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FML those bastards finally did it, every single coffee machine at work is broken. How tf does this even happen. Wtf am I supposed to do know, drink tea, no thank you.
update: made a makeshift filter system, kinda worked, got lots of grounds in my cup but I think I can prefect this after a few weeks. I also look like a crazy person in the office kitchen rn
vamp have you considered getting a french press or somethin similar. might be less fussy
update: made a makeshift filter system, kinda worked, got lots of grounds in my cup but I think I can prefect this after a few weeks. I also look like a crazy person in the office kitchen rn
vamp have you considered getting a french press or somethin similar. might be less fussy
::Digs out one of her 3 French presses so that she can give kingvamp999wrld one at brunch::
Remind me if I forget. It is the little one I used for work when I was in the office. Isn't huge, but will give you a nice cup.
You guys ever dig out your festival string lights and just wonder what kind of animal twisted and balled those motherfuckers up in an impossible labyrinth of cords instead of nicely wrapping them knowing damn well that you are that kind of animal?
We're all a mess of paradoxes. Believing in things we know can't be true. We walk around carrying feelings too complicated and contradictory to express. But when it all becomes too big, and words aren't enough to help get it all out, there's always music.
vamp have you considered getting a french press or somethin similar. might be less fussy
::Digs out one of her 3 French presses so that she can give kingvamp999wrld one at brunch::
Remind me if I forget. It is the little one I used for work when I was in the office. Isn't huge, but will give you a nice cup.
You guys ever dig out your festival string lights and just wonder what kind of animal twisted and balled those motherfuckers up in an impossible labyrinth of cords instead of nicely wrapping them knowing damn well that you are that kind of animal?
Omg thank you but I got one at the house already for when i work from home. My gf roast her own beans but I'm not sure if she has a batch done now but if she has time do do a branch I'd gladly give some beans away
::Digs out one of her 3 French presses so that she can give kingvamp999wrld one at brunch::
Remind me if I forget. It is the little one I used for work when I was in the office. Isn't huge, but will give you a nice cup.
You guys ever dig out your festival string lights and just wonder what kind of animal twisted and balled those motherfuckers up in an impossible labyrinth of cords instead of nicely wrapping them knowing damn well that you are that kind of animal?
Omg thank you but I got one at the house already for when i work from home. My gf roast her own beans but I'm not sure if she has a batch done now but if she has time do do a branch I'd gladly give some beans away
Oh damn. GF who roasts is elite. no problem. Thought I'd grab it if you need one but sounds like you are covered~
We're all a mess of paradoxes. Believing in things we know can't be true. We walk around carrying feelings too complicated and contradictory to express. But when it all becomes too big, and words aren't enough to help get it all out, there's always music.
::Digs out one of her 3 French presses so that she can give kingvamp999wrld one at brunch::
Remind me if I forget. It is the little one I used for work when I was in the office. Isn't huge, but will give you a nice cup.
You guys ever dig out your festival string lights and just wonder what kind of animal twisted and balled those motherfuckers up in an impossible labyrinth of cords instead of nicely wrapping them knowing damn well that you are that kind of animal?
Omg thank you but I got one at the house already for when i work from home. My gf roast her own beans but I'm not sure if she has a batch done now but if she has time do do a branch I'd gladly give some beans away
can’t believe I’m gonna be missing out on fresh roasted coffee by vamp’s GF
Having white people comment on food threads about Jamaican food is infuriating. The food is delicious but there were multiple "nopes" because a normal JA diet is fish and bomme for breakfast, which doesn't look appetizing to them. And that's why Bunny's shirt she gave me that says Black Diets Matter marinates. They actually said -- "Can't they just make you pancakes" -- literally the most white bread thing you could say. As if that is just powder and butter, the most unhealthy shit you could possibly eat.
This is more of an observation than a Grrr.. but this is the place for it. I realized through Bonnaroo, even with all the quick smiles, that I'm going to be alone/non-coupled for the rest of my life. I have to accept it and take it as is, and acknowledging it is healthy. NYC and Brooklyn is a cold soul, unless I found a "spot" I'm not going to meet anyone. I'm done with sites for multiple reasons. So call it my fault for not doing enough to earn a relationship but so be it. It's healthier to understand you are not going to ever have a partner again.
