Apr 2, 2007 21:48:48 GMT -5
I'm just a teenager, so I haven't had much experience with this stuff. However, I just wanted you to know that everything will be fine. No matter what happens, the universe tends to unfold as it should. Stay positive!!! According to the Law of Attraction the world responds based on how you tell it to do so.
Post by easymorningrebel on Apr 2, 2007 22:26:50 GMT -5
while your intention seems genuinely kind hearted and sincere, you really should consider if you really want to open up a can of worms like this. karma for being concerned and wanting to give back.
depression sucks is all I have to say about the rest. I have no advice other than what I said above. Peace...
Post by ziggyandthemonkeys on Apr 2, 2007 23:30:55 GMT -5
I think as long as this thread doesnt get out of hand it should be fine. Thats really the potential problem with it. Until then theres no reason to shut it down.
Post by roolacksreality on Apr 3, 2007 0:08:19 GMT -5
Well at least I had good intentions, haha. Oh man, I feel like Albert Hoffman when he tried to cure the common cold. We all know what happened there.....
Oh has this thread come at a great time - I get to vent! Alot of times it does good just to get it out there and have some one say "Man - that really sucks"
soo - here goes
I have had to put my 13 year old daughter in counseling. She is a honor student, plays classical violin (since she was 4), in general a good kid. One of her friend's has tried to kill herself twice, another friend threatened to kill her mother and ended up in treatment. A father called to let me know he found all kinds of notes between my daughter and his talking about suicide and cutting. When I searched my daughter's room - I found similar notes and then found that she had been cutting. Things seem to be getting better but I still stress and worry everyday. I wonder if we have put too much pressure on her, if we expect too much, what I have done wrong and what I can change.
Then my van has been overheating - I put it in the shop thinking it is the thermostat ($280) only to find out that they have to replace the radiator ($513), the dishwasher is leaking and I have to get a repair man out to fix that (hoping it can be fixed).
AND - I have the horrible pressure of applying for a new position within the VA Hospitals - turned all that in today and hope to hear something in the next few weeks because it would mean a much needed pay raise.
so there is my rant and vent. Who's next?
A friend of mine just went through the cutting issue with her daughter, who is only slightly older than yours. In her case, it turned out that she was cutting because it was "cool" to do it. She's doing just fine now, and is in mild therapy.
I'm not sure if this will help or not, but when I was a teenager I used to cut myself and write notes about killing myself, as did my friends. For me, it was just a phase I went through. I was a good kid, made great grades, but I guess it was a fascination with death and wanting to "fit in" with my friends who were also doing this to themselves. It was a fad...very stupid fad. My parents found out about the notes, but not about the cutting (I'd always blame the cat or an accident). When I went through my hormonal fits, my parents would threaten me with sending me away to get counseling at a mental facility. For me, (and I'm just saying it was for ME, not other kids then or now) it was just trying to fit in. I've learned the errors of my ways, and I still have scars on my chest, hands, and legs to remind me.
I'm not sure if this will help or not, but when I was a teenager I used to cut myself and write notes about killing myself, as did my friends. For me, it was just a phase I went through. I was a good kid, made great grades, but I guess it was a fascination with death and wanting to "fit in" with my friends who were also doing this to themselves. It was a fad...very stupid fad. My parents found out about the notes, but not about the cutting (I'd always blame the cat or an accident). When I went through my hormonal fits, my parents would threaten me with sending me away to get counseling at a mental facility. For me, (and I'm just saying it was for ME, not other kids then or now) it was just trying to fit in. I've learned the errors of my ways, and I still have scars on my chest, hands, and legs to remind me.
Thanks! I really believe this is just a phase and her trying to fit in with her friends - most of them are really great kids who make good grades and are very intelligent - I think alot of the music they are listening to glorifies death and depression and that a lot of this stems from that. While she listens to just about anything and loves all music (expect country) - she seems fixated on the typical teenage stuff, MCR, Fallout Boy, AFI.
I hope it's just a phase for her as well. I definitely think counseling is a good idea, and I'm sure it will help her out. I hope the best for her and for your family! I hope your money problems work themselves out and nothing else breaks! SORRY!
i just had mcdonalds for the first time in about 2 months, i think i ingested about a pound of grease...nastiness.....i feel like i'm going to puke now....
"White collar conservative flashin down the street, pointing that plastic finger at me, they all assume my kind will drop and die, but I'm gonna wave my freak flag high." Jimi Hendrix
i am seventeen, and i also went throught the cutting/suicidal stage when i was 12-13, i had alot of psychiatrists and i was on lexapro and welbutrin.
but it seems to be just a stage and it seems that EVERYONE my age, has been through it one time or another.
i know alot of my friends use to cut, and i think it happens mostly along the ages of 12-16.. i mean, i`m not saying that it ONLY happens to them at that age.. it just seems like the cutting/suicidal stage happened to most of my friends at that age. i think mostly for me, i was depressed because of my school, i hated it and i was always struggeling in middle school anyway.. but i agree with oleander124, it seems like just a very stupid fad these days.
it will probably just go away with time, and as for counseling.. i think its a good idea because even as a teenager, i feel like for me, its a good way to just talk about things with an adult, and for teenagers, its easy way to talk to someone because most of the time, it wont be thier parents that they come to talk about things like this.
What's your hurry, everyone will have his day to die? If you choose to pull the trigger, should your drama prove sincere, Do it somewhere far away from here!
Post by ziggyandthemonkeys on Apr 3, 2007 19:46:24 GMT -5
smurf79 said:
i just had mcdonalds for the first time in about 2 months, i think i ingested about a pound of grease...nastiness.....i feel like i'm going to puke now....
