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Spent the wee hours of the morning in the ER with a kid I thought had a serious concussion but instead just has serious stomach bug. We just had the bug two weeks ago and already have upper respiratory illness. I need a break! Where is my Easter miracle?
Spent the wee hours of the morning in the ER with a kid I thought had a serious concussion but instead just has serious stomach bug. We just had the bug two weeks ago and already have upper respiratory illness. I need a break! Where is my Easter miracle?
Ooooof, I saw all of your FB updates and winced. You poor thing! I hope the bug miraculously misses you and your other kiddo.
Amen on the whole online dating thing, but probably for different reasons. It takes me a lot of emotional energy to send a message on OKC. It's not like I expect a response, I'm not convinced my profile particularly highlights my strengths (whatever the fuck those are), but still not ever getting a response gets discouraging.
You do you and things will work out. Better to wait around for the right relationship than try to force something to work when it's not supposed to.
honestly know exactly how you feel. like 2-3 years ago I really started to do a lot of dating... and like a year ago I just completely gave up. same experiences - flaky people and no one was genuine, and a lot of "yeah I'm not looking to really date anyone..." even in situations where things seemed great. and I used both tinder & OKC.
it's miserable. and I honestly have given up, so I don't know what to tell you other than I totally feel where you're coming from.
I still have my OKC profile up, but haven't responded to a message in like, 6 months. and find myself increasingly irritated anyone asks "have you seen any concerts lately?" because I irrationally get annoyed that they don't realize I'm going to concerts all the damn time. and my most recent dating adventure has turned into potentially completely ruining a really close friendship, sooo. blah. (/rant)
maybe take a break for a while and focus on friendships and put yourself out there again when you're less frustrated.
Thanks for the reassuring advice everyone! Bottom line I've been content being independent for the most part, although I always get these pangs that life (and everything entailed in it) could be better with someone to share it with. Socializing in general take a lot of energy for me (I'm book smart but people dumb) so its frustrating when I put in genuine effort and get so little back. To keep myself sane I've been doing one month on, one month off on the online dating circuit (like there is any other kind of dating circuit in this day and age). I think I'm just reaching that month period where I need to take a break, like you said smellycat.
feel ya on most of this, especially the bolded. my relationships with people in my life are really really important to me - and it feels fucking awful to try really hard to get to know someone, be generally interested in their life and understanding them as a person, just for them to basically be like, "nah, you're not worth being around" and ghost out of your life. it is completely emotionally draining for me. I've decided putting that effort into my friendships is way more important to me than someone who doesn't care and will just throw me to the wayside whenever they feel like it.
Getting close to giving up on the dating scene...again. I've been using Tinder for about 6 months and while some good has come out of it, its mostly full of flakes and misinterpretation. Maybe I should just abandon it and give OKcupid a try, or just stay single indefinitely. The latter would certainly be better for my finances.
I heard Mexico is a place where you can find true love. Just a thought.
Getting close to giving up on the dating scene...again. I've been using Tinder for about 6 months and while some good has come out of it, its mostly full of flakes and misinterpretation. Maybe I should just abandon it and give OKcupid a try, or just stay single indefinitely. The latter would certainly be better for my finances.
I heard Mexico is a place where you can find true love. Just a thought.
4 years ago this summer my best friend of 16 years passed away (FUCKCANCER) and i just found out his wife was just diagnosed with stage II breast cancer (MOTHERFUCKINGCANCER). They "believe" it's treatable, but i am Devastated. I just can't.
Post by Black Dynamite on Apr 6, 2015 8:17:04 GMT -5
Damn. You guys all need hugs.
Online dating can be useful because you can "scope" people out before talking, but I think that really ruins the experience. There's absolutely no substitute for meeting a person 1 on 1 and feeling their energy. Also, self-summary's are the worst, and seriously, what do you message a person you've never spoken to? Technically you should be polite and introduce yourself, but that pretty much never works.