This is more of an observation than a Grrr.. but this is the place for it. I realized through Bonnaroo, even with all the quick smiles, that I'm going to be alone/non-coupled for the rest of my life. I have to accept it and take it as is, and acknowledging it is healthy. NYC and Brooklyn is a cold soul, unless I found a "spot" I'm not going to meet anyone. I'm done with sites for multiple reasons. So call it my fault for not doing enough to earn a relationship but so be it. It's healthier to understand you are not going to ever have a partner again.
Your a fairly young artist in NYC/Brooklyn which already is pretty tough money wise. But yea dating apps suck its pretty hard to get anything better than a quick hookup on those. Honestly best way to keep people in my experience is work. Most of the people I've worked with at Amazon are now in relationships from other people at Amazon. Also dating pool is changing consistently from the high turn over.
Basically what I'm trnya say is, I kinda think your buggin and of course dating apps suck but you shouldn't give up. Hop on IG/tiktok and get plugged into your local art/music scene. If you don't got a cool scene for you, then make it yourself. And relationship wise dont compare yourself to others, life ain't a race
I feel more stressed out working a office job then I did working 60hr weeks at Amazon.
I felt like this at work for a long time. What helped me calm down was reminding myself there are other jobs out there for me if this one doesn’t work out, putting away a little emergency fund in case I do lose my job, and also just taking a look around me at the other workers at different corporations and realizing the bar for succeeding at an office job is pretty low which allowed me to stop being such a perfectionist at work.
This is more of an observation than a Grrr.. but this is the place for it. I realized through Bonnaroo, even with all the quick smiles, that I'm going to be alone/non-coupled for the rest of my life. I have to accept it and take it as is, and acknowledging it is healthy. NYC and Brooklyn is a cold soul, unless I found a "spot" I'm not going to meet anyone. I'm done with sites for multiple reasons. So call it my fault for not doing enough to earn a relationship but so be it. It's healthier to understand you are not going to ever have a partner again.
Your a fairly young artist in NYC/Brooklyn which already is pretty tough money wise. But yea dating apps suck its pretty hard to get anything better than a quick hookup on those. Honestly best way to keep people in my experience is work. Most of the people I've worked with at Amazon are now in relationships from other people at Amazon. Also dating pool is changing consistently from the high turn over.
Basically what I'm trnya say is, I kinda think your buggin and of course dating apps suck but you shouldn't give up. Hop on IG/tiktok and get plugged into your local art/music scene. If you don't got a cool scene for you, then make it yourself. And relationship wise dont compare yourself to others, life ain't a race
I didn't respond because I understand where you are coming from, and I just want to re-butt out of a trigger point. I might be buggin, but there are also a shitload of stuff people don't know is going on in my life that makes my future in question, we makes me a BAD PARTNER. I'm not saying someone can't fall in love with me, but can I have a healthy relationship? Not really.
It's not clear from my previous statement that it's me understanding self and not throwing this as the fault of women. I'm buggin because I need to work on myself still and by the time I really heal I'll probably be too old. Not a race, but, forcing myself into a community is also toxic?
Your a fairly young artist in NYC/Brooklyn which already is pretty tough money wise. But yea dating apps suck its pretty hard to get anything better than a quick hookup on those. Honestly best way to keep people in my experience is work. Most of the people I've worked with at Amazon are now in relationships from other people at Amazon. Also dating pool is changing consistently from the high turn over.
Basically what I'm trnya say is, I kinda think your buggin and of course dating apps suck but you shouldn't give up. Hop on IG/tiktok and get plugged into your local art/music scene. If you don't got a cool scene for you, then make it yourself. And relationship wise dont compare yourself to others, life ain't a race
I didn't respond because I understand where you are coming from, and I just want to re-butt out of a trigger point. I might be buggin, but there are also a shitload of stuff people don't know is going on in my life that makes my future in question, we makes me a BAD PARTNER. I'm not saying someone can't fall in love with me, but can I have a healthy relationship? Not really.
