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Maya's nail got caught day before yesterday and ripped off. I've been wrapping and keeping it clean.
Today the whole paw is swollen and there's a red dot. So I had to make a vet appointment, in the middle of a pandemic, when I haven't been working for 11 months now. 🙄😭
As far as the pandemic part, we’ve been to three different vets over the last year, and they’ve all been super careful. Our regular vet lets people in the building, but only as far as the waiting room, only a limited number of people at a time, and everyone always must be masked. If you ask them, you don’t have to come in, they’ll come out and get your pet. We’ve also been to the emergency vet and Murray’s vet (because he’s still a foster so the rescue is paying his vet bills as long as we take him to their preferred vet). At both of those, you call when you get there and they send someone out to get your pet from you and bring her out after. Hopefully your vet will be taking good precautions!
As far as your pup being hurt and the cost of a vet bill, those things both suck, and all I can say is I hope they both turn out to be relatively minor! It’s always stressful having a sick or hurt animal, but the covid has really added whole new twists to that.
Maya's nail got caught day before yesterday and ripped off. I've been wrapping and keeping it clean.
Today the whole paw is swollen and there's a red dot. So I had to make a vet appointment, in the middle of a pandemic, when I haven't been working for 11 months now. 🙄😭
As far as the pandemic part, we’ve been to three different vets over the last year, and they’ve all been super careful. Our regular vet lets people in the building, but only as far as the waiting room, only a limited number of people at a time, and everyone always must be masked. If you ask them, you don’t have to come in, they’ll come out and get your pet. We’ve also been to the emergency vet and Murray’s vet (because he’s still a foster so the rescue is paying his vet bills as long as we take him to their preferred vet). At both of those, you call when you get there and they send someone out to get your pet from you and bring her out after. Hopefully your vet will be taking good precautions!
As far as your pup being hurt and the cost of a vet bill, those things both suck, and all I can say is I hope they both turn out to be relatively minor! It’s always stressful having a sick or hurt animal, but the covid has really added whole new twists to that.
I was mostly bitching about the pandemic in the way of not working and being broke.
My vet is pretty great and I'm sure they're taking precautions. In fact, they're only taking appointments now and charging an emergency fee if you just walk-in. Which they were a walk-in clinic before and only procedures were scheduled.
So just an update. I took off the bandage and the swelling has gone down, but it's still a little puffy. But there's a red dot on the "finger" that the nail broke on. It's pretty bright. So we're still going.
There was a meme going around recently that said something to the effect of, “whenever my spouse is upset, I’ve gotten in the habit of asking, do you want comfort or solutions?” Most of the time, if I’m complaining about my job, I’m not looking for solutions like “get another job.” I already understand that my options are get another job or try to stick it out with this one. I’m just looking to vent my frustration. So, something like, “that sucks, I’m sorry your job is such a pain” is probably all I’m really hoping to hear.
Or if you think she’s looking for more than that, maybe engage in the conversation of what it is that’s upsetting her about the job, ask questions to try to get at what she hates about it to help her think about what she might look for in a different job, talk about possible options for what moving on to something else might look like or specific things that might make her current job more tolerable. The idea of just getting another job might seem overwhelming or like a non-solution if she doesn’t have any reason to believe that she’s going to like some other job any better. Maybe talking about her options would help to focus the idea of it and make it seem more realistic?
We’ve been through all of this. She’s probably been talking about this for over 2 yr. She tells me every new thing she doesn’t like, Like I said I go back and forth on how I respond to it. I tell her it will be ok, just do what you can do, I say I’m sorry I know it sucks. I talk to her about getting another job. It just keeps repeating and honestly I’m getting tired of it, That’s why I posted here, Like someone please tell me what I can say to her at this point.
It's super hard to get a new job right now, and I'm guessing the pros outweigh the cons for staying where she is right now. Just let her vent and ask if there's anything you can do to make it better <3
Post by snowmanomura on Feb 22, 2021 10:51:52 GMT -5
I applied to a job at microsoft on a whim last week. It's a job I'm interested in and qualified for, but I'm not actively job hunting or anything, just figured I'd apply and see what happens.
Well, microsoft sent my current boss and my other 2 references FIFTEEN requests for letters of reference - at 8PM on friday night. Figured if anything came of it, I could tell my boss in person, and he wouldn't find out through spamm-y emails. really awkward conversation this morning.
