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I'm trying to make a decision and I need some input. I'd love it if some of you awesome Inforoosters could read my tale and help me decide what to do.
As some of you know, I'm living in Chicago this summer. I really wanted to do something new and exciting this summer so I basically took whatever internship I could find as an excuse to get to the city for the summer.
I'm regretting it big time. I have been more or less miserable since I got here. Tonight, after the umpteenth time of crying to my mom about it, she offered to come get me tomorrow. Here's the thing: because of her business and other summer plans, tomorrow is the only day she can come get me. After tomorrow, she can't come get me for another month & a half. The only other way I could go home is shipping all my stuff (which would be really expensive & a hassle) and taking the bus.
Here's why I'm regretting it: (I'd like to note that I know I do sound a little whiny and spoiled... its not that I don't realize my blessings. I am just really unhappy so its hard to appreciate them.) --The internship is shit. I'm not learning a single thing, not to mention I'm not getting paid, and its just an embarrassing waste of time. I've interned before and not liked it but got something out of it... I have tried & asked to be put to use but there's nothing to gain whatsoever. The only worthwhile thing is a reference on my resume, and considering how unimpressive the internship is, that's really not even worth much. --I thought living with my roommate would be really great and it was one of my reasons for moving to Chicago, but while he's a good friend, his "scene" is very different from what I'm used to, and I don't fit in with or even really like hanging out with him and his friends. He also works really different hours from me, so he's never home when I am. --I'm embarrassed to say this, but I bit off more than I could chew coming here alone. I didn't think I was going to be so alone - I have friends that live in Chicagoland, but none of them can ever hang out because its a hassle & expensive to get to each other. Honestly, I thought I'd like the big city, but I'm from a small town and I much prefer that. --My parents are helping me financially and I feel immense guilt letting them foot much of the bill for me to do a worthless internship. Sure, I could have a cool experience living in the city, but I don't think its worth it, especially considering that my mom's business is struggling right now.
If I went home tomorrow, I would save my parents and myself money and I wouldn't keep wasting time being here unhappy. Its so tempting. I can't say I'd be a lot happier at home for various reasons (the same reasons I didn't want to go back there this summer in the first place), but at this point it just makes sense to not have to pay for bills and groceries in an expensive city that I don't want to be in so I can do an unpaid internship that I really hate.
BUT of course I still have that nagging feeling... like I shouldn't be a quitter. I wonder if I will always regret not sticking it out, if thinking of Chicago will make me cringe because I didn't "make the best of it" and more or less than ran away. I've already put almost a month into this internship, too, and now I won't be able to put it on my resume if I just skip out.
AND if I go home tomorrow, I won't be able to go with my friend from Chicago back to Missouri, where I go to college, to visit my boyfriend on the 4th. So I will go the whole summer without seeing him, and prevent my friend from taking a trip she planned because she was counting on me for gas money.
I guess this is a dilemma of keeping my commitments & being unhappy vs. being a quitter but saving myself prolonged unhappiness & my parents another month of rent.
Sorry this is so long but hopefully someone can help me see the light...
Post by DystopianDream on Jun 20, 2008 22:21:01 GMT -5
I agree with ^^^
I'm in a crap internship, as well. Oddly enough I'm doing the same work for free now that I did (literally the *same* work) and got paid for before I was getting my master's. Regardless of how much it sucks, it's a line on your CV, and if you can be a trooper and kick * on even the crap work, some one will notice and potentially become that great reference that says "she made the best of a crappy position and would be a great asset to any team."
I lived outside of Chicago, and I know how it can be--but the good news is that there are *lots* of great shows in the area and lots of things to see. Do your best to take advantage of everything Chicago has to offer before you give up. There's absolutely nothing wrong with going out and exploring on your own. However, if you ever need someone to go out and explore with you, I head up there to visit family frequently, so you could always give me a call
Watchin' a stretch of road, miles of light explode. Driftin' off a thing I'd never done before. Watchin' a crowd roll in. Out go the lights it begins. A feelin' in my bones I've never felt before...
Post by DystopianDream on Jun 21, 2008 14:42:42 GMT -5
Good for you! If you're still in town over the 4th of July weekend-- you should definitely check out Gomez with my friends and me at the Taste of Chicago!!
Watchin' a stretch of road, miles of light explode. Driftin' off a thing I'd never done before. Watchin' a crowd roll in. Out go the lights it begins. A feelin' in my bones I've never felt before...
glad to hear you stuck it out...best of luck...me and some friends will be headin' up for some shows if you need some people to hang out with. we'll be at friday lollapalooza, mmj show, and the umphrey's show at charter one. hang in there, this will make for a good life lesson.
Post by augustwest on Jun 22, 2008 10:02:55 GMT -5
Karma for sticking it out, life sometimes involves sitting tight and waiting for things to get better. It won't happen by itself, Don't like your friends, surroundings, work situation? Change them, you are too old to be rescued by Mom.
Yeah, I think I just sorta panicked and started feeling way sorry for myself. Its not that I am super lonely but I do miss my boyfriend and I miss having good friends in closer proximity. Basically, I am just looking forward to getting back to college and my usual scene. But I think it has been good for me to try something new while I still can. I feel like I'm growing a lot, becoming more independent. I know I would regret if I let my mom swoop in and rescue me. It just sounded so nice at the time. The money thing is a big issue, I still feel crazy guilty letting my parents help me out but my waitress gig is so slow I don't make enough to do it on my own. But I mean, since I'm here, I might as well make it worth their and my while, right?
Oh and: Sam & Dystopian, thanks for the offers to hang out! I honestly feel a little silly to be taken pity on, but its always nice to meet to new Inforoosters so def message me when you're in town! Sam, when is MMJ gonna be here? I'm seeing them in Nashville in August when I leave Chicago as scheduled.
Post by elusiveboz on Jun 22, 2008 20:51:34 GMT -5
props to you for sticking it it's hard to grow up at times and this says to me that you are grown indeed i know i had a tuff time growing up but meg made me do it... make what you can of it and chalk it up as a life experience... good luck...i know you can do it...you can do it allnight long
This word also has a underground meaning once you break it down. Let’s take “Bonn” for example and it actually turns into the word “Bone”. We all know gays use this word to describe the action of when they are fecal fisting their Cuban cabana boy at their sex bath house parties. Now let’s look at Roo, “Roo” is short for “Kangaroo”.So put the full true message together and you get“Bone a Kangaroo
i know i had a tuff time growing up but meg made me do it...
My wife had a similar issue with me. I've learned that there are "Time and Place requirements" I learned that meeting up with my wife when I was drunk - not a good issue.
I also am glad that you stuck it out. I had a horrible summer during college - I thought the world was coming to an end. Glad I got through it alive. Internships are potentially bad. I would give then what they want out of you. If not, many many cool things in Chicago to experience. I have not been there for a few years, but it really was different then than in the past.