It's not clear from my previous statement that it's me understanding self and not throwing this as the fault of women. I'm buggin because I need to work on myself still and by the time I really heal I'll probably be too old. Not a race, but, forcing myself into a community is also toxic?
Nah I see what your saying now. If it helps. I was in a pretty shitty rut the past 2ish years that almost caused my relationship to end and some other crazy stuff happend I mentioned a few times on this site. Got sent to threapy and that really did work wonders for me. I know its not a option for everyone due to $ but just throwing it out there hoping things get better
FML those bastards finally did it, every single coffee machine at work is broken. How tf does this even happen. Wtf am I supposed to do know, drink tea, no thank you.
update: made a makeshift filter system, kinda worked, got lots of grounds in my cup but I think I can prefect this after a few weeks. I also look like a crazy person in the office kitchen rn
They're like $25.00 right? Tell whoever has petty cash you'll buy one and they will pay you back.
update: made a makeshift filter system, kinda worked, got lots of grounds in my cup but I think I can prefect this after a few weeks. I also look like a crazy person in the office kitchen rn
They're like $25.00 right? Tell whoever has petty cash you'll buy one and they will pay you back.
Iirc, vamp is a federal employee. That’s not how the government operates.
They're like $25.00 right? Tell whoever has petty cash you'll buy one and they will pay you back.
Iirc, vamp is a federal employee. That’s not how the government operates.
lol. They get plenty of other benefits though. I suppose the protocol would then be to fill out form 24 stroke C A-23 and bring it to procurement along with a justification. No chance the government doesn't have at least 10,000 coffee pots in storage somewhere that somebody knows about.
This is more of an observation than a Grrr.. but this is the place for it. I realized through Bonnaroo, even with all the quick smiles, that I'm going to be alone/non-coupled for the rest of my life. I have to accept it and take it as is, and acknowledging it is healthy. NYC and Brooklyn is a cold soul, unless I found a "spot" I'm not going to meet anyone. I'm done with sites for multiple reasons. So call it my fault for not doing enough to earn a relationship but so be it. It's healthier to understand you are not going to ever have a partner again.
I’m in an almost 4 year slump so I feel you. It’s lonely out here. Sometimes I look at the dudes who are in relationships and get so annoyed that I struggle to even get first dates when I feel like I’m genuinely a really solid guy overall despite having some weight issues (I’m on a good career path, I’m working on my mental health, I’m funny, etc).
What has been improving me from that nihilistic mindset you’re describing to a more optimistic one is just remembering life is a marathon not a sprint. If you’re putting consistent effort into yourself in your 20s, by the time you’re 30, it’ll be pretty hard not to end up in a relationship, because the bar for men is actually absurdly low if you can check off a few basic boxes (unfortunately for me, probably the biggest two boxes are somewhat decent physical fitness and living independtly, and I’m very overweight and living at home to help support my dying mother). Being a man in your 20s is just so weird rn, I know very few guys who are succeeding at forming relationships in this age. We’re just expected to do a lot of self growth and discovery before we even get a chance at love.
I think rejection tolerance and where you choose to try to meet people is important too. I spent most of my young adult life hoping for the meetcute. I would intentionally not pursue people at work or within my social circle because online we are told “don’t shit where you eat,” but as Vamp said, a lot of relationships form as work. So while I had no problem getting rejected at a bar, I was terrified of asking out a coworker and getting reported to HR or asking out a friend of a friend and getting creep shamed in my social circle. Also, try to meet people at things you have some level of “clout” in. I hit it off with a woman at a concert recently (not sure she’s interested like that, but might end up being a friend). Having w cool band shirt on + Primavera & Bonnaroo stories to tell made me have some level of status in that particular environment. Whereas if I tried to go to a night club, I wouldn’t have that sort of status at all.
