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Our mattress is like 14 years old, and I really want a new one, but I'm afraid of paying so much for something and then having something like this be the result.
Gel top Memory Foam mattress in the 10" range...no springs and no human sized divots that remain
Yesss, springs are old news! We have a latex/memory foam hybrid and it's the best. Plus, when one of us moves around it doesn't wake the other person up.
For the past 24 hours, I cannot seem to stop throwing up. A few weeks back, my team was dismissed and I was left without a job in a most surprising and depressing way. My sons insurance was cut with 4 days left on the calendar, he's an infant. I had the first round of interviews for a good position on Monday, and was told yesterday that they'd like to see me this morning again for round two. I can't eat this morning, mortified that it will come up mid interview. The position is time sensitive, so missing the interview isn't an option. No fever, seems like it's food poisoning. I'm headed into the more cerebral end of a two part interview with no sleep, no food in my stomach, and a twist in my gut that I haven't felt since I had water poisoning in China.
Also probably can't go to roo this year, but that doesn't even seem to register on the radar at this point.
Damn dude.
You're gonna walk out of that interview like this:
They offered me the role. Thank you and everyone who helped with that last little bit of encouragement this morning. What you and Cdev and rasta said this morning made an impact, I'll remember this and mimic this generosity whenever I can. Thank you again.
You're gonna walk out of that interview like this:
They offered me the role. Thank you and everyone who helped with that last little bit of encouragement this morning. What you and Cdev and rasta said this morning made an impact, I'll remember this and mimic this generosity whenever I can. Thank you again.
I didn't even throw up on the guy.
Damn, I wish I had seen this earlier. Would have told you to down some Emetrol. Glad you nailed it sick and all. Hope you get that baby some insurance fast.
You're gonna walk out of that interview like this:
They offered me the role. Thank you and everyone who helped with that last little bit of encouragement this morning. What you and Cdev and rasta said this morning made an impact, I'll remember this and mimic this generosity whenever I can. Thank you again.
They offered me the role. Thank you and everyone who helped with that last little bit of encouragement this morning. What you and Cdev and rasta said this morning made an impact, I'll remember this and mimic this generosity whenever I can. Thank you again.
I didn't even throw up on the guy.
Hats off to you, sir!
Enjoy your well deserved nap
You all are amazing. Between cobra twc and feeling like I'm sinking, I've just finally taken a breath today for the first time in a month and its all these wonderful roosters that are reaching to help me stand up. Its amazing.
Gel top Memory Foam mattress in the 10" range...no springs and no human sized divots that remain
Yesss, springs are old news! We have a latex/memory foam hybrid and it's the best. Plus, when one of us moves around it doesn't wake the other person up.
Yesss, springs are old news! We have a latex/memory foam hybrid and it's the best. Plus, when one of us moves around it doesn't wake the other person up.
I don't normally make posts like this I have been in such a funk lately. I'm down most of the time and my current job is definitely not helping. I really don't know what else to say but if you're in the positive thoughts sending mood; I could definitely use some right now.
hello gang, I am feeling completely betrayed by a family member and am crushed....not sure what my next course of action should be.
I will try to keep this brief.
My late husband was an avid woodworker and built several pieces including a cradle for my now 21 year old before she was born. I painted and decorated it, I have hoped to hold onto it in hopes one of my daughters might want to use it one day. During our move back to Atlanta in 2008, hubby somehow ended up taking it to his brother John's huge Atlanta home to store in the basement. The house is enormous and there is lots of basement room. I was there as recently as over Christmas and it has always been presumed to be safe. I had even asked a few months ago if they still had it and if they would like for me to get it and was told it was fine.
My oldest nephew and wife are expecting a baby in 3 weeks. This nephew also happens to be my husband's godson, and so I offered use of the cradle to them thinking that it would have been meaningful to my husband - also a useful thing to have for a newborn. I happened to speak with his mother today (who I have remained close to) and asked had they been able to pick up the cradle. She responded by saying that John told her recently the cradle had been broken and that he needed to call me. Of course, that call has never happened. So if it accidentally got broken, I could forgive that...even though I would be sad, but to just not let me know? I have no idea when or even if this happened, or how extensive the damage is.
I sent John and his wife both a text saying that I had heard it was broken and to please not discard it, and that I would be able to pick it up within the week. I haven't gotten a response yet. I am completely hurt and bewildered, and broke down right after I found out.
Am I overreacting? I don't want to spoil a relationship, but I feel like this is a really, really shitty thing to do.
hello gang, I am feeling completely betrayed by a family member and am crushed....not sure what my next course of action should be.
I will try to keep this brief.
My late husband was an avid woodworker and built several pieces including a cradle for my now 21 year old before she was born. I painted and decorated it, I have hoped to hold onto it in hopes one of my daughters might want to use it one day. During our move back to Atlanta in 2008, hubby somehow ended up taking it to his brother John's huge Atlanta home to store in the basement. The house is enormous and there is lots of basement room. I was there as recently as over Christmas and it has always been presumed to be safe. I had even asked a few months ago if they still had it and if they would like for me to get it and was told it was fine.
My oldest nephew and wife are expecting a baby in 3 weeks. This nephew also happens to be my husband's godson, and so I offered use of the cradle to them thinking that it would have been meaningful to my husband - also a useful thing to have for a newborn. I happened to speak with his mother today (who I have remained close to) and asked had they been able to pick up the cradle. She responded by saying that John told her recently the cradle had been broken and that he needed to call me. Of course, that call has never happened. So if it accidentally got broken, I could forgive that...even though I would be sad, but to just not let me know? I have no idea when or even if this happened, or how extensive the damage is.
I sent John and his wife both a text saying that I had heard it was broken and to please not discard it, and that I would be able to pick it up within the week. I haven't gotten a response yet. I am completely hurt and bewildered, and broke down right after I found out.
Am I overreacting? I don't want to spoil a relationship, but I feel like this is a really, really shitty thing to do.
I'm sure you are terribly heartbroken, as anyone would be, but from what you've typed here it doesn't sound like he he's being intentionally hurtful. Maybe he knew how badly it would hurt you, and how difficult that conversation would be, so he's put off bringing it up in a timely matter. Maybe he only discovered that it had been broken recently?
I hope they get in touch with you soon and that it can either be repaired or salvaged/re-purposed in a way that makes you feel better about the situation.
hello gang, I am feeling completely betrayed by a family member and am crushed....not sure what my next course of action should be.
I will try to keep this brief.
My late husband was an avid woodworker and built several pieces including a cradle for my now 21 year old before she was born. I painted and decorated it, I have hoped to hold onto it in hopes one of my daughters might want to use it one day. During our move back to Atlanta in 2008, hubby somehow ended up taking it to his brother John's huge Atlanta home to store in the basement. The house is enormous and there is lots of basement room. I was there as recently as over Christmas and it has always been presumed to be safe. I had even asked a few months ago if they still had it and if they would like for me to get it and was told it was fine.
My oldest nephew and wife are expecting a baby in 3 weeks. This nephew also happens to be my husband's godson, and so I offered use of the cradle to them thinking that it would have been meaningful to my husband - also a useful thing to have for a newborn. I happened to speak with his mother today (who I have remained close to) and asked had they been able to pick up the cradle. She responded by saying that John told her recently the cradle had been broken and that he needed to call me. Of course, that call has never happened. So if it accidentally got broken, I could forgive that...even though I would be sad, but to just not let me know? I have no idea when or even if this happened, or how extensive the damage is.
I sent John and his wife both a text saying that I had heard it was broken and to please not discard it, and that I would be able to pick it up within the week. I haven't gotten a response yet. I am completely hurt and bewildered, and broke down right after I found out.
Am I overreacting? I don't want to spoil a relationship, but I feel like this is a really, really shitty thing to do.
I'm sure you are terribly heartbroken, as anyone would be, but from what you've typed here it doesn't sound like he he's being intentionally hurtful. Maybe he knew how badly it would hurt you, and how difficult that conversation would be, so he's put off bringing it up in a timely matter. Maybe he only discovered that it had been broken recently?
