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Feeld is prob fine to navigate as a hetero-leaning dude but omg as a queer/bi poly girl, it was a nightmare for the brief period I tried. so many unicorn hunters and pushy couples looking for threesomes. i had no luck on that app, sadly.
Update on this viewpoint!
A recent date suggested I give Feeld another try because he said our local area has way more people on it than used to be there (when I first tried the app early or mid 2020 I think it was), and a solid number of like actually poly folks instead of just swingers or folks looking for a threesome.
So I redownloaded it a few days ago, and I've gotten into a few pleasant conversations so far including a sexy older woman who is interested in going to a Quaker silent meeting with me sometime
Maybe this app has more promise now than it used to!
I know this is supposed to be the sex thread but Quaker meeting as in the religion?
Feeld is prob fine to navigate as a hetero-leaning dude but omg as a queer/bi poly girl, it was a nightmare for the brief period I tried. so many unicorn hunters and pushy couples looking for threesomes. i had no luck on that app, sadly.
Update on this viewpoint!
A recent date suggested I give Feeld another try because he said our local area has way more people on it than used to be there (when I first tried the app early or mid 2020 I think it was), and a solid number of like actually poly folks instead of just swingers or folks looking for a threesome.
So I redownloaded it a few days ago, and I've gotten into a few pleasant conversations so far including a sexy older woman who is interested in going to a Quaker silent meeting with me sometime
Maybe this app has more promise now than it used to!
Very “Fleabag”!
Yah a lot more people are queer / kinky / poly post-quarantine
A recent date suggested I give Feeld another try because he said our local area has way more people on it than used to be there (when I first tried the app early or mid 2020 I think it was), and a solid number of like actually poly folks instead of just swingers or folks looking for a threesome.
So I redownloaded it a few days ago, and I've gotten into a few pleasant conversations so far including a sexy older woman who is interested in going to a Quaker silent meeting with me sometime
Maybe this app has more promise now than it used to!
I know this is supposed to be the sex thread but Quaker meeting as in the religion?
Considering you've found the need to respond to my threads as if you are threatened by me I offer you some peace my confused counterpart. May you find peace in your restless soul.
Considering you've found the need to respond to my threads as if you are threatened by me I offer you some peace my confused counterpart. May you find peace in your restless soul.
ok sorry to quote you thrice but "5 dates or three weeks, whichever comes first"? Are there people going on five dates with the same person in a three week span? This is wild to me.
i've done it in my young-self past but don't plan to ever again lol
WOW THIS DIDNT AGE WELL, RUMBY.
lmao to be fair/to my credit, i haven't naