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Katie Mae, that's got to be so overwhelming and having to feel/keep that secret. I think Gardenfresh made a good suggestion. I hope that things go ok with your mom and that you can visit her soon. ::hugs::
Post by Dave Maynar on Jul 27, 2012 12:40:39 GMT -5
So, I was checking the news today, and a guy I went to high school with got arrested for "on charges of sexual exploitation of minor based on pornographic images found on his computer". He was a nice enough guy, but, honestly, I hope he gets shanked.
So, I was checking the news today, and a guy I went to high school with got arrested for "on charges of sexual exploitation of minor based on pornographic images found on his computer". He was a nice enough guy, but, honestly, I hope he gets shanked.
When I was in elementary school we had an art teacher who was on the surface a great guy & teacher. He would stay after school with groups of kids to do school-wide art projects, we would see him around town and that type of stuff.
Well it turned out he was a CREEPY pedophile and some of the stuff he did I won't repeat here. Needless to say, I was sitting in class one day and my friend's dad (she lived up the street so at this point in my life this guy was one of about 5 grown men shaping my mind on how to be a man) stormed into the classroom and decked the teacher. People must've been running after him because there was a flood of people in the room holding the guy back.
Long story short, he had a "student of the month" club, and basically would award a student by sketching a portrait of them (he was actually a fantastic artist) and would hang it on the wall. He had about 25 by the time I got there. Well, apparently he abused every kid who went on the wall and it took until it happened to my friend for one to speak up. Last I heard the teacher was spending his sentence in confinement because he had been stabbed on two different occasions.
So, I was checking the news today, and a guy I went to high school with got arrested for "on charges of sexual exploitation of minor based on pornographic images found on his computer". He was a nice enough guy, but, honestly, I hope he gets shanked.
When I was in elementary school we had an art teacher who was on the surface a great guy & teacher. <snipped> Long story short, he had a "student of the month" club, and basically would award a student by sketching a portrait of them (he was actually a fantastic artist) and would hang it on the wall. He had about 25 by the time I got there. Well, apparently he abused every kid who went on the wall and it took until it happened to my friend for one to speak up. Last I heard the teacher was spending his sentence in confinement because he had been stabbed on two different occasions.
Damn, that's quacked up right there. The bass player from the thrash metal band i was in in high school is serving a stretch for "fiddling around" with two 12 year old girls he was suppose to be looking after. And he seemed like such a cool guy He was like the stereo type of cool guy. He rode a motor cycle, played in a heavy metal band, always had cool shiz to say, and all the girls thought he was super hot...It still disturbs me that someone I knew, a good friend, someone I thought was one of the coolest people would do something like that.
As much as I seriously hate to have to believe it (because it scares me). It's true. You just never really know what someone is capable of or what they might do.
quack my job and my bosses. So quackin' glad I don't have to put up with this bullhonkey much longer.
::edit:: And the situation just got better! They've scheduled me specifically and only[/b][/u] on the days I told them I have my studio internship! Maybe tomorrow will just be my last day and I'll move back to Raleigh broke as a joke.
This is really personal, but I don't know where else to talk about. I can't post on fb cause not all my siblings know yet, and I have no real close friends around here anymore.
I found out tonight that my mother is in the hospital with a non functioning pancreas, due to very heavy drinking. As far as I knew, and the rest of my siblings, both my parents had been completely sober when it came to drinking since the 80's. The last year or two she started secretly drinking again, according to my father. I'm one of four, all girls, only one of my other sisters knows the real reason she's in the hospital, because my mom is ashamed. I only know because I'm that sisters confidant. My mother had said that she was in the hospital for breathing problems and a stomach issue, but my sister didn't believe her. She confronted my dad and he came clean to her. My sister is now taking control of the situation and becoming her medical proxy because my father, bless his heart, is not the most responsible person, and is well intentioned but has his own issues that don't make him the best person to make hardcore medical decisions for my mother. I know so very little about what's going on, and I can't even go see my mom cause she isn't allowing visitors. Her doctor said that if she drinks again, she'll die, basically. I don't even know what to think or feel right now. I'll know more tomorrow, but this came out of nowhere today.
