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The obvious answer is the second one and choosing the second one is body positivity. I think I'm learning.
The correct answer is just don’t comment on someone’s weight at all.
Maybe this has already been covered in here, cause I ain’t gonna read all that, but my rule of thumb has always been that it’s only okay to comment on an aspect of someone’s appearance that they chose that morning. Outfit or hairstyle is fine - age, weight, height just keep it to yourself.
The obvious answer is the second one and choosing the second one is body positivity. I think I'm learning.
The correct answer is just don’t comment on someone’s weight at all.
I wish I could love this post. There are other ways to compliment someone without it being about weight. Plus, you don't know what someone went through or why they lost it (or gained) in the first place.
The obvious answer is the second one and choosing the second one is body positivity. I think I'm learning.
The correct answer is just don’t comment on someone’s weight at all.
Maybe this has already been covered in here, cause I ain’t gonna read all that, but my rule of thumb has always been that it’s only okay to comment on an aspect of someone’s appearance that they chose that morning. Outfit or hairstyle is fine - age, weight, height just keep it to yourself.
I feel like the second one is actually doing what you're wanting. The OP calls him "unrecognizable", which is commenting on his body. The reply in the second one is pointing out that nothing is wrong, ie there is nothing to see here and we shouldn't be talking about it.
The correct answer is just don’t comment on someone’s weight at all.
Maybe this has already been covered in here, cause I ain’t gonna read all that, but my rule of thumb has always been that it’s only okay to comment on an aspect of someone’s appearance that they chose that morning. Outfit or hairstyle is fine - age, weight, height just keep it to yourself.
I feel like the second one is actually doing what you're wanting. The OP calls him "unrecognizable", which is commenting on his body. The reply in the second one is pointing out that nothing is wrong, ie there is nothing to see here and we shouldn't be talking about it.
It’s still commenting on his appearance by saying he looks healthy and is fine. Maybe he’s not, who knows. Obviously tabloids are gonna tabloid but I don’t think there’s much to gain by engaging in a debate about a stranger’s weight online
The obvious answer is the second one and choosing the second one is body positivity. I think I'm learning.
The correct answer is just don’t comment on someone’s weight at all.
Maybe this has already been covered in here, cause I ain’t gonna read all that, but my rule of thumb has always been that it’s only okay to comment on an aspect of someone’s appearance that they chose that morning. Outfit or hairstyle is fine - age, weight, height just keep it to yourself.
not sure I agree with this. Probably a top 5 most hurtful moment in my life was when I saw saw friends for the first time in a year and I had lost 100 lbs in that time. They said nothing. No compliments or even acknowledgement that I was 40% smaller and way more athletic all of a sudden. There’s room for productive conversation on someone’s fitness, both the good and bad of it.
The correct answer is just don’t comment on someone’s weight at all.
Maybe this has already been covered in here, cause I ain’t gonna read all that, but my rule of thumb has always been that it’s only okay to comment on an aspect of someone’s appearance that they chose that morning. Outfit or hairstyle is fine - age, weight, height just keep it to yourself.
not sure I agree with this. Probably a top 5 most hurtful moment in my life was when I saw saw friends for the first time in a year and I had lost 100 lbs in that time. They said nothing. No compliments or even acknowledgement that I was 40% smaller and way more athletic all of a sudden. There’s room for productive conversation on someone’s fitness, both the good and bad of it.
Oh I agree that actual friends are a different story, although it is still best to be sensitive around those topics depending on the relationship. I was thinking more in the context of complete strangers like Mr. Hill or random colleagues or whatever.
There’s ways to kind of thread the needle too. Guy I work with has been working out a bunch the past year and lost a fair amount of weight. Eventually he bought new slimmer suits, which I complimented him on. Then he had an opening to talk about his weight if he wanted to (which he did and we had a chat about his fitness regimen) or just say thank you and move on.
I lost a lot of weight when I was going through colon cancer. I looked really bad. Did I want friends, family, and perfect strangers commenting? No. I did not. But they did. I was actually told I looked great. They wanted to know what diet I was on. I told them the cancer diet. They shut up. That’s how fucked up we are as a society.
The correct answer is just don’t comment on someone’s weight at all.
Maybe this has already been covered in here, cause I ain’t gonna read all that, but my rule of thumb has always been that it’s only okay to comment on an aspect of someone’s appearance that they chose that morning. Outfit or hairstyle is fine - age, weight, height just keep it to yourself.
not sure I agree with this. Probably a top 5 most hurtful moment in my life was when I saw saw friends for the first time in a year and I had lost 100 lbs in that time. They said nothing. No compliments or even acknowledgement that I was 40% smaller and way more athletic all of a sudden. There’s room for productive conversation on someone’s fitness, both the good and bad of it.