As for rejection tolerance, trying reading two books: Models by Mark Manson & How to Not Die Alone by Logan Ury. These books taught me that the way to have a healthy dating life as a man is to be unashamedly yourself and put yourself out there as much as you can. Go to more social events, get on all the apps with a couple of premium accounts if you can afford them, pursue cool social hobbies.
Good luck to you, I’m basically in the same boat as you, just a few months of working on myself further along.
Edit: and bonus book recommendation: Self Esteem by McKay et al. Has been a game changer for the way I see myself and think about social situations.
Iirc, vamp is a federal employee. That’s not how the government operates.
Lol yup, even something this small there's a bunch of red tape. Most people just bring there own stuff to share outta niceness
I’m very unsociable, so I historically just kept a coffee pot of my own in my office.
In my first job out of school, we organized a water cooler pool that a bunch of us contributed to so that we didn’t have to drink tap water or disposable water bottles. (Until they found lead or something in the building’s water and had to provide us with coolers.)
It's healthier to understand you are not going to ever have a partner again.
i have a lot to say about this point, but i'm going to keep it short and largely agree with this specific point, as i do think this is a healthy mindset. you could meet someone and they could die abruptly. or you could be 34 and finally meet someone after being single your whole life. my point is, life is long and hard and the only relationship you're going to have the whole time is the one with yourself. so treat yourself kindly and be your own #1.
This is more of an observation than a Grrr.. but this is the place for it. I realized through Bonnaroo, even with all the quick smiles, that I'm going to be alone/non-coupled for the rest of my life. I have to accept it and take it as is, and acknowledging it is healthy. NYC and Brooklyn is a cold soul, unless I found a "spot" I'm not going to meet anyone. I'm done with sites for multiple reasons. So call it my fault for not doing enough to earn a relationship but so be it. It's healthier to understand you are not going to ever have a partner again.
I’m in an almost 4 year slump so I feel you. It’s lonely out here. Sometimes I look at the dudes who are in relationships and get so annoyed that I struggle to even get first dates when I feel like I’m genuinely a really solid guy overall despite having some weight issues (I’m on a good career path, I’m working on my mental health, I’m funny, etc).
What has been improving me from that nihilistic mindset you’re describing to a more optimistic one is just remembering life is a marathon not a sprint. If you’re putting consistent effort into yourself in your 20s, by the time you’re 30, it’ll be pretty hard not to end up in a relationship, because the bar for men is actually absurdly low if you can check off a few basic boxes (unfortunately for me, probably the biggest two boxes are somewhat decent physical fitness and living independtly, and I’m very overweight and living at home to help support my dying mother). Being a man in your 20s is just so weird rn, I know very few guys who are succeeding at forming relationships in this age. We’re just expected to do a lot of self growth and discovery before we even get a chance at love.
For the record, Deto's in his (their?) mid 30s
Anyway, it's been a source of frustration to me to see my ex-gf of 10 years have a new partner and do well. Meanwhile, I struggle to get second dates. Online dating sucks.
Take last Saturday for example - we meet up for lunch. She spends most of the time staring off into space and not really talking. Even my autistic ass can figure out this is going nowhere. But then again, time and time again I keep asking out these girls who I'd honestly get bored with after a few months. I'm not an introverted homebody anymore, I should probably stop dating girls who are.
Last Edit: Jun 23, 2023 12:50:26 GMT -5 by LD - Back to Top
I’m in an almost 4 year slump so I feel you. It’s lonely out here. Sometimes I look at the dudes who are in relationships and get so annoyed that I struggle to even get first dates when I feel like I’m genuinely a really solid guy overall despite having some weight issues (I’m on a good career path, I’m working on my mental health, I’m funny, etc).
What has been improving me from that nihilistic mindset you’re describing to a more optimistic one is just remembering life is a marathon not a sprint. If you’re putting consistent effort into yourself in your 20s, by the time you’re 30, it’ll be pretty hard not to end up in a relationship, because the bar for men is actually absurdly low if you can check off a few basic boxes (unfortunately for me, probably the biggest two boxes are somewhat decent physical fitness and living independtly, and I’m very overweight and living at home to help support my dying mother). Being a man in your 20s is just so weird rn, I know very few guys who are succeeding at forming relationships in this age. We’re just expected to do a lot of self growth and discovery before we even get a chance at love.
