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When I shown her the note, I told her I was writing something to post on Inforoo and wanted her to look over it first.
She actually took it as if I wanted her to proofread it. So when she finished reading, she was like 'it was good, but can you change this one line here?' and I got thrown off by the response.
After her comment you should have took the paper back, wrote will you marry me? and then asked her to read it again.
Post by thepeppers on Nov 25, 2015 11:14:48 GMT -5
Alright, all feedback is welcomed.
My brother is in his late 20s. He moved to Richmond about 15 months ago (we are from Southwest Virginia, he went to school at VT). He was in a serious relationship for the majority of college, they broke up a year before he finished with his master's degree. He has been single ever since and hasn't really had anything close to a relationship. He is not the single, bachelor life type of guy...everybody in the family knows he is wanting a relationship. I think most ladies would say he is an attractive dude, all of his previous girlfriends have been very attractive and he stays in good shape. He also has a good job the provides a good salary (auditor). Problem is, he knows only a handful people in Richmond besides co-workers. He can also be a bit stubborn and picky.
I've been considering getting him a three-month gift subscription to eHarmony for Christmas. We have had a few talks about online dating, as he goes back-and-forth about the subject. The last time we talked about it (early September) he was against it. I'm afraid if I get it for him, 1) He will feel like I am feeling sorry for him and what not and 2) He won't use it and I will be wasting $120.
My brother is in his late 20s. He moved to Richmond about 15 months ago (we are from Southwest Virginia, he went to school at VT). He was in a serious relationship for the majority of college, they broke up a year before he finished with his master's degree. He has been single ever since and hasn't really had anything close to a relationship. He is not the single, bachelor life type of guy...everybody in the family knows he is wanting a relationship. I think most ladies would say he is an attractive dude, all of his previous girlfriends have been very attractive and he stays in good shape. He also has a good job the provides a good salary (auditor). Problem is, he knows only a handful people in Richmond besides co-workers. He can also be a bit stubborn and picky.
I've been considering getting him a three-month gift subscription to eHarmony for Christmas. We have had a few talks about online dating, as he goes back-and-forth about the subject. The last time we talked about it (early September) he was against it. I'm afraid if I get it for him, 1) He will feel like I am feeling sorry for him and what not and 2) He won't use it and I will be wasting $120.
I just want him to meet somebody and be happy.
Just help him get set up on OK Cupid or Tinder. Lots of young, cool, educated people use them and they're both free. If he feels comfy with it then maybe in time you could upgrade him to a pay site. I think if you present him with a paid eHarmony account he might feel kind of ambushed by you, especially since he previously said no. I hope he finds someone wonderful, or at least get his D nice and greasy
My brother is in his late 20s. He moved to Richmond about 15 months ago (we are from Southwest Virginia, he went to school at VT). He was in a serious relationship for the majority of college, they broke up a year before he finished with his master's degree. He has been single ever since and hasn't really had anything close to a relationship. He is not the single, bachelor life type of guy...everybody in the family knows he is wanting a relationship. I think most ladies would say he is an attractive dude, all of his previous girlfriends have been very attractive and he stays in good shape. He also has a good job the provides a good salary (auditor). Problem is, he knows only a handful people in Richmond besides co-workers. He can also be a bit stubborn and picky.
I've been considering getting him a three-month gift subscription to eHarmony for Christmas. We have had a few talks about online dating, as he goes back-and-forth about the subject. The last time we talked about it (early September) he was against it. I'm afraid if I get it for him, 1) He will feel like I am feeling sorry for him and what not and 2) He won't use it and I will be wasting $120.
I just want him to meet somebody and be happy.
Just help him get set up on OK Cupid or Tinder. Lots of young, cool, educated people use them and they're both free. If he feels comfy with it then maybe in time you could upgrade him to a pay site. I think if you present him with a paid eHarmony account he might feel kind of ambushed by you, especially since he previously said no. I hope he finds someone wonderful, or at least get his D nice and greasy
He has been using Tinder for awhile, and as far as I know nothing much has come from it.
What is OK Cupid? I have been in a relationship for awhile now, not familiar with all the online dating stuff.
When I shown her the note, I told her I was writing something to post on Inforoo and wanted her to look over it first.
She actually took it as if I wanted her to proofread it. So when she finished reading, she was like 'it was good, but can you change this one line here?' and I got thrown off by the response.
Haha nice. I still vote to just do it when the moment feels right.
yeah, I actually proposed to my roommate while we were in our PJ's watching cartoons on a saturday morning, even though I had planned to do it at a nice dinner.
My brother is in his late 20s. He moved to Richmond about 15 months ago (we are from Southwest Virginia, he went to school at VT). He was in a serious relationship for the majority of college, they broke up a year before he finished with his master's degree. He has been single ever since and hasn't really had anything close to a relationship. He is not the single, bachelor life type of guy...everybody in the family knows he is wanting a relationship. I think most ladies would say he is an attractive dude, all of his previous girlfriends have been very attractive and he stays in good shape. He also has a good job the provides a good salary (auditor). Problem is, he knows only a handful people in Richmond besides co-workers. He can also be a bit stubborn and picky.
I've been considering getting him a three-month gift subscription to eHarmony for Christmas. We have had a few talks about online dating, as he goes back-and-forth about the subject. The last time we talked about it (early September) he was against it. I'm afraid if I get it for him, 1) He will feel like I am feeling sorry for him and what not and 2) He won't use it and I will be wasting $120.
I just want him to meet somebody and be happy.
Just help him get set up on OK Cupid or Tinder. Lots of young, cool, educated people use them and they're both free. If he feels comfy with it then maybe in time you could upgrade him to a pay site. I think if you present him with a paid eHarmony account he might feel kind of ambushed by you, especially since he previously said no. I hope he finds someone wonderful, or at least get his D nice and greasy
Ain't nobody ever complained about having a greasy D
Just help him get set up on OK Cupid or Tinder. Lots of young, cool, educated people use them and they're both free. If he feels comfy with it then maybe in time you could upgrade him to a pay site. I think if you present him with a paid eHarmony account he might feel kind of ambushed by you, especially since he previously said no. I hope he finds someone wonderful, or at least get his D nice and greasy
He has been using Tinder for awhile, and as far as I know nothing much has come from it.
What is OK Cupid? I have been in a relationship for awhile now, not familiar with all the online dating stuff.
Just help him get set up on OK Cupid or Tinder. Lots of young, cool, educated people use them and they're both free. If he feels comfy with it then maybe in time you could upgrade him to a pay site. I think if you present him with a paid eHarmony account he might feel kind of ambushed by you, especially since he previously said no. I hope he finds someone wonderful, or at least get his D nice and greasy
He has been using Tinder for awhile, and as far as I know nothing much has come from it.
What is OK Cupid? I have been in a relationship for awhile now, not familiar with all the online dating stuff.
It's like eHarmony. You make a profile and answer a bunch of questions. The site gives you people in the area and you can order them by your percentage of compatibility. The basic version is free, so I agree with Gab that it may be good to try him out on before putting money into something else.
He has been using Tinder for awhile, and as far as I know nothing much has come from it.
What is OK Cupid? I have been in a relationship for awhile now, not familiar with all the online dating stuff.
It's like eHarmony. You make a profile and answer a bunch of questions. The site gives you people in the area and you can order them by your percentage of compatibility. The basic version is free, so I agree with Gab that it may be good to try him out on before putting money into something else.
You can order people?! I thought we abolished that sort of thing years ago.
It's like eHarmony. You make a profile and answer a bunch of questions. The site gives you people in the area and you can order them by your percentage of compatibility. The basic version is free, so I agree with Gab that it may be good to try him out on before putting money into something else.
You can order people?! I thought we abolished that sort of thing years ago.
I went on a Tinder date last night. I usually like to date within a year or two of my age, but I thought I'd take a chance on someone four years younger (I'm 27) - as I get older I feel like age becomes less of an issue, and a lot of people had told me the same. So I figured I'd give it a shot. She was really big into music which was a major plus, so we met at a record shop.