As someone who has lost a significant amount of weight a couple of times in my life, I get this, but I also think is important to put personal feelings aside and consider a greater good in this situation. The first time I lost a lot of weight was the early ‘00s, and people commented on it freely. I did appreciate the compliments at the time, and I know they were mostly coming from a good place (except the time my uncle said at dinner that my mom must have found all the weight I lost). This last time was over the course of 2021 on, and far fewer people have commented on it. In some instances, I have been a little hurt that it wasn’t mentioned because I’m proud that I’ve worked hard to get myself to a healthier place, and sometimes someone not mentioning it can feel like a bit of a slight.
But at the same time, I recognize now that commenting on anyone’s weight loss is a minefield that usually shouldn’t be stepped into. Most people don’t know whether I’ve lost weight because I ate better and moved my body more or because I’m physically sick or because I’m going through some major stress that causes me not to eat or because I have an eating disorder or because of something else. And if it’s anything other than the first one, I wouldn’t want someone telling me how happy for me they are that I’ve lost weight. Add to that, every time someone does comment on it now, I feel a little bit like they are saying I’m somehow better at this smaller size and wouldn’t it be a travesty if I were to gain that weight back. So I realize now that it’s better on the whole if people just keep their mouths shut about everyone’s weight other than their own because it’s not really their business anyway and can potentially be a very subject hurtful to being up.
it's really hard to pull of the tucked in t shirt and I don't think he did it here. and maybe i'm too traditional, but if you have pants with belt loops and tuck in your shirt, put a damn belt on.
it's really hard to pull of the tucked in t shirt and I don't think he did it here. and maybe i'm too traditional, but if you have pants with belt loops and tuck in your shirt, put a damn belt on.
Not ready for tucked in tshirts being a thing again
Post by 3post1jack1 on Aug 10, 2023 10:32:40 GMT -5
yeah i watched an episode of The Other Two last night, and Cary was wearing 5 pockets and a tucked in t-shirt. he looked good but i could not stop thinking about the tucked in t-shirt.
it was all Todd Snyder which make it extra weird because i own the exact clothes he was wearing.
As someone that lost weight during the pandi due to mental health reasons, I fucking hate it when people comment on how my body looks. I didn't mean to lose the weight, I literally meditate and do yoga to help maintain my mental health, losing and keeping 30lbs off is just a side effect. Do I like that I am thinner, sure. Do I want people commenting and asking how/why I lost the weight? Fuck no. I have one girlfriend that every time I see her she asks about my weight and calls me skinny minnie. It may seem cute to her, but it really cuts deep to me.
As Delicious Meatball Sub stated, there are other ways to "thread the needle" to let people know that you see them.
yeah i watched an episode of The Other Two last night, and Cary was wearing 5 pockets and a tucked in t-shirt. he looked good but i could not stop thinking about the tucked in t-shirt.
it was all Todd Snyder which make it extra weird because i own the exact clothes he was wearing.
As someone that lost weight during the pandi due to mental health reasons, I fucking hate it when people comment on how my body looks. I didn't mean to lose the weight, I literally meditate and do yoga to help maintain my mental health, losing and keeping 30lbs off is just a side effect. Do I like that I am thinner, sure. Do I want people commenting and asking how/why I lost the weight? Fuck no. I have one girlfriend that every time I see her she asks about my weight and calls me skinny minnie. It may seem cute to her, but it really cuts deep to me.
As Delicious Meatball Sub stated, there are other ways to "thread the needle" to let people know that you see them.
Damn. ppl love you. I tried to say this and I got torched. "talk your shit" - Roy Wood jr.
I am triggered: I have been complimented over and over again about my weight and size. I'm medically 20lbs under weight... you wanna ask my neurologist? I feel great, but everything (the tobacco smoke in the house, the weird humidity in NY, the lack of air flow) doesn't discount my other medical shit going on.
It's not just food. It's sucking in tobacco all night that makes me dizzy, it's overheating. It's getting old. can't stop that one right... And then having a younger roommate yell at you over your cooking method - when I clean every dish as it comes off. I'm sorry the stove isn't perfect my dude but I'm stressed the fuck out. I lock a door that has no key because I fear he'll kill me. But I'm not the leaseholder so I don't get to call the shots.
I don't judge people over their weight. And never have.
edit: I'm also literally waiting if my insurance will give me a beta blocker. I can take less high blood pressure medication if I do. I can't afford new glasses because the lenses shaved down are 600 dollars. Some days being on 3 medications already makes me feel like my heart is in constant pain. Anemia. Possible pre-diabetic diagnosis from the info sent back to me but gotta wait to get even a tele-meeting. Can't even afford my nasal spray that is compounded so it's not covered. People think they know where you are and you are just fighting every day.