For the record, Deto's in his (their?) mid 30s
Anyway, it's been a source of frustration to me to see my ex-gf of 10 years have a new partner and do well. Meanwhile, I struggle to get second dates. Online dating sucks.
Take last Saturday for example - we meet up for lunch. She spends most of the time staring off into space and not really talking. Even my autistic ass can figure out this is going nowhere. But then again, time and time again I keep asking out these girls who I'd honestly get bored with after a few months. I'm not an introverted homebody anymore, I should probably stop dating girls who are.
Didn’t know that, I interpreted late 20s from Vamp’s “you’re a fairly young artist” comment, but still that’s not an age it’s a lost cause at. Men peak in attractiveness in their late 30s.
Post by xfinitypass on Jun 23, 2023 13:04:36 GMT -5
But I totally feel what you’re saying about first dates going poorly. I don’t get many, but when I do I feel like I’m walking on eggshells. Like my date is looking for any misstep I make as an excuse to not see me again. One I particularly remember is with a woman who I’d been having deep convos with online for several weeks and had an overall very fun concert & food date with, only to get rejected by text later the same night because she said that I “looked disappointed when we didn’t kiss that night.” The 4 years of loneliness rearing its ugly head.
Anyway, it's been a source of frustration to me to see my ex-gf of 10 years have a new partner and do well. Meanwhile, I struggle to get second dates. Online dating sucks.
Take last Saturday for example - we meet up for lunch. She spends most of the time staring off into space and not really talking. Even my autistic ass can figure out this is going nowhere. But then again, time and time again I keep asking out these girls who I'd honestly get bored with after a few months. I'm not an introverted homebody anymore, I should probably stop dating girls who are.
Didn’t know that, I interpreted late 20s from Vamp’s “you’re a fairly young artist” comment, but still that’s not an age it’s a lost cause at. Men peak in attractiveness in their late 30s.
37 going onto 38 in August. I'm not young to the marketplace I'm in, where work even hurts (sound recordist and AV tech). I try not to be down on the GOOD work that I do, but the pay gap is huge between certain workers and that is a "problem". And finding the time to look into relationships is only viable for certain folks (learned this the hard way). People do not often think you still love them when you can't make them the priority
My low key sociopathic roommate - who demanded not asked for me to wear headphones after 12pm-8am (mostly because twitch fucked up and started auto-playing at full volume, yea if he asked what happened that would have been nice), discounts the fact that I live in the hottest room and had a bad winter, says my epilepsy doesn't exist, ALSO will wake up and start stomping his fucking feet on the ground as if my sound is too high at 9am.
Also is obsessed with closing every door all the goddamn time. Also is a total hypocrite and I will hear him yelling at his gaming system/game at 3am. I miss my past roommate who I feel like actually gave a fuck.... Oh yeah and he called me of all fucking people dirty, while he has a stench and has dirt all over me (i.e. the bathtub shows it and he's tried to blame me). We never had cockroaches and I have never seen one, but he tried to throw that at me that "my scraps" are the reason --- Anyone who knows me, knows that I flash cook but cleaning is not my issue. Also during Bonnaroo he texted me to clean up HIS cardboard boxes bc he keeps buying shit CONSTANTLY.
I've been busting my ass the past month after my boss left and I just got passed over for her position.
I'm rather disappointed at the moment.
This has now happened for the second time. Very much feeling like it's time to switch jobs. Which sucks, because I like my job, and I like the industry I'm in. But I want growth (actually by that I really just mean I want more money - if my salary was higher I'd do this forever), and I don't think this company has a spot for me. If I was going to get that GM position, this would have been the time.
I've been busting my ass the past month after my boss left and I just got passed over for her position.
I'm rather disappointed at the moment.
This has now happened for the second time. Very much feeling like it's time to switch jobs. Which sucks, because I like my job, and I like the industry I'm in. But I want growth (actually by that I really just mean I want more money - if my salary was higher I'd do this forever), and I don't think this company has a spot for me. If I was going to get that GM position, this would have been the time.