I applied to a job at microsoft on a whim last week. It's a job I'm interested in and qualified for, but I'm not actively job hunting or anything, just figured I'd apply and see what happens.
Well, microsoft sent my current boss and my other 2 references FIFTEEN requests for letters of reference - at 8PM on friday night. Figured if anything came of it, I could tell my boss in person, and he wouldn't find out through spamm-y emails. really awkward conversation this morning.
I get the conversation was awkward, but you got to do you.
I had a coworker once tell me that her old boss said that you should always be looking for your next step up. As an employer I'm sure it sucks to lose a great employee but you can't expect somebody to be stagnant or in these current times loyal indefinitely when companies aren't loyal to their employees.
Employers really don't need to be asking for letters until they're pretty damn sure they're gonna hire you.
Yeah. We don't call references until we're going to offer the job. It's too much work to track all that shit down when they're almost always glowy bullshit.
Post by NothingButFlowers on Feb 23, 2021 10:59:54 GMT -5
Took Omar to the vet yesterday because he’s had blood in his poo. The vet seemed pretty unconcerned about the blood, but he mentioned the big lump on his backside. He’s had a lump there for a long as I can remember, and our vet had seen it before, but I had noticed recently that it appeared to be bigger. He aspirated it and it’s a tumor of some sort. He didn’t really know what, but it’s definitely not a fatty tumor, and it’s growing, so he’s going in tomorrow for surgery to have it removed. I’m sure he’ll be fine, but of course, we worry. He’s a pretty lumpy dog, so there could be more. And really not looking forward to having him be in a cone. We just got done with two weeks of Murray in one, and by the time Omar gets out of his, Murray will be going back for the rest of his dental work, so it’s going to be another month of cones between the two of them.
About 3 years ago I was a government lawyer in a job that I enjoyed and genuinely felt proud of, but it required that I live in the State of New Jersey. I was in love with a girl who insisted on living in New York City, because that’s where her job was and I wanted to live with her. I quit my job that I loved and got a job at a law firm paying me a good deal more. Then she broke up with me.
I worked at that job for a couple years and never really enjoyed it that much. I fell into the trap that if I’m going to work a job that I don’t love, I should be getting paid even more. So I got yet another job, at an even bigger law firm, making even more money. I’ve never felt so empty inside. Every morning I wake up and wonder why I’m doing what I’m doing. I don’t feel like I’m actually helping anybody. My sole purpose is to reduce or eliminate liability for corporations. My boss is actually very nice to me, but there is no gratitude from our clients - no meaning. I’m just another line item on their budget.
I feel stuck because I only started this newest job a few months ago, and there is no guarantee I can even get that government job back. Even so, I’d have to take a massive pay cut to the point that I feel getting a house with my girlfriend (who I’m proposing to in a couple months) would be nearly impossible for several more years. And when I finally have kids and need to pay for their college, I’ll be regretting taking a pay cut. My girlfriend is telling me to apply for the government job that I want, but I’m not sure if she’s properly taking into account the real costs of living in this region. I feel like I’m at a massive crossroads in my life and my career, with the decisions I’m making within the next 12 months essentially determining the rest of my life’s trajectory. I’m sure to some of you I’m coming across as a privileged, and perhaps even ungrateful, snob. But this is my life, and it feels like I’m losing my soul.
Took Omar to the vet yesterday because he’s had blood in his poo. The vet seemed pretty unconcerned about the blood, but he mentioned the big lump on his backside. He’s had a lump there for a long as I can remember, and our vet had seen it before, but I had noticed recently that it appeared to be bigger. He aspirated it and it’s a tumor of some sort. He didn’t really know what, but it’s definitely not a fatty tumor, and it’s growing, so he’s going in tomorrow for surgery to have it removed. I’m sure he’ll be fine, but of course, we worry. He’s a pretty lumpy dog, so there could be more. And really not looking forward to having him be in a cone. We just got done with two weeks of Murray in one, and by the time Omar gets out of his, Murray will be going back for the rest of his dental work, so it’s going to be another month of cones between the two of them.
Omar is home and in good spirits! For now, the vet said he doesn’t need a cone unless his sutures start irritating him, but so far he doesn’t even seem to notice that they’re there.
