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Post by erscott420 on Dec 28, 2009 13:06:04 GMT -5
wow..thanks for deleting my thread...nice to know that there can be a blue jillion threads on here talking about any and everything,and there can even be one for "random confessions" and yet when that thread casues me a bunch of hurt and heartache and has me considering never to go to roo again,i cant have a my own thread to get things off my chest try to get some help and advice.....that was a real mean thing to do...i know now if that the way it is yall and tara can have this goddamn board adn yall can have bonnaroo too...fuck it and fuck whoever deleted my thread.
you were bashing a fellow inforoo'er on here. no need to put her and your info on this board for thousands to read. no clue why your avi pic even still has her in it.
also because the IBTL pic was put up... as it will be in this one
you were bashing a fellow inforoo'er on here. no need to put her and your info on this board for thousands to read. no clue why your avi pic even still has her in it.
also because the IBTL pic was put up... as it will be in this one
i wasnt bashing no damn body dood...i was speaking the truth and getting stuff of my chest and trying to find a reason to go to roo.i thought this was a place where every one ws everyone elses freind.guess i was wrong.
i wasnt bashing no damn body dood...i was speaking the truth and getting stuff of my chest and trying to find a reason to go to roo.i thought this was a place where every one ws everyone elses freind.guess i was wrong.
it's a message board. many people agree, disagree, argue, and share thoughts and feelings. it's not necessary that "everyone is everyone else's friend".
That's not the case though. Admins found a reason to delete your thread so just take the hint that they didn't want that topic up. It sucks you're going through hard times and i'm sorry it's been rough but you're beginning to sound childish with how your handling things. this isn't the ideal way to go about getting back the girl you want.
By the way dude I do feel for you, but folks were right this wasn't the best place to discuss it. Feel free to PM me if you want someone to talk to though.
Post by strumntheguitar on Dec 28, 2009 13:25:31 GMT -5
Sounded like something you gotta work out on your own. If it hasn't worked out after as many tries as you've given it then it's time to move on. If you're really gonna be miserable at roo then you don't need anyone convincing you to go. There are plenty of other festivals out there you can atten and have fun at while not being reminded of your past.
I'm no hippie counselor or anything, but my advice is to just keep on keepin on. Do what makes you happy, stay away from what agonizes you, and just be yourself. Ya dig?
We, meaning this message board, don't have all the facts or know either one of you personally. We should not presume to make a judgment or offer advice when we don't have all the information.
That being said, find someone to talk to. A friend, family member, Priest, Rabbi, someone you know and trust. Believe me, we don't have it all figured out ourselves. We struggle day to day just like you.
We, meaning this message board, don't have all the facts or know either one of you personally. We should not presume to make a judgment or offer advice when we don't have all the information.
That being said, find someone to talk to. A friend, family member, Priest, Rabbi, someone you know and trust. Believe me, we don't have it all figured out ourselves. We struggle day to day just like you.
I know Tara personally - from here and running into her at Bonnaroo and she also has a blog on the blog space I am on - but I have not talked to her and there are always two sides to every story - But - like Druid said - without both sides - no one can really comment on the situation.
I agree with her - you should find someone to talk to - because Inforooers really don't have it figured out - we are just making to day by day the best we can.
Post by ziggyandthemonkeys on Dec 28, 2009 17:37:08 GMT -5
Want a reason to go to bonnaroo? The music. Or go to AllGood if you don't want to go to roo. Sounds like your situation is really just more trouble than its worth, but that's all I would say with the information provided. There are much more appropriate mediums to discuss your situation than a message board, much more helpful ones too.
Well, I really don't want to take sides here - especially when I don't know either of you outside of a superficial message board context, and have only heard your side of the story. I read your entire post before it was deleted, and I understand your need to express your hurt and anger; however, I still think it was hugely inappropriate to divulge all the intimate details of your relationship like that, and spill secrets about a regular poster. If you were looking for support, that's fine, but from the content and tone of your post, it seemed like you were more interested in humiliating and shaming her.
There are literally millions of other message boards on the internet where she is not a member (many of them far more heavily trafficked than this one), and you could have posted on any one of them asking for support - but you chose to post somewhere where she would see it, and where people who know her would see it. You didn't even have to say her name in order for us to understand your situation, but you did, and the only reason I could imagine for doing so was to hurt her. I'm sorry for all the shit you've had to go through, dude - but you went about coping with it in a very childish way.
I truly am sympathetic towards you - heartbreak and betrayal are awful feelings that every one of us will have to deal with in our lives. But right now, you're just exacerbating and prolonging that pain by not allowing yourself to realize that your feelings are unrequited. Again, just judging from what you've said, it seems that she's moved on but you haven't. That only sets you up for further heartbreak. My advice to you is to move on, get over her, and try to find someone new. This is all easier said than done, of course, and these things take time - but from what little I know, it seems you're pursuing something that appears ultimately unsustainable. Are you truly in love with her now, this person who has betrayed you, or are you in love with who she used to be, and what you used to have?
You also can't let yourself live in fear all the time. I completely get that you don't want to run the risk of running into her and being overwhelmed with negative emotions. But realistically, what are the odds that you'll see her at Bonnaroo, in a crowd of 80,000? And even in the off chance that you do, it's pretty easy to avoid having to deal with a single person at an event of that size. You should ask yourself this: which is greater - your love of Bonnaroo, or your fear of seeing your ex? Would you rather go to Roo with a 1% chance of running into her and getting those awful feelings, or stay at home with a 100% chance of feeling miserable because you're not there? You should never let fear stop you from doing what you love. Also, remember that these wounds are all very fresh, just six weeks old. So by mid-June, you will have healed a lot more, and you'll be more ready to cope with it all.
Yeah, my guess is that the reason for removing the thread had something to do with trying to stem the drama that you inserted into it.
It sucks that you're bummed but piling your misery onto one that was already about somebody else's hardship was not appropriate. I agree with others: you need to find a real three-dimensional person to talk to about your pain. Bringing them here in that way was selfish and disrespectful.
Post by Fishing Maniac on Dec 28, 2009 20:21:56 GMT -5
See now this really sucks.
There's never any drama here, and the one day there is I completely miss it. I don't know how long the other thread was, but this one should have at least 12 pages by now.
Well, that's unfortunate...guy is in a rough spot. But putting up a lot of detailed information about another Inforooer without that person's consent is inappropriate and the mods were right in deleting the thread.