Have you at least gotten regular raises? If not, it is definitely time to go unfortunately. Hopefully you are able to find a job in the industry you are in that you love and has growth. Fingers crossed. <3
I've been busting my ass the past month after my boss left and I just got passed over for her position.
I'm rather disappointed at the moment.
This has now happened for the second time. Very much feeling like it's time to switch jobs. Which sucks, because I like my job, and I like the industry I'm in. But I want growth (actually by that I really just mean I want more money - if my salary was higher I'd do this forever), and I don't think this company has a spot for me. If I was going to get that GM position, this would have been the time.
You deserve more. Sorry that you got passed over for the GM position. That's really shitty. Just based on the love, empathy, and commitment to this place that I see from you and your PoI podcast episode, I know you're a great employee and are worth more (not that any of us are defined by our income or position or whatever but you get what I mean). I hope you find somewhere that will allow for growth or at least a higher salary but where you'd also feel like you could do that forever too/at least like it. I don't know a lot about your industry, but I know you're passionate about it. Are there similar companies with more upward mobility? Or GM jobs that you could transition to at other places close by? Nonetheless, sorry this happened to you for a second time, Jaz.
My low key sociopathic roommate - who demanded not asked for me to wear headphones after 12pm-8am (mostly because twitch fucked up and started auto-playing at full volume, yea if he asked what happened that would have been nice), discounts the fact that I live in the hottest room and had a bad winter, says my epilepsy doesn't exist, ALSO will wake up and start stomping his fucking feet on the ground as if my sound is too high at 9am.
Also is obsessed with closing every door all the goddamn time. Also is a total hypocrite and I will hear him yelling at his gaming system/game at 3am. I miss my past roommate who I feel like actually gave a fuck.... Oh yeah and he called me of all fucking people dirty, while he has a stench and has dirt all over me (i.e. the bathtub shows it and he's tried to blame me). We never had cockroaches and I have never seen one, but he tried to throw that at me that "my scraps" are the reason --- Anyone who knows me, knows that I flash cook but cleaning is not my issue. Also during Bonnaroo he texted me to clean up HIS cardboard boxes bc he keeps buying shit CONSTANTLY.
LOL this asshat just told his younger brother or a nephew... while taking up a shit load of the hall space, that he "can't wait until he doesn't have to keep his door locked".... LIKE WE ARE GOING TO STEAL FROM HIM. WTF.
My low key sociopathic roommate - who demanded not asked for me to wear headphones after 12pm-8am (mostly because twitch fucked up and started auto-playing at full volume, yea if he asked what happened that would have been nice), discounts the fact that I live in the hottest room and had a bad winter, says my epilepsy doesn't exist, ALSO will wake up and start stomping his fucking feet on the ground as if my sound is too high at 9am.
Also is obsessed with closing every door all the goddamn time. Also is a total hypocrite and I will hear him yelling at his gaming system/game at 3am. I miss my past roommate who I feel like actually gave a fuck.... Oh yeah and he called me of all fucking people dirty, while he has a stench and has dirt all over me (i.e. the bathtub shows it and he's tried to blame me). We never had cockroaches and I have never seen one, but he tried to throw that at me that "my scraps" are the reason --- Anyone who knows me, knows that I flash cook but cleaning is not my issue. Also during Bonnaroo he texted me to clean up HIS cardboard boxes bc he keeps buying shit CONSTANTLY.
LOL this asshat just told his younger brother or a nephew... while taking up a shit load of the hall space, that he "can't wait until he doesn't have to keep his door locked".... LIKE WE ARE GOING TO STEAL FROM HIM. WTF.
"I don't want you here in the first place, why would I want any of your shit?"
Post by NothingButFlowers on Jun 26, 2023 9:20:23 GMT -5
Just going about my day, having a relatively productive Monday morning, and I get hit with an ocular migraine. I don’t get headaches with them and they’re pretty infrequent, so I’m lucky like that. But they are so damn weird and unpleasant.