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I am triggered: I have been complimented over and over again about my weight and size. I'm medically 20lbs under weight... you wanna ask my neurologist? I feel great, but everything (the tobacco smoke in the house, the weird humidity in NY, the lack of air flow) doesn't discount my other medical shit going on.
It's not just food. It's sucking in tobacco all night that makes me dizzy, it's overheating. It's getting old. can't stop that one right... And then having a younger roommate yell at you over your cooking method - when I clean every dish as it comes off. I'm sorry the stove isn't perfect my dude but I'm stressed the fuck out. I lock a door that has no key because I fear he'll kill me. But I'm not the leaseholder so I don't get to call the shots.
I don't judge people over their weight. And never have.
Your living situation sounds exhaustingly stressful. I really hope that gets better for you in the future
I am triggered: I have been complimented over and over again about my weight and size. I'm medically 20lbs under weight... you wanna ask my neurologist? I feel great, but everything (the tobacco smoke in the house, the weird humidity in NY, the lack of air flow) doesn't discount my other medical shit going on.
It's not just food. It's sucking in tobacco all night that makes me dizzy, it's overheating. It's getting old. can't stop that one right... And then having a younger roommate yell at you over your cooking method - when I clean every dish as it comes off. I'm sorry the stove isn't perfect my dude but I'm stressed the fuck out. I lock a door that has no key because I fear he'll kill me. But I'm not the leaseholder so I don't get to call the shots.
I don't judge people over their weight. And never have.
Your living situation sounds exhaustingly stressful. I really hope that gets better for you in the future
My other housemate/leaseholder is moving by Jan 1. I also am stressed out about being poor and not having anywhere to go. But I just don't want to interact with this person and they are doing other fucked up shit but it's not important
yeah i watched an episode of The Other Two last night, and Cary was wearing 5 pockets and a tucked in t-shirt. he looked good but i could not stop thinking about the tucked in t-shirt.
it was all Todd Snyder which make it extra weird because i own the exact clothes he was wearing.
whenever i have the same clothes as someone on TV it's always the most milquetoast character in the show. love ben from parks and rec of course but he's a great example. a lot of costume departments for sitcoms in the 2010s apparently shopped at J. Crew, today it's Todd Snyder lol.
whenever i have the same clothes as someone on TV it's always the most milquetoast character in the show. love ben from parks and rec of course but he's a great example. a lot of costume departments for sitcoms in the 2010s apparently shopped at J. Crew, today it's Todd Snyder lol.
yeah my work wardrobe is basically Ben or Jake Peralta minus the leather jacket. just all the j.crew versions. im a basic j.crew boy.
whenever i have the same clothes as someone on TV it's always the most milquetoast character in the show. love ben from parks and rec of course but he's a great example. a lot of costume departments for sitcoms in the 2010s apparently shopped at J. Crew, today it's Todd Snyder lol.
yeah my work wardrobe is basically Ben or Jake Peralta minus the leather jacket. just all the j.crew versions. im a basic j.crew boy.
Is anyone here actually judging people for their weight? I keep hearing that they are but I don’t think I’ve seen direct proof of it.
I (as a fat person) have seen other fat people shaming other fat people.
are you referring to xfinity’s posts? Is there not a difference between feeling a way about yourself being a certain size versus how others are? I think just about everyone wishes they were a little taller, slimmer, buffer, etc, and if that’s the kind of mindset someone has about their own body and it’s the motivation that works to make them happier, who am I to judge?
I (as a fat person) have seen other fat people shaming other fat people.
are you referring to xfinity’s posts? Is there not a difference between feeling a way about yourself being a certain size versus how others are? I think just about everyone wishes they were a little taller, slimmer, buffer, etc, and if that’s the kind of mindset someone has about their own body and it’s the motivation that works to make them happier, who am I to judge?
Post by 3post1jack1 on Aug 10, 2023 11:55:59 GMT -5
this is the male fashion advice thread now. moving forward please keep all discussion of controversial cancellations where it belongs, in Upcoming Shows.
this is the male fashion advice thread now. moving forward please keep all discussion of controversial cancellations where it belongs, in Upcoming Shows.
People have tried to cancel me for my extremely casual non work clothing. Band shirts or Clemson shirts, shorts and flip flops about 8 months a year.
this is the male fashion advice thread now. moving forward please keep all discussion of controversial cancellations where it belongs, in Upcoming Shows.
People have tried to cancel me for my extremely casual non work clothing. Band shirts or Clemson shirts, shorts and flip flops about 8 months a year.
You say this like people in South Carolina wear shirts and shoes.