Amen on the whole online dating thing, but probably for different reasons. It takes me a lot of emotional energy to send a message on OKC. It's not like I expect a response, I'm not convinced my profile particularly highlights my strengths (whatever the fuck those are), but still not ever getting a response gets discouraging.
Your Gil Gunderson avatar is alarmingly appropriate for this post. Good luck out there buddy. Dating sucks until it's awesome.
Post by justinmn9319 on Apr 6, 2015 8:25:41 GMT -5
i'm very content being single and really just hope to meet somebody naturally, not sure i believe this will happen or not. with that being said, i like being able to do whatever i want
i'm very content being single and really just hope to meet somebody naturally, not sure i believe this will happen or not. with that being said, i like being able to do whatever i want
The real beauty is when you find someone that does not mind letting you do whatever you want, and even joins you occasionally.
Post by potentpotables on Apr 6, 2015 8:35:22 GMT -5
I found out over the weekend my ex- is dating someone again. It's like 16 months after we broke up and I dated a few people casually last year, but it still stung a bit even though she's crazy and needy.
i'm very content being single and really just hope to meet somebody naturally, not sure i believe this will happen or not. with that being said, i like being able to do whatever i want
Welcome back Bonz, but I do not find it strange that your presence being requested in the Orgy thread and then you showing up, like it was the quacking Bonzai Bat Signal.
There's no better way than to celebrate Easter than with food poisoning. Fingers crossed that I can make it through the work day without having to go home.
i'm very content being single and really just hope to meet somebody naturally, not sure i believe this will happen or not. with that being said, i like being able to do whatever i want
The real beauty is when you find someone that does not mind letting you do whatever you want, and even joins you occasionally.
and that's why i hope to meet somebody naturally that is already into the things i'm into :-)
i'm very content being single and really just hope to meet somebody naturally, not sure i believe this will happen or not. with that being said, i like being able to do whatever i want
Welcome back Bonz, but I do not find it strange that your presence being requested in the Orgy thread and then you showing up, like it was the quacking Bonzai Bat Signal.
If you're with the right person you never have to give up doing whatever you want.
That's the greatest feeling in the world. Unconditional love and respect for one another is all you really need. If you're trying to change the person you're with, you're with the wrong person.
If you're with the right person you never have to give up doing whatever you want.
Only a single person would say such a thing. Relationships invariably involve compromise. Compromise by definition involves give and take. If your goal is a relationship where you get to do whatever you want, get a turtle.
If you're with the right person you never have to give up doing whatever you want.
Only a single person would say such a thing. Relationships invariably involve compromise. Compromise by definition involves give and take. If your goal is a relationship where you get to do whatever you want, get a turtle.
If you're with the right person you never have to give up doing whatever you want.
Only a single person would say such a thing. Relationships invariably involve compromise. Compromise by definition involves give and take. If your goal is a relationship where you get to do whatever you want, get a turtle.
I don't disagree with this sentiment at all (relationships absolutely require constant compromise and sacrifice), but lol at choosing a turtle for the way you made your point.
Considering you've found the need to respond to my threads as if you are threatened by me I offer you some peace my confused counterpart. May you find peace in your restless soul.
If you're with the right person you never have to give up doing whatever you want.
Only a single person would say such a thing. Relationships invariably involve compromise. Compromise by definition involves give and take. If your goal is a relationship where you get to do whatever you want, get a turtle.
And if it's right then the give is just as rewarding as the take.
Only a single person would say such a thing. Relationships invariably involve compromise. Compromise by definition involves give and take. If your goal is a relationship where you get to do whatever you want, get a turtle.
And if it's right then the give is just as rewarding as the take.
Exactly. The give should feel just as good as the take.
Btw, I doubt a turtle wants you to dictate its life. If you are looking for that, get a teddy bear.
Online dating can be useful because you can "scope" people out before talking, but I think that really ruins the experience. There's absolutely no substitute for meeting a person 1 on 1 and feeling their energy. Also, self-summary's are the worst, and seriously, what do you message a person you've never spoken to? Technically you should be polite and introduce yourself, but that pretty much never works.