I hope they get in touch with you soon and that it can either be repaired or salvaged/re-purposed in a way that makes you feel better about the situation.
Big hugs <3
I am being an emotional idiot. To me it's another very real loss. To them it's probably just a pile of wood.
I'm sure you are terribly heartbroken, as anyone would be, but from what you've typed here it doesn't sound like he he's being intentionally hurtful. Maybe he knew how badly it would hurt you, and how difficult that conversation would be, so he's put off bringing it up in a timely matter. Maybe he only discovered that it had been broken recently?
I hope they get in touch with you soon and that it can either be repaired or salvaged/re-purposed in a way that makes you feel better about the situation.
Big hugs <3
I am being an emotional idiot. To me it's another very real loss. To them it's probably just a pile of wood.
Perception is everything I guess
You've had way more than your share of loss and heartache. I'm sentimental about special things too, so I totally see where you're coming from. Let us know how it all goes, you're in my heart.
Well they haven't returned my pleasant (and sober) text and later call. Not sure what to make of that
I'm sorry, I cannot imagine the sentimental value you feel for that crib. I hope this turns out to be a failure of communication and not something worse.
My texts and calls are not being returned. That is not a good sign
I'm sorry they're treating you this way. I just hate this in general. The way that people tell you they don't want to do things or just blow things off by not answering. No answer is their answer. It's so rude.
well, I finally got a text from BIL. his exact words:
"I will call in a bit. I think we only have the base of the crib. The basket broke a few years ago. It got a little mildew in the basement"
Something just doesn't add up. I have asked about it several times and given no indication that anything amiss. Even when I was there at Christmas, I told him that nephew and his wife had been offered use of it and would want to come and pick it up and he said "OK that's fine". Obviously that is not congruent with his statement that it broke years ago.
I let him know that I knew nothing could be done at this point, that I was not necessarily angry but was very, very hurt. I acknowledged that to him it is probably just a pile of wood to me it is an heirloom and a huge loss. Actually it's a much more significant loss to my daughters who would be actually using it one day.
I have been through too much and continue to struggle with so many things that I really don't need people like this in my life. To me it is not an issue of forgiveness or not...it's just an issue of self-care and self-preservation.
Thank you all for reading my drivel. I really don't have another outlet. I am going to try to get outside and stop thinking about this for awhile. I have been crying off and on since yesterday and was up most of night heart racing. I don't need this negative emotion. Love y'all.
finally got a text from SIL acknowledging that "it must have been removed when they were cleaning the basement" and apologizing for their insensitivity. At least they acknowledge that they were jackasses about it. Now to try to process this and explain it to my daughters. It's not even noon yet and I need a drink.
At this point I still don't have a consistent story as to what happened, when it happened or what part, if any, of the cradle is left, and sincerely doubt that I will ever get one. I am getting two different stories from my BIL (the base is the only intact part and that is in the basement) and SIL (the whole thing was thrown away when they cleaned the basement)....yes, they live in the same house.
Both have apologized for being insensitive and for not telling me sooner. No explanation as to why they even as recently as a couple months ago told me everything was fine...unless, as I suspect, it was cowardice.
If there is a moral from this story, it is that truth goes a long, long way to help patch any situation. Lies and avoidance only make a bad situation worse.
At this point, I am assuming that I will never see any part of the item again.
I am more depressed right now than I have been in a long, long time. Really need to lift out of this funk, and this whole fiasco has only made it worse. I'm sleep deprived, been crying for most of 2 days and not in a good place. Hopefully I will be able to sleep tonight and feel better tomorrow. I had planned to travel and spend a couple of days with my best friend who has been going through chemo, and don't need to show up being a Debbie Downer.
Again, I am sorry to burden you all with this but I really need an outlet. Love everyone and thanks for your support.