Took Omar to the vet yesterday because he’s had blood in his poo. The vet seemed pretty unconcerned about the blood, but he mentioned the big lump on his backside. He’s had a lump there for a long as I can remember, and our vet had seen it before, but I had noticed recently that it appeared to be bigger. He aspirated it and it’s a tumor of some sort. He didn’t really know what, but it’s definitely not a fatty tumor, and it’s growing, so he’s going in tomorrow for surgery to have it removed. I’m sure he’ll be fine, but of course, we worry. He’s a pretty lumpy dog, so there could be more. And really not looking forward to having him be in a cone. We just got done with two weeks of Murray in one, and by the time Omar gets out of his, Murray will be going back for the rest of his dental work, so it’s going to be another month of cones between the two of them.
Omar is home and in good spirits! For now, the vet said he doesn’t need a cone unless his sutures start irritating him, but so far he doesn’t even seem to notice that they’re there.
What a champ! They must've given him some good drugs to not feel his franken-booty.
About 3 years ago I was a government lawyer in a job that I enjoyed and genuinely felt proud of, but it required that I live in the State of New Jersey. I was in love with a girl who insisted on living in New York City, because that’s where her job was and I wanted to live with her. I quit my job that I loved and got a job at a law firm paying me a good deal more. Then she broke up with me.
I worked at that job for a couple years and never really enjoyed it that much. I fell into the trap that if I’m going to work a job that I don’t love, I should be getting paid even more. So I got yet another job, at an even bigger law firm, making even more money. I’ve never felt so empty inside. Every morning I wake up and wonder why I’m doing what I’m doing. I don’t feel like I’m actually helping anybody. My sole purpose is to reduce or eliminate liability for corporations. My boss is actually very nice to me, but there is no gratitude from our clients - no meaning. I’m just another line item on their budget.
I feel stuck because I only started this newest job a few months ago, and there is no guarantee I can even get that government job back. Even so, I’d have to take a massive pay cut to the point that I feel getting a house with my girlfriend (who I’m proposing to in a couple months) would be nearly impossible for several more years. And when I finally have kids and need to pay for their college, I’ll be regretting taking a pay cut. My girlfriend is telling me to apply for the government job that I want, but I’m not sure if she’s properly taking into account the real costs of living in this region. I feel like I’m at a massive crossroads in my life and my career, with the decisions I’m making within the next 12 months essentially determining the rest of my life’s trajectory. I’m sure to some of you I’m coming across as a privileged, and perhaps even ungrateful, snob. But this is my life, and it feels like I’m losing my soul.
Listen to your girlfriend. If you wind up getting married, she'd rather have a happy husband/father than a bigger house or private school or something
About 3 years ago I was a government lawyer in a job that I enjoyed and genuinely felt proud of, but it required that I live in the State of New Jersey. I was in love with a girl who insisted on living in New York City, because that’s where her job was and I wanted to live with her. I quit my job that I loved and got a job at a law firm paying me a good deal more. Then she broke up with me.
I worked at that job for a couple years and never really enjoyed it that much. I fell into the trap that if I’m going to work a job that I don’t love, I should be getting paid even more. So I got yet another job, at an even bigger law firm, making even more money. I’ve never felt so empty inside. Every morning I wake up and wonder why I’m doing what I’m doing. I don’t feel like I’m actually helping anybody. My sole purpose is to reduce or eliminate liability for corporations. My boss is actually very nice to me, but there is no gratitude from our clients - no meaning. I’m just another line item on their budget.
I feel stuck because I only started this newest job a few months ago, and there is no guarantee I can even get that government job back. Even so, I’d have to take a massive pay cut to the point that I feel getting a house with my girlfriend (who I’m proposing to in a couple months) would be nearly impossible for several more years. And when I finally have kids and need to pay for their college, I’ll be regretting taking a pay cut. My girlfriend is telling me to apply for the government job that I want, but I’m not sure if she’s properly taking into account the real costs of living in this region. I feel like I’m at a massive crossroads in my life and my career, with the decisions I’m making within the next 12 months essentially determining the rest of my life’s trajectory. I’m sure to some of you I’m coming across as a privileged, and perhaps even ungrateful, snob. But this is my life, and it feels like I’m losing my soul.