Katy, I have been looking at your post for several days trying to figure out what to say to best help you. I still haven't figured it out but want you to know that I care and am sending you positive thoughts.
Alcoholism is such a horrible disease. I, too, live with an alcoholic and have finally learned, after many years to just let go...that nothing I do or say will control the other person's actions, however harmful they may be. You have to take care of yourself first and offer unconditional love to your family...while at the same time realizing that sometimes the ultimate act of love is to let go. By this I don't mean to turn your back on anyone...just let that feeling take root deep inside you that you can't affect the outcomes or actions, just your reaction to them.
I personally have never gone in for the 12 step stuff although I know it works for many people. Regardless, you should not have to shoulder this burden and this hurt alone. It took a lot of courage to post it here...know that your Inforoo family loves you and stands by you.
Let me know if there is anything I can do or if you need to vent xo
Anyone who has watched the Olympics has seen these new Apple "genius" commercials. Already people have taken that as a license to bug me on my way to/from work about any and all problems they've had with Apple products as soon as they see that white apple on my shirt. Guess i gotta travel incogneto from now on. GRRRRRR
Wow my whining about work in comparison to the other stuff on this page is kinda sad.
I can't speak much to pedophiles, I fortunately never personally knew anyone like that, but Katy, I don't want to say too much about it, but a close member of my immediate family has an alcohol problem. It's so hard because she's so insistent that it's only in social situations that she drinks and just gets a little carried away, but a few family members have said they've caught her sneaking drinks out at her car, in the bathroom, etc. It's really tough. You're constantly wondering why they feel the need to do what they do, and it's so upsetting. I hope we can get through to her before she ends up facing any serious consequences.
Post by abrakapokus on Jul 29, 2012 13:01:20 GMT -5
Back from Little Rock with Mom and the kids and the internet is going down all day. For some reason I feel like I NEED to catch up on all I've missed.
The guy who Dave went to school with and got arrested for child porn charges is someone I worked with for years. I also worked with his wife who taught my son gymnastics when he was small. They have 3 kids together, it makes me sick to think that he has done something like this. I feel so bad for his wife and kids.
This is really personal, but I don't know where else to talk about. I can't post on fb cause not all my siblings know yet, and I have no real close friends around here anymore.
I found out tonight that my mother is in the hospital with a non functioning pancreas, due to very heavy drinking. As far as I knew, and the rest of my siblings, both my parents had been completely sober when it came to drinking since the 80's. The last year or two she started secretly drinking again, according to my father. I'm one of four, all girls, only one of my other sisters knows the real reason she's in the hospital, because my mom is ashamed. I only know because I'm that sisters confidant. My mother had said that she was in the hospital for breathing problems and a stomach issue, but my sister didn't believe her. She confronted my dad and he came clean to her. My sister is now taking control of the situation and becoming her medical proxy because my father, bless his heart, is not the most responsible person, and is well intentioned but has his own issues that don't make him the best person to make hardcore medical decisions for my mother. I know so very little about what's going on, and I can't even go see my mom cause she isn't allowing visitors. Her doctor said that if she drinks again, she'll die, basically. I don't even know what to think or feel right now. I'll know more tomorrow, but this came out of nowhere today.
I don't know how you feel about 12-step groups, but it sounds like Alanon is a good resource you. I encourage finding a meeting nearby and just checking it out.
I myself grew up with alcoholism in the family, I understand that it presents unique situations--whether the alcoholic in question is drinking still or sober.
Alanon/Alateen really helped me in the past because it was a place I could go to and hear from other people going through similar situations, and find unique wisdom and experience. Otherwise, I would have gone through it all alone and it would have been much harder.
If anything, just go to vent. People will listen. :-)
I've been to many Alanon meetings and they are extremely helpful. even if you don't say a word you realize you are not alone and that helps so much. I have a similar issue with my father so I feel what you are going through. best of luck and I'm available if you want to vent/chat or just hear another story
Post by gardenfresh on Jul 31, 2012 10:04:34 GMT -5
GRRRRRRRRR i had a back spasm yesterday getting ready for work. 25 hours later and it still feels like golfball (made of very sharp ginsu blades) is stuck in my lower back.