Post by itrainmonkeys on Mar 8, 2016 14:14:50 GMT -5
In a funk and can't get out of it. Just can't find ways to be motivated and happy with life. I see so many others around me accomplishing things and making milestones while I struggle just working on basic things. Been slacking in a lot of areas in my life because of it (Here included....sorry inforoo. I'll get back to it). Just so many things making me feel trapped and like I won't be able to do the things I really want to be doing in my life right now. And at this point I'm having trouble visualizing just what I want the future to hold.
Just feel like shit. I know I shouldn't but I am having trouble really turning my life around and making major changes to my routines.
In a funk and can't get out of it. Just can't find ways to be motivated and happy with life. I see so many others around me accomplishing things and making milestones while I struggle just working on basic things. Been slacking in a lot of areas in my life because of it (Here included....sorry inforoo. I'll get back to it). Just so many things making me feel trapped and like I won't be able to do the things I really want to be doing in my life right now. And at this point I'm having trouble visualizing just what I want the future to hold.
Just feel like shit. I know I shouldn't but I am having trouble really turning my life around and making major changes to my routines.
Major changes are really difficult to make and even more difficult to stick with. Are there one or two little things you could start with changing? I've found that sometimes, by deciding to make a small change, bigger changes follow along somewhat naturally.
In a funk and can't get out of it. Just can't find ways to be motivated and happy with life. I see so many others around me accomplishing things and making milestones while I struggle just working on basic things. Been slacking in a lot of areas in my life because of it (Here included....sorry inforoo. I'll get back to it). Just so many things making me feel trapped and like I won't be able to do the things I really want to be doing in my life right now. And at this point I'm having trouble visualizing just what I want the future to hold.
Just feel like shit. I know I shouldn't but I am having trouble really turning my life around and making major changes to my routines.
Major changes are really difficult to make and even more difficult to stick with. Are there one or two little things you could start with changing? I've found that sometimes, by deciding to make a small change, bigger changes follow along somewhat naturally.
This is what I wanted to suggest as well. Looking at major changes can be intimidating, small changes are easier and flow into bigger ones.
I'm sorry you're feeling trapped, I have felt that way before too. I get stuck in deep ruts every so often also and it can be really frustrating to think about all that is needed to get out of it. It helps me to focus on tackling the small steps to make everyday life more productive/manageable/enjoyable.
Nobody knows what their future holds, and that's kind of the fun (and sometimes terrifying, but ultimately amazing) part. If you go forward with the small positive steps, your future will present itself.
In a funk and can't get out of it. Just can't find ways to be motivated and happy with life. I see so many others around me accomplishing things and making milestones while I struggle just working on basic things. Been slacking in a lot of areas in my life because of it (Here included....sorry inforoo. I'll get back to it). Just so many things making me feel trapped and like I won't be able to do the things I really want to be doing in my life right now. And at this point I'm having trouble visualizing just what I want the future to hold.
Just feel like shit. I know I shouldn't but I am having trouble really turning my life around and making major changes to my routines.
Hey pal. Been there. Best thing I ever did in that situation was to decide to take 30 minutes a night and an hour on each weekend day away from TV or movies or drinking at the bar and devote that time to small changes here and there. It's weird how once you hit the right change it will feel so good and hopefully have a snowball effect on different parts of your life. The trick is committing to those 30 minute blocks. Use them to workout some days, use them to shop for healthier foods or planning out healthier recipes for the week. Use them to make lists and then use them to knock things off the list. I don't know your financial or insurance situation, but if you're really having the blues and can't jumpstart at all, a therapist can do wonders for even small potatoes malaise. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk about things in more specificity. Also, as hard as it is, don't compare others' status with yours - it can make you crazy. I've seen people get into bad marriages and have children when they weren't ready just because they saw everyone around them doing it. And take care of yourself please.
In a funk and can't get out of it. Just can't find ways to be motivated and happy with life. I see so many others around me accomplishing things and making milestones while I struggle just working on basic things. Been slacking in a lot of areas in my life because of it (Here included....sorry inforoo. I'll get back to it). Just so many things making me feel trapped and like I won't be able to do the things I really want to be doing in my life right now. And at this point I'm having trouble visualizing just what I want the future to hold.
