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Well I admit I went a little overboard with the scary talk, Bloomington is one of the most gay-friendly, liberal cities west of the Rockies probably, I love it. Still can't wait for the freedom at Bonnaroo!
Post by scottydavidnash on Jun 1, 2009 23:18:33 GMT -5
I'm gay and have always had a great time at Bonnaroo. This will be my third year. People are really accepting and I've never had an issue on the farm. From my experience you will be able to find some fellow gays in the arcade and at the electronic shows. Just look around.
So, how many more inforoo'rs will be coming out of the closet on this ridiculous thread?
Me! I haven't been to the roo since the first one in 2002. I am a phish phan (a double dose of phish sold me on the roo this year) and am active at the gay phish phan website, Brian and Robert, which has migrated over to a Facebook page.
Will be coming to the roo after seeing phish from Mansfield MA thru to Knoxville. Last night's Phenway show was a very good tour opener -by the time the band hits the roo they will be on fire!
Since I love to dance, I suppose the arcade is as good a place as any to meet. I'm also going to Oakenfold once Phish finishes on Friday. -Eric
Amazing: Phish, Bruce, Amadou & Mariam, Vieux Farke Toure, Rodrigo y Gabriela, Wilco, NIN Good to great: Animal Collective, NIN, Jimmy Buffet, King Sunny Ade, Tobacco, MGMT, Passion Pit, Kraak & Smack Glad to have seen: Oakenfold, Grizzly Bear, Beastie Boys, of Montreal, Snoop Dogg
Thanks Sumodie, great answer. Sounds like the arcade is good for late nights.... personally, I'll be there for Kraak & Smaak on thursday night and any other down time & late late nights throughout the weekend.
"Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you're gonna be up again. But life goes on. Remember that."
I'm bi, sometimes hang out at the gay bar in town but not because I'm looking for anything, or because I need some gay community to 'get' me or something. I do it mostly because the gay bar is a good deterrent to frat boy jerk types (in a college town especially). But as bigayroo pointed out - the majority is not gay. You can walk around anywhere and safely assume that most of the people you will run into will be straight or bi at the most. A gay person can even, unfortunately, expect open hostility from some people if they mention they are gay or attempt to hit on someone who is not. For this reason I can see the existence of an openly-gay gathering, or meeting spot, being a great idea. That doesn't mean I will necessarily be attending, because I don't personally feel the need, but I can definitely see the general necessity for such a thing.
Enemy, I didn't custie you, and I do sort of see what you are saying, but after all you did say "I hate the whole community." I could see people taking that the wrong way no matter what else you said.
I don't think a gay meeting would be awkward for those attending. At least no more than meeting tens of thousands of straight, gay, and bi people in a field in Tennessee is going to be awkward.
I actually choose to hang out at the gay bars around here sometimes as well...its nice to not have to be hit on every 5 seconds by some drunk dudes. Last time I went out was with 3 straight girls and we chose the gay club for this reason.
I met a friend to hangout with last year, via this thread.. And this year I've met a another friend so I'd say this bad boy works. =) and it really is all about the music but it's nice to have someone to go wild with at night..
Last year I had an amazing time in the rain during my morning jacket.
It's no different than the sex-at-roo and single and ready to mingle type threads on here..
I have the same argument enemy does with the whole gay community (and Im in no way bashing here so please dont take it that way) I just always feel like the gay community does try to separate theirselves then complains when they are separated. Its always a "gay" night at a club or a "gay" meetup. I never attend a "straight" night at a club or a "straight" meetup. Its almost like you want something of your own that it causes the same separation you are trying to fight against. I understand being gay alienates you in the general public sometimes so you always feel detached in a certain way and that sucks and I wish the world wasnt like that. My best guy friend is gay and I see him struggle when he's out with his bf, not because he's not 100% comfortable with his sexuality, but because the world isnt 100% comfortable with homosexuality. I just feel like the gay community helps the process of alienating themselves sometimes. Eventually we'll get to the point where sexuality doesnt matter (hopefully)
Post by nitetimeritetime on Jun 2, 2009 12:34:13 GMT -5
On the other hand, several of my gay friends have told me that they would never have felt safe coming out -- and so they wouldn't have done so -- if they hadn't been introduced to a gay community they could turn to for support.
On the other hand, several of my gay friends have told me that they would never have felt safe coming out -- and so they wouldn't have done so -- if they hadn't been introduced to a gay community they could turn to for support.
and I completely understand this side too....Im not saying one side is right and one side is wrong. idk I wish the world wasnt such a quacked up place but I think roo is the last place that needs a gay community beside a pride parade.