I've learned that every guy in minnesota claims their beard is their best feature and that every guy who says "I've been told I have a great sense of humor" is really the most unfunny person you'll ever meet.
it really does ruin dating. every fucking message feels like it's written by a robot.
Online dating can be useful because you can "scope" people out before talking, but I think that really ruins the experience. There's absolutely no substitute for meeting a person 1 on 1 and feeling their energy. Also, self-summary's are the worst, and seriously, what do you message a person you've never spoken to? Technically you should be polite and introduce yourself, but that pretty much never works.
I've learned that every guy in minnesota claims their beard is their best feature and that every guy who says "I've been told I have a great sense of humor" is really the most unfunny person you'll ever meet.
it really does ruin dating. every fucking message feels like it's written by a robot.
This is how I imagine every Minnesota dating profile to look:
People who describe their sense of humor pretty much can't be funny. It's kind of like saying "that's hilarious" instead of laughing. If it was really hilarious, you'd laugh. If you really had a good sense of humor, you'd be funny.
But I really feel for guys in these situations. The line between prince charming and creeper is about as wide as dental floss. If you say "Hey, I'm jon, we have this and this in common, and I'd love to meet you", that's boring. So guys are told to "get creative" which basically means "read my mind". This turns into the same 20 pickup lines being recycled, and nobody every being interesting at all. I truly believe the best way to handle those sites is to send a few messages back and forth basically confirming that this person knows how to spell, and then meeting them in person to see if there's chemistry. If not, maybe you can be friends.
And the adverese side to this issue is that meeting new people in person is pretty much impossible at my age because everybody is so god damn clicky, and every stranger is a creeper.
I've learned that every guy in minnesota claims their beard is their best feature and that every guy who says "I've been told I have a great sense of humor" is really the most unfunny person you'll ever meet.
it really does ruin dating. every fucking message feels like it's written by a robot.
This is how I imagine every Minnesota dating profile to look:
People who describe their sense of humor pretty much can't be funny. It's kind of like saying "that's hilarious" instead of laughing. If it was really hilarious, you'd laugh. If you really had a good sense of humor, you'd be funny.
But I really feel for guys in these situations. The line between prince charming and creeper is about as wide as dental floss. If you say "Hey, I'm jon, we have this and this in common, and I'd love to meet you", that's boring. So guys are told to "get creative" which basically means "read my mind". This turns into the same 20 pickup lines being recycled, and nobody every being interesting at all. I truly believe the best way to handle those sites is to send a few messages back and forth basically confirming that this person knows how to spell, and then meeting them in person to see if there's chemistry. If not, maybe you can be friends.
And the adverese side to this issue is that meeting new people in person is pretty much impossible at my age because everybody is so god damn clicky, and every stranger is a creeper.
How'd you find my profile picture????
edit: i must not have had a good sense of humor for smellycat either, she hates my state and everybody in it
This is how I imagine every Minnesota dating profile to look:
People who describe their sense of humor pretty much can't be funny. It's kind of like saying "that's hilarious" instead of laughing. If it was really hilarious, you'd laugh. If you really had a good sense of humor, you'd be funny.
But I really feel for guys in these situations. The line between prince charming and creeper is about as wide as dental floss. If you say "Hey, I'm jon, we have this and this in common, and I'd love to meet you", that's boring. So guys are told to "get creative" which basically means "read my mind". This turns into the same 20 pickup lines being recycled, and nobody every being interesting at all. I truly believe the best way to handle those sites is to send a few messages back and forth basically confirming that this person knows how to spell, and then meeting them in person to see if there's chemistry. If not, maybe you can be friends.
And the adverese side to this issue is that meeting new people in person is pretty much impossible at my age because everybody is so god damn clicky, and every stranger is a creeper.
How'd you find my profile picture????
edit: i must not have had a good sense of humor for smellycat either, she hates my state and everybody in it
If you drop the pipe and add large framed glasses you could be a hipster and a totally new person. Smellycat seems to be in "I'm single, fuck it" mode, but 2 chances are better than 1 .