Listen to your girlfriend. If you wind up getting married, she'd rather have a happy husband/father than a bigger house or private school or something
This GF sounds like a keeper. If she really cares about you, then she wants you to be happy. I know so many people that are rich and miserable. They have no soul. It got sucked out of them years ago. GTF out and do what brings you joy. You don’t have a big house and fancy car, so what. I have a cassette player in my 2008 Kia Sportage. But I’m happy.
Listen to your girlfriend. If you wind up getting married, she'd rather have a happy husband/father than a bigger house or private school or something
This GF sounds like a keeper. If she really cares about you, then she wants you to be happy. I know so many people that are rich and miserable. They have no soul. It got sucked out of them years ago. GTF out and do what brings you joy. You don’t have a big house and fancy car, so what. I have a cassette player in my 2008 Kia Sportage. But I’m happy.
I was so relieved when my dad retired because he hated his job so much I was worried the stress would kill him. He had multiple colleagues that literally died within a year of their retirement. He retired at 55 and was chastised for it, but he's so damn happy now, 10 years later.
At a minimum get out of the big corporate bullshit. If not gov’t, anything non-profit, law-adjacent, small firm, etc?
Aside from the one type of government job that I previously did, I don’t actually KNOW that I’ll like some random non-profit. I suppose I’m paranoid I will take a big pay cut for a job that I also won’t like. Then I’d really be in a shit situation, lower pay AND not liking the work.
How do you all actually find work that you like? Just keep moving around year to year until you find something that sticks? I’ve only been in the workforce for like 6 years. How the hell am I supposed to even know what I like?
At a minimum get out of the big corporate bullshit. If not gov’t, anything non-profit, law-adjacent, small firm, etc?
Aside from the one type of government job that I previously did, I don’t actually KNOW that I’ll like some random non-profit. I suppose I’m paranoid I will take a big pay cut for a job that I also won’t like. Then I’d really be in a shit situation, lower pay AND not liking the work.
How do you all actually find work that you like? Just keep moving around year to year until you find something that sticks? I’ve only been in the workforce for like 6 years. How the hell am I supposed to even know what I like?
Referral from someone who already works there, usually.
I'm having a bad week. Unemployment ran out and they're not allowing me to file which means that I can't get my extra $300 cares act money, which I'm trying to fix (it's not looking good). Plus, I'm having severe depression and mental issues, so I haven't sewn all week; which is dumb because I know that usually helps. I'm just so tired and so worried and so over it all.
I know I'll get to work for a few weeks in my field and get my union days which will be amazing. Plus, it'll most probably open the door for more work, which I really fucking need...But life feels so chaotic, unmanageable and out of sorts. I feel forever changed and normalcy seems like a bullshit dream.
I'm having a bad week. Unemployment ran out and they're not allowing me to file which means that I can't get my extra $300 cares act money, which I'm trying to fix (it's not looking good). Plus, I'm having severe depression and mental issues, so I haven't sewn all week; which is dumb because I know that usually helps. I'm just so tired and so worried and so over it all.
I know I'll get to work for a few weeks in my field and get my union days which will be amazing. Plus, it'll most probably open the door for more work, which I really fucking need...But life feels so chaotic, unmanageable and out of sorts. I feel forever changed and normalcy seems like a bullshit dream.
Ugh.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. I’ve been seeing this going around in the last couple of weeks. You’re not alone on the depression and mental issues. It seems that a lot of people are feeling it extra hard right now (myself included). Having to deal with the financial stuff on top of it just compounds it. And even if you know sewing helps you to feel better, it can be very hard to get the motivation to start. Totally understandable.
At a minimum get out of the big corporate bullshit. If not gov’t, anything non-profit, law-adjacent, small firm, etc?
Aside from the one type of government job that I previously did, I don’t actually KNOW that I’ll like some random non-profit. I suppose I’m paranoid I will take a big pay cut for a job that I also won’t like. Then I’d really be in a shit situation, lower pay AND not liking the work.
How do you all actually find work that you like? Just keep moving around year to year until you find something that sticks? I’ve only been in the workforce for like 6 years. How the hell am I supposed to even know what I like?