On the other hand, several of my gay friends have told me that they would never have felt safe coming out -- and so they wouldn't have done so -- if they hadn't been introduced to a gay community they could turn to for support.
and I completely understand this side too....Im not saying one side is right and one side is wrong. idk I wish the world wasnt such a quacked up place but I think roo is the last place that needs a gay community beside a pride parade.
agreed, on the other hand, most people wouldnt point me out as being gay, so sometimes it's harder to meet people. but whatever - just lookin forward to great music and great times next week
"Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you're gonna be up again. But life goes on. Remember that."
and I completely understand this side too....Im not saying one side is right and one side is wrong. idk I wish the world wasnt such a quacked up place but I think roo is the last place that needs a gay community beside a pride parade.
agreed, on the other hand, most people wouldnt point me out as being gay, so sometimes it's harder to meet people. but whatever - just lookin forward to great music and great times next week
This was kinda along the lines that I was thinking. You can't tell that someone is gay by looking at them (obviously - I had no idea that Mikearoo was gay until long after I came back from my first Bonnaroo - LOL)
So - it seems that it would be helpful to have a gay meet up type of thing - at least then you know that the majority of the people there are gay, huh?
and I completely understand this side too....Im not saying one side is right and one side is wrong. idk I wish the world wasnt such a quacked up place but I think roo is the last place that needs a gay community beside a pride parade.
agreed, on the other hand, most people wouldnt point me out as being gay, so sometimes it's harder to meet people. but whatever - just lookin forward to great music and great times next week
I hear ya, like I said wasnt bashing just trying to understand. I just had this heated debate on another messageboard about the whole gay community thing so I was trying not to carry over the anger. Hopefully it didnt come off that way. People are ignorant plain and simple. I know Im more openminded than most, but it still amazes me that its 2009 and they way people think is comparative of 1950. But at Roo you dont have to worry.
agreed, on the other hand, most people wouldnt point me out as being gay, so sometimes it's harder to meet people. but whatever - just lookin forward to great music and great times next week
This was kinda along the lines that I was thinking. You can't tell that someone is gay by looking at them (obviously - I had no idea that Mikearoo was gay until long after I came back from my first Bonnaroo - LOL)
"Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you're gonna be up again. But life goes on. Remember that."
This was kinda along the lines that I was thinking. You can't tell that someone is gay by looking at them (obviously - I had no idea that Mikearoo was gay until long after I came back from my first Bonnaroo - LOL)
haha sometimes you can
well - yeah - sometimes - but definately not all the time - LOL
I have no "gay-dar" and am happy to keep it that way. As long as you are a kind person, you're OK with me. As a straight woman, I have no clue what it's like to be gay or bi, but I would think Bonnaroo would be a great place to come out of the closet!
C'mon ncbst3.. It's not about gay only or straight only! With the amount of shows and festivals I go to, 99% of my time is spent hanging with straight folks and I have no problem with that.. love it. I'm not a fan of gay clubs.. It's just cool to have a like minded someone to dance with and who knows on those wild bonnaroo nights when everyone else is getting their freak on!
C'mon ncbst3.. It's not about gay only or straight only! With the amount of shows and festivals I go to, 99% of my time is spent hanging with straight folks and I have no problem with that.. love it. I'm not a fan of gay clubs.. It's just cool to have a like minded someone to dance with and who knows on those wild bonnaroo nights when everyone else is getting their freak on!
Didnt you read the post I said I hear ya and Im not bashing?
Well I must say I am delighted to find this thread. With this being my 6th roo I had no idea that this site, let alone this thread would exist. As for some not understanding why anyone who is "gay" would want to meet up at roo I know you may not understand and therefor welcome to real life. We like to get to know people in our similar situations. (At least for me anyway). I am not trying to separate anything. I am tired of being separated. I live that was everyday (partly as of my own choice not to come out. But that is another story) To be able to find Bonnaroo 6 years ago was like finding a home, (some people I am around everyday don't understand why I go every year) now to find out that there are others like me (gay - be it Out or Not) within yet another community is even more of a welcoming thought. Once in the past 6 years I met a guy (pre arranged via a Bear/gay site) and we sat outside that main entrance to Center Roo and people watched and talked for about three hours. So meeting up was nice in a sea of people and hangin out was sweet!
Thanks to all who have posted and to those that read and want to. To those that don't get it or understand, i don't expect you to. Took me 30 years to start figuring it out.
i was going to ask and see if any gay/queer ladies were going, just out of curiousity mostly.
Off topic, but I see you live in Park Slope. The lesbian bar over there is pretty cool and very large. What is it called? The Caddy Shack?
yeah, we have a big lesbian scene in park slope, which is cool and fairly rare. Cattyshack is like 5 minutes from my apartment, though it just changed its name to something else for whatever reason