Just feel like shit. I know I shouldn't but I am having trouble really turning my life around and making major changes to my routines.
Sorry you feel this way, dude. I have on many occasions felt the same way as you. Even right now I'm not quite positive what I want to be doing in a year or five year or ten years or whatever.
What I find helps is to write down anything nice that happens. It could be something super small like, "It was nice outside," or "I saw a cute dog." After a while you'll have a nice long list of good things that happen all around you and it'll help you stay positive.
Additionally, I have been pretty scared to make changes in my life. I put an end to that by getting used to change, so to speak. When I started running I did it really slowly--a mile at a time, sometimes two. Just pick one simple, easy thing that you've been putting off and go for it. Learn to cook a new dish. Read a chapter of a new book. Sooner rather than later trying new stuff will be second nature. Sooner or later you'll feel confident enough to make some changes to get out of your rut. Or you may just naturally break it and not even notice it.
Post by itrainmonkeys on Mar 8, 2016 16:46:10 GMT -5
Thanks for the advice and kind words ladies and gents. I just feel like I've been wasting years of my life at this point and can't escape the feeling of it not getting better. It's like everything is going in a cycle of things that come up/health issues leading to money problems leading to more sadness leading to less motivation. I realized at family gatherings I just don't really have much to talk about since I don't have anything going on in my life besides "working" or "going to a concert every now and then" and it bothers me. I can't seem to find a way to get healthy, financially secure, and focus time on outside projects so I can find a new job/move. It seems like I'm so damn good at procrastinating and thinking "I'll do it soon" and then all of a sudden a month or two passes by. I try keeping on top of my health (or I try to try, I should say) and with my shitty insurance it costs and arm and a leg just to go to doctor's for the initial visit. So as I start fixing myself up I start feeling bad about going more into debt and then after I get something fixed a month or two later there's something else new/nagging that starts filling my mind with dread and gloom.
I've just been struggling to put a positive spin on everything for a few years and it's starting to get to me as I look at all the problems I face. I'm 29 years old but feel like a grownup baby who has done nothing of any real importance.
I do appreciate the advice. I will be trying to organize my life a bit more and make some minor changes...hopefully leading to bigger ones. I just feel like so many areas of my life I've been disappointed with and struggle to keep at it. I'm so very good at coming up with excuses and saying "what does it really matter?" to various things. I'm very negative when it comes to myself.
In a funk and can't get out of it. Just can't find ways to be motivated and happy with life. I see so many others around me accomplishing things and making milestones while I struggle just working on basic things. Been slacking in a lot of areas in my life because of it (Here included....sorry inforoo. I'll get back to it). Just so many things making me feel trapped and like I won't be able to do the things I really want to be doing in my life right now. And at this point I'm having trouble visualizing just what I want the future to hold.
Just feel like shit. I know I shouldn't but I am having trouble really turning my life around and making major changes to my routines.
Sorry to hear that bro, I know exactly how you feel. One example was when I was in rehab, I had lost my entire sense of self and the trust of my family had dissipated entirely. My counselor was a great dude, a Deadhead and a founding member of the wharf rats which is like a recovery group for heads in the tri-state area. I felt a greater connection to him for this reason and trusted him and he told me when I wake up and before I go to bed, look at myself in the mirror and say, "you're okay, you're okay". The first couple times I did it I broke down in tears because I was not okay with who I was because I didn't know to be honest, but it eventually got to the point when I started realizing there is nothing wrong with myself or where I am or how I got there. I started complimenting myself and that compliment carried on throughout the day and surrounded me with this heir of confidence and invulnerability. Now I'm 24 yrs old, all my friends have graduated with their masters and have respectable jobs, and I'm still chilling with a measly 20 credits trying to acquire my degree. Not much to show for how hard I've been working, but I've accepted that I am here because I made the wrong decisions and now it's time to turn them into the right decisions, no matter how long it may take, I'll get there right now.
If you don't like the way you feel right now, use that as motivation to make yourself not feel like this. Hope this helped mang.