Post by easymorningrebel on Jul 31, 2012 15:39:37 GMT -5
Last week they notified us that the building I live in had to be fumigated for termites. So I spent all weekend packing up my clothes and vaulables, finding a friend to watch my dog, putting all my houseplants outside, etc. The building management told us to remove our valuables because they weren't responsible for anything stolen while the place was fumigated. So I packed up my computer and the few valuables I have and went to stay with a friend. In the morning I walked outside to get a toothbrush from my car and my hatchback was wide open and so were my doors. My car had been ransacked. Overnight someone broke into my car and stole my computer and my ps3. I could care less about the ps3, it was broken and wouldn't read discs but dammit my computer was only a year old and I used it everyday!! I've only told one friend, and it felt good to get it off my chest but I hate to grouse about this at work. I know it's just a computer and I've been tryin to be positive all day, after all they could have stolen my car and everything in it. I's just been hard to concentrate at work all day and I needed to vent...
Last week they notified us that the building I live in had to be fumigated for termites. So I spent all weekend packing up my clothes and vaulables, finding a friend to watch my dog, putting all my houseplants outside, etc. The building management told us to remove our valuables because they weren't responsible for anything stolen while the place was fumigated. So I packed up my computer and the few valuables I have and went to stay with a friend. In the morning I walked outside to get a toothbrush from my car and my hatchback was wide open and so were my doors. My car had been ransacked. Overnight someone broke into my car and stole my computer and my ps3. I could care less about the ps3, it was broken and wouldn't read discs but dammit my computer was only a year old and I used it everyday!! I've only told one friend, and it felt good to get it off my chest but I hate to grouse about this at work. I know it's just a computer and I've been tryin to be positive all day, after all they could have stolen my car and everything in it. I's just been hard to concentrate at work all day and I needed to vent...
We're all a mess of paradoxes. Believing in things we know can't be true. We walk around carrying feelings too complicated and contradictory to express. But when it all becomes too big, and words aren't enough to help get it all out, there's always music.
Last week they notified us that the building I live in had to be fumigated for termites. So I spent all weekend packing up my clothes and vaulables, finding a friend to watch my dog, putting all my houseplants outside, etc. The building management told us to remove our valuables because they weren't responsible for anything stolen while the place was fumigated. So I packed up my computer and the few valuables I have and went to stay with a friend. In the morning I walked outside to get a toothbrush from my car and my hatchback was wide open and so were my doors. My car had been ransacked. Overnight someone broke into my car and stole my computer and my ps3. I could care less about the ps3, it was broken and wouldn't read discs but dammit my computer was only a year old and I used it everyday!! I've only told one friend, and it felt good to get it off my chest but I hate to grouse about this at work. I know it's just a computer and I've been tryin to be positive all day, after all they could have stolen my car and everything in it. I's just been hard to concentrate at work all day and I needed to vent...
that is awful. I agree - couldn't have happened to a nicer person.
Last week they notified us that the building I live in had to be fumigated for termites. So I spent all weekend packing up my clothes and vaulables, finding a friend to watch my dog, putting all my houseplants outside, etc. The building management told us to remove our valuables because they weren't responsible for anything stolen while the place was fumigated. So I packed up my computer and the few valuables I have and went to stay with a friend. In the morning I walked outside to get a toothbrush from my car and my hatchback was wide open and so were my doors. My car had been ransacked. Overnight someone broke into my car and stole my computer and my ps3. I could care less about the ps3, it was broken and wouldn't read discs but dammit my computer was only a year old and I used it everyday!! I've only told one friend, and it felt good to get it off my chest but I hate to grouse about this at work. I know it's just a computer and I've been tryin to be positive all day, after all they could have stolen my car and everything in it. I's just been hard to concentrate at work all day and I needed to vent...