The walls of the basement of the record shop were covered with graffiti, and it was encouraged by the pens and markers laying around, so we decided to do some drawing. I drew a silly face. What did she choose to have immortalized on the walls of the record shop? "Fuck you". So edgy. She later said that she wished she had drawn a penis. I'm all for being immature sometimes (Lord knows I fit that mold every now and again), but at the time it seemed very highschoolish to me. A dick drawing can be a thing of beauty and might in the right context, but the situation afforded no opportunities for such glory. So I was a little turned off about ten minutes into the date. As the night grew on I learned that she smokes, hates children, and doesn't know how to drive, so there's not going to be a second date. Then the night ended with me very nearly having a full-blown panic attack for absolutely no reason at all. Yay!
On the plus side, I've learned that "90's Girl Groups" is a Quizzo category that I'm pretty good at. So I've got that going for me.
I went on a Tinder date last night. I usually like to date within a year or two of my age, but I thought I'd take a chance on someone four years younger (I'm 27) - as I get older I feel like age becomes less of an issue, and a lot of people had told me the same. So I figured I'd give it a shot. She was really big into music which was a major plus, so we met at a record shop.
The walls of the basement of the record shop were covered with graffiti, and it was encouraged by the pens and markers laying around, so we decided to do some drawing. I drew a silly face. What did she choose to have immortalized on the walls of the record shop? "Fuck you". So edgy. She later said that she wished she had drawn a penis. I'm all for being immature sometimes (Lord knows I fit that mold every now and again), but at the time it seemed very highschoolish to me. A dick drawing can be a thing of beauty and might in the right context, but the situation afforded no opportunities for such glory. So I was a little turned off about ten minutes into the date. As the night grew on I learned that she smokes, hates children, and doesn't know how to drive, so there's not going to be a second date. Then the night ended with me very nearly having a full-blown panic attack for absolutely no reason at all. Yay!
On the plus side, I've learned that "90's Girl Groups" is a Quizzo category that I'm pretty good at. So I've got that going for me.
I wouldn't let that put you off of dating someone outside your age range because that doesn't sound like standard immaturity. That just sounds like an asshole. My husband is 4 years older than me, and the age difference has always seemed inconsequential, except that I was born in October 1979, and he told me that if I had been born in 1980, we'd have never started dating.
I went on a Tinder date last night. I usually like to date within a year or two of my age, but I thought I'd take a chance on someone four years younger (I'm 27) - as I get older I feel like age becomes less of an issue, and a lot of people had told me the same. So I figured I'd give it a shot. She was really big into music which was a major plus, so we met at a record shop.
The walls of the basement of the record shop were covered with graffiti, and it was encouraged by the pens and markers laying around, so we decided to do some drawing. I drew a silly face. What did she choose to have immortalized on the walls of the record shop? "Fuck you". So edgy. She later said that she wished she had drawn a penis. I'm all for being immature sometimes (Lord knows I fit that mold every now and again), but at the time it seemed very highschoolish to me. A dick drawing can be a thing of beauty and might in the right context, but the situation afforded no opportunities for such glory. So I was a little turned off about ten minutes into the date. As the night grew on I learned that she smokes, hates children, and doesn't know how to drive, so there's not going to be a second date. Then the night ended with me very nearly having a full-blown panic attack for absolutely no reason at all. Yay!
On the plus side, I've learned that "90's Girl Groups" is a Quizzo category that I'm pretty good at. So I've got that going for me.
I wouldn't let that put you off of dating someone outside your age range because that doesn't sound like standard immaturity. That just sounds like an asshole. My husband is 4 years older than me, and the age difference has always seemed inconsequential, except that I was born in October 1979, and he told me that if I had been born in 1980, we'd have never started dating.
Oh yeah, that hasn't put me off towards dating someone younger, just towards dating her. I wouldn't generalize like that. That would just mean fewer women would have the chance to date me, and I wouldn't want to deprive them of such a wonderful opportunity.
I teach undergrads and they are all so immature, even when they think they aren't. I don't think age matters that much, if there is equal depth of scope and perspective informing each others opinions. But college kids are the worst, and sometimes it takes a couple years for people to grow out of that.