My sister has done a bit of cutting as well. She'll be 15 on the 13th. She skips school a lot and my mom lets her get away with it. She spends less time with me now that her friends are all uber-important to her. I've realized that there's not a lot I can do to help her so I try not to work myself up about it. I'm here when she needs me, but I won't let her take advantage of me. I can't fight my mom, though. That's impossible. I did manage to get my sis to reconnect with her dad a bit (different dad than mine), but her journey is one far different from mine and there's only so much I can do to help her.
As far as what I'm stressing about... I'm awaiting my acceptance into the nursing program at my community college. I'm supposed to find out mid-April and I feel like vomitting every time I think about it. I'm confident, but I need to have the letter to know for sure. If I don't get in, I don't know what I'll do for another year. I feel like the rest of my life hinges on this letter.
If I get in this year, I'll be a nurse by the time I'm 26. Then I can get a good job, marry my fiance and move forward with everything else. He wants to open a recording studio, so I will have to be the one to have a good job to support us if it doesn't work out and to provide health insurance and stuff. Also, once I'm a nurse, I can afford to have my sis move in with me, if she wants to. I finally have a plan for my life and I can't screw it up!
The waiting for this is much worse than waiting for the initial line-up announcement.
i just had mcdonalds for the first time in about 2 months, i think i ingested about a pound of grease...nastiness.....i feel like i'm going to puke now....
McDonalds SUCKS. Man, i hate it!
yeah, i'm not sure why i did it.....i'm definitely NEVER eating there again....i can still feel it like hours later.....
edit: oh and i gave you karma earlier, zig, because you seem to be shrinking...
"White collar conservative flashin down the street, pointing that plastic finger at me, they all assume my kind will drop and die, but I'm gonna wave my freak flag high." Jimi Hendrix
I'm stressing because my 22 y/o sis lived with me until a couple weeks ago, and she barely took her clothes with her and I have a room that is trashed and I can't use.
It's been a touchy subject. She made arrangements to move in with my mom after I broke the news to her that "she couldn't live with me (and my bf) forever". Instead of taking some extra time to get her stuff together to move out on her own, she picked up and ran, and now I'm left with this junk here. Before my sister moved in with us a friend of ours lived here, and she didn't pay us much and left 2 small bins and a computer here in a closet, neatly packed away (she married in Australia). So when I bring up the fact that there's junk here or that she can't stay here indefinitely, I get the old roomate thrown in my face, which is funny because my mom and sister were all against the so-called abuses I allowed my friend. However, if my sister commits those same abuses (non payment and all around bad roomate-ing), somehow that's okay. At least when my friend lived here I had someone to watch tv and gossip with.
It's just too close for comfort for family to move in with you especially when in a relationship. It's like I have this little spy that could turn any small normal spat in to a damn family wide contoversy. But now I'm going to have to call my sister to see what the hell she's doing with this random junk in what should be our office. Talk about feeling taken advantage of.
I've been the "easy kid". My sister wasn't, and still is a pain in the ass, and a very immature 22. I get really annoyed that a younger sibling can walk on water and get bailed out of every situation, and here I sit worrying about having her move out, what mom might be thinking about that, and then feeling bad for putting it on mom. At the same time, it's nice to not have surprises when I get home, drunk sister and her friends playing our Wii at 3am, and not be tripping over her shoes in the door and in general having things a little back to normal. I needed this for my sanity, we needed a little real alone time.
And thank you, no more emo music or bad country blaring from her room.
There's my vent and a good part of what has lost me sleep the last few weeks. And at the same time, the sleep is sooooo good.
We treat mishaps like sinking ships and I know that I don't want to be out to drift Well I can see it in your eyes like I taste your lips and They both tell me that we're better than this
At the same time, it's nice to not have surprises when I get home, drunk sister and her friends playing our Wii at 3am, and not be tripping over her shoes in the door and in general having things a little back to normal. I needed this for my sanity, we needed a little real alone time.
And thank you, no more emo music or bad country blaring from her room.
There's my vent and a good part of what has lost me sleep the last few weeks. And at the same time, the sleep is sooooo good.
This is why you shouldnt feel too upset about the situation. If she is being immature it isint your responsibility to aid in that lifestlye. I would hope your mother understands atleast to some degree on your prediciment. It must just be a younger siblling thing when it comes to favoritism. maybe she knows you can handle yourself and your sis needs some more parenting? just an idea to things but at least you are taking it well and above all, at least the bad music is gone.
The mad smiter lurks in the shadows and is indiscriminate in his smiting. There's no method to his madness.
EDIT: Right. Venting. Let's see. I hate my job. I decided that I'm gonna step down from the position I'm in an go back to where I started. The people suck. It's like being in Jr. High. So much backstabbing and gossip and favoritism it makes me sick. F*ck it and f*ck those clowns. I won't have to deal with them or that sh!t anymore.
I haven't been here long, but I'd like everyone's advice on this subject.
How do I decide what to do with my life?
I'm a sophomore in college with no major, or inklings of one as well as little interest in anything. I sleep until 2 most days, with no regard for class (though I do make it to work on time...but it's a sub shop, so that's not really the solution). I'm SUPPOSED to be in college because I'm SUPPOSED to be smart and what have you, but I don't see it. My long term plans extend to Bonnaroo, with nothing in between or after. To clarify, I'm not depressed (that was high school...yuck), I'm just bored, so this is your shot to pick a life for me.
what are your passions? you're on inforoo, so maybe something in music would suit your fancy. life has a way of working itself out. my suggestion is don't fret about it. take it all in stride. find something you love, and figure out how to make a career out of it. in the meantime, enjoy being in college and make the most out of your current situation.
We all know what happened there.....