So sorry to hear this. I hate it when bad things happen to good people.
Post by monkybunney on Aug 2, 2012 23:47:21 GMT -5
I have to drink allot before I talk to my immediate family. No news is good news, that's how it is with us. But when you start getting calls from each other saying,"Call me." That's not a good sign at all.
true story: My grandma had a stroke on monday. My sister found out because my mom updated her facebook page with the latest news. I never look at facebook much anymore. I missed that announcement.
Apparently because she has heart problems they would like to give her a blood coagulant BUT because of her stroke that's a bad idea. I'm simplifying this. But what it comes down to is their is nothing they can do for her but make her comfortable.
She's going to die. Soon.
My car broke down yesterday. It's stuck in 4th gear and the stick shift just flops around.
My father wanted me to come visit with him in Whitesburgh GA tonight because 3 of my nieces, a nephew, and my brother in law are visiting him there. My brother in law is dieing from stage 4 colon cancer which has spread to his liver and kidneys. This is probably the last time I'll have seen him alive. I have no way of getting there.
My sister hates him. Her husband. My brother in law. I don't fucking get it, but she says he's made it the whole rest of his life's goal to make her miserable. He just drinks and drinks and gets pissed off and does horrible embarrassing shit in that condition in front of his kids. "That's the memory of him that he's gonna leave them with." She says.
Sometimes there's so much UGLY in the world, I feel like I can't take it, and my heart is just going to cave in.
monkybunney: oh man, I can't imagine how heavy your heart feels right now... I'm sending you all the positive, calming vibes I can. There's nothing you can do to change the situation; this sucks, and I hate that you're going thru it. If I could help in any way, I would! Just know that you aren't alone - you can vent here and we'll be supportive.
If you can't be with your family members in person, try to quell some of the ugliness by sending love to them over the phone, if that's an option. It sounds like they will need words of comfort soon. Maybe that's the one thing you can do to negate some of the ugliness? You seem to have a good heart; I hope this stress doesn't harden or break it. Hang in there, my friend. You'll get through this. It might seem unfathomable now, but you will. You have an entire Inforoo family to lean on through it all.
On Monday I ate my first toaster strudel out of the new box. I used 2 packets of icing, of course. I went to get a toaster strudel tonight and it is the last one and there are no icing packets left. GRRRRRRRR!!! Using 2 packets of icing - happy now, sad later.
I have to drink allot before I talk to my immediate family. No news is good news, that's how it is with us. But when you start getting calls from each other saying,"Call me." That's not a good sign at all.
true story: My grandma had a stroke on monday. My sister found out because my mom updated her facebook page with the latest news. I never look at facebook much anymore. I missed that announcement.
Apparently because she has heart problems they would like to give her a blood coagulant BUT because of her stroke that's a bad idea. I'm simplifying this. But what it comes down to is their is nothing they can do for her but make her comfortable.
She's going to die. Soon.
My car broke down yesterday. It's stuck in 4th gear and the stick shift just flops around.
My father wanted me to come visit with him in Whitesburgh GA tonight because 3 of my nieces, a nephew, and my brother in law are visiting him there. My brother in law is dieing from stage 4 colon cancer which has spread to his liver and kidneys. This is probably the last time I'll have seen him alive. I have no way of getting there.
My sister hates him. Her husband. My brother in law. I don't quacking get it, but she says he's made it the whole rest of his life's goal to make her miserable. He just drinks and drinks and gets pissed off and does horrible embarrassing shiz in that condition in front of his kids. "That's the memory of him that he's gonna leave them with." She says.
Sometimes there's so much UGLY in the world, I feel like I can't take it, and my heart is just going to cave in.
monkeybunny, sorry to hear about your grandma and the rest...hang in there, you've got a lot of people right here on inforoo willing to lend a sympathetic ear...hope things look up soon
I just read through this for the first time since getting back from Newport, and I want to give my sincere and utter thank you to every single person who gave support, and advice, and just the help of knowing I really am not alone in this. This is the kind of thing about inforoo that makes me really consider a lot of you family.