But what do i really know. The only 2 serious relationships I've ever had were with women exactly 6 months and 12 days older than me.
I teach undergrads and they are all so immature, even when they think they aren't. I don't think age matters that much, if there is equal depth of scope and perspective informing each others opinions. But college kids are the worst, and sometimes it takes a couple years for people to grow out of that.
But what do i really know. The only 2 serious relationships I've ever had were with women exactly 6 months and 12 days older than me.
I teach undergrads and they are all so immature, even when they think they aren't. I don't think age matters that much, if there is equal depth of scope and perspective informing each others opinions. But college kids are the worst, and sometimes it takes a couple years for people to grow out of that.
But what do i really know. The only 2 serious relationships I've ever had were with women exactly 6 months and 12 days older than me.
both of them? Like, to the day?
I'm pretty sure one was 6 months older and one was 12 days older.
I teach undergrads and they are all so immature, even when they think they aren't. I don't think age matters that much, if there is equal depth of scope and perspective informing each others opinions. But college kids are the worst, and sometimes it takes a couple years for people to grow out of that.
But what do i really know. The only 2 serious relationships I've ever had were with women exactly 6 months and 12 days older than me.
Not sure why, but I've never been in a serious relationship with anyone within two years of me. The most serious so far was with someone 3 years older then me. My last serious gf was exactly 10.5 years younger then me while my current gf is almost 13 years my junior.
I don't even know what to say anymore. I'm on too much of a hot streak. I don't deserve this much swag
I have to ask. How are you killing it so much? I follow this thread religiously and it seems like you've had nonstop lady attention since your divorce. Are you beautiful, charming as fuck, or both? Is it the fresh energy engendered from your release of the bonds of marriage? Are you banging farm animals with low self esteem? Either way, good job.
I don't even know what to say anymore. I'm on too much of a hot streak. I don't deserve this much swag
I have to ask. How are you killing it so much? I follow this thread religiously and it seems like you've had nonstop lady attention since your divorce. Are you beautiful, charming as fuck, or both? Is it the fresh energy engendered from your release of the bonds of marriage? Are you banging farm animals with low self esteem? Either way, good job.
I think it's a perfect storm of being in the prime of my life for desirability: young enough at 30 to be attractive to a large range of women, career-driven enough to be viewed as stable and successful, fun-loving enough to always be down for a good time, broken enough to be seen as someone that can be "fixed" or be a challenge. I'm usually pretty honest up front with women about my situation and my desires. As soon as I feel like we aren't on the same page, I let them know and never ghost anyone. Consistently, many of them contact me again a few months later to hang out again because I didn't burn bridges. I'm not an asshole to them or their friends. And I've worked hard to get a better understanding of modern dating and dating apps.
I also made an effort to reconnect with many of the women that I had micro-connections with during the past ten years. It's surprising how many missed connections happen due to relationship statuses at the time those people knew each other. Once both parties are available, even years after the missed connection, people tend to be willing to give it a shot.
All that being said, my dating success hasn't lead to relationship success. I still haven't found anyone that has made me feel the way my ex wife made me feel during our first 5 years together. SR was close, but she was never available, and I wonder if my attraction would last once the taboo of secrecy was removed. Id rather find that next "soulmate" than what I'm doing now, but I'm going to keep riding this wave until I do.
Alright inforoo I might have something started here. It kind of has a nice cliche start to it, there's this pretty cute girl that works at the Starbucks across the street from where I work. I go there pretty much every day before work. Caffeine is a very necessary part of my life. I didn't really think anything of her until the other day when she started up a conversation with me at the register. She was all like "are you the guy that wears the donut sweater all the time" note, I wasn't wearing my donut sweater that day, but yes there is a donut sweater (an OF sweater actually but all it has on it is just a donut) that I wear pretty frequently and people tend to compliment (most people just see it as a silly looking donut sweater). So I was all like "yeah I am!" n stuff and we had a nice little interaction. I also mentioned I work across the street. She seemed pretty happy to be talking to me and as I walked away I was like damn I think that girl might kinda like me.