I'm essentially at this sort of crossroads (my gf too).
approaching yr 7, but when I got an award for my 5 yr at a company function I had to just basically swallow how upset I was and go up and accept it. I told our sister company's president, who I've known forever, "nothing like an award to let you know your five year plan failed".
hate it, but it got me this house, it gave me flexibility to finish school, but I don't want to keep diving further into it, to the point I've actually asked to not be considered for certain promotions.
I always wanted to do research but my life course just wasn't ready for that, and now it seems like with the house I can't just galavant around the US truly giving my all to a PhD.
I think I'm going to try to stick it out for a couple more years and try to get an environmental masters so I can maybe do policy work or be an eco-cop of some sorts, which is something I can do fairly easily still rooted, and maybe (hopefully) get into something I have a passion for
I'm having a bad week. Unemployment ran out and they're not allowing me to file which means that I can't get my extra $300 cares act money, which I'm trying to fix (it's not looking good). Plus, I'm having severe depression and mental issues, so I haven't sewn all week; which is dumb because I know that usually helps. I'm just so tired and so worried and so over it all.
I know I'll get to work for a few weeks in my field and get my union days which will be amazing. Plus, it'll most probably open the door for more work, which I really fucking need...But life feels so chaotic, unmanageable and out of sorts. I feel forever changed and normalcy seems like a bullshit dream.
Ugh.
I’m starting to lose it. I’ve only ever felt like this in the past because of a break up, and that’s always a temporary depression or whatever you want to call it. This is something completely different. Have you been strictly quarantining?
The only people I see who are 55+ that I spend time with have either already gotten the vaccine or have put in zero effort to get it. I know I’m months away from getting the vaccine and I just can’t justify the quarantine any more. Yesterday I met up with a friend to lift weights and just straight up wrestle/ do BJJ sparring. When I saw him I shook his hand and hugged his fiancé and I realize it was the first time I even touched another person in like a year other than my girlfriend, mom, aunt, and grandma. (Not sure ive ever actually hugged my dad or brother, so not missing out there). I realize how much the quarantined has fucked up my brain. My work from home and limitation to communicating with my friends virtually has really made me stop feeling like a human. It’s fucking nuts.
I'm having a bad week. Unemployment ran out and they're not allowing me to file which means that I can't get my extra $300 cares act money, which I'm trying to fix (it's not looking good). Plus, I'm having severe depression and mental issues, so I haven't sewn all week; which is dumb because I know that usually helps. I'm just so tired and so worried and so over it all.
I know I'll get to work for a few weeks in my field and get my union days which will be amazing. Plus, it'll most probably open the door for more work, which I really fucking need...But life feels so chaotic, unmanageable and out of sorts. I feel forever changed and normalcy seems like a bullshit dream.
Ugh.
I'm so sorry. Right now really sucks for so many people (myself included). I don't think things will go back to how they were, but I'm hoping in some ways we will be better, more empathetic, more open and honest with how we're *really* feeling, more appreciative of good times, etc...
Dr. Joe Very strict other than the monthly craft fair. I did two outings this weekend and it was the first time I've seen friends in forever. I outdoor exercised/skated with two friends and then went to an outdoor crawfish boil of 7 including myself. 3 of those were vaccinated.
I'm not as bad as I was, but not 100. I have a few orders I have to get finished this week and I'm starting a job that will last 3-4 weeks on the 8th. Hopefully, all this will help.
Took Omar to the vet yesterday because he’s had blood in his poo. The vet seemed pretty unconcerned about the blood, but he mentioned the big lump on his backside. He’s had a lump there for a long as I can remember, and our vet had seen it before, but I had noticed recently that it appeared to be bigger. He aspirated it and it’s a tumor of some sort. He didn’t really know what, but it’s definitely not a fatty tumor, and it’s growing, so he’s going in tomorrow for surgery to have it removed. I’m sure he’ll be fine, but of course, we worry. He’s a pretty lumpy dog, so there could be more. And really not looking forward to having him be in a cone. We just got done with two weeks of Murray in one, and by the time Omar gets out of his, Murray will be going back for the rest of his dental work, so it’s going to be another month of cones between the two of them.
Omar is home and in good spirits! For now, the vet said he doesn’t need a cone unless his sutures start irritating him, but so far he doesn’t even seem to notice that they’re there.
Update: Pretty sure there was never blood in his poo to start with. He’d had some Beggin’ Strips and we think those are what made his poo look like there was blood in it.