So fast forward to today. It's my day off and I'm doing ignorant hood rat shit at the mall. Actually I was just looking for something for my secret santa and generally killing time before I went to see a movie. Wouldn't ya know it right as I'm walking out of a store I run into her, the girl from Starbucks. It was crazy. Like damn what are the chances of that happening. It was like fate. We both see each other at the same time and we're both like "oh my god it's YOU!". So we talked for a little bit. I was happy I was able to keep a fun conversation going. We were both just by ourselves doing nothing at the mall. I think she had just gotten off work. I could've maybe chilled with her longer, I mean we both had time to kill. But I mean, besides being a seemingly cool girl that works at Starbucks, I don't really know her that well. So I kinda just took off with an okay see ya later sort of thing after talking with her for a while.
So like, I'll definitely be seeing her again at my many Starbucks visits. If it starts to go somewhere though, I'm a little nervous. I'm not good at the whole oh btw here's my number thing. I just haven't done that in so long. Any time a cool interesting girl seems interested in me I kinda just let em get away. I'd like to end this streak.
Alright inforoo I might have something started here. It kind of has a nice cliche start to it, there's this pretty cute girl that works at the Starbucks across the street from where I work. I go there pretty much every day before work. Caffeine is a very necessary part of my life. I didn't really think anything of her until the other day when she started up a conversation with me at the register. She was all like "are you the guy that wears the donut sweater all the time" note, I wasn't wearing my donut sweater that day, but yes there is a donut sweater (an OF sweater actually but all it has on it is just a donut) that I wear pretty frequently and people tend to compliment (most people just see it as a silly looking donut sweater). So I was all like "yeah I am!" n stuff and we had a nice little interaction. I also mentioned I work across the street. She seemed pretty happy to be talking to me and as I walked away I was like damn I think that girl might kinda like me.
So fast forward to today. It's my day off and I'm doing ignorant hood rat shit at the mall. Actually I was just looking for something for my secret santa and generally killing time before I went to see a movie. Wouldn't ya know it right as I'm walking out of a store I run into her, the girl from Starbucks. It was crazy. Like damn what are the chances of that happening. It was like fate. We both see each other at the same time and we're both like "oh my god it's YOU!". So we talked for a little bit. I was happy I was able to keep a fun conversation going. We were both just by ourselves doing nothing at the mall. I think she had just gotten off work. I could've maybe chilled with her longer, I mean we both had time to kill. But I mean, besides being a seemingly cool girl that works at Starbucks, I don't really know her that well. So I kinda just took off with an okay see ya later sort of thing after talking with her for a while.
So like, I'll definitely be seeing her again at my many Starbucks visits. If it starts to go somewhere though, I'm a little nervous. I'm not good at the whole oh btw here's my number thing. I just haven't done that in so long. Any time a cool interesting girl seems interested in me I kinda just let em get away. I'd like to end this streak.
Obviously, you want to make your move. Here are some suggestions if you are nervous and want it to go down as easily as possible: Prepare yourself before each visit to Starbucks. It sounds like she is consistently there, but you gotta be ready for whenever that right moment happens. Go into each visit with a date idea in your head, especially if one of your hang-ups is timing (Ex: you're afraid to ask her in front of other customers/employees), so that you don't waste an opportunity. If it's busy that day, or the timing is off, don't linger. Just try again next time.
If you haven't at least introduced yourself, you need to do that because you should be addressing her by her name and vice versa at this point. She needs to view you as who you are and not just as donut sweater guy. You can break the ice by mentioning the weekend, or possibly mentioning something you are doing this weekend. If she sounds like that is something she wishes she could do, ask her if she wants to come along. Although this seems like an indirect way of asking someone out, you ask her in a direct way. Be confident and don't play this off as a passing thought.
Or, you could just wait until you're relatively alone one day and directly ask her out. Tell her she seems really cool and you think y'all would have a good time.
You already have the ground work laid out, you just have to make it happen. And if she is dating someone or not interested, then now you know. Don't make a big deal out of rejection and continue treating her exactly like you did before. Her interest or relationship situation may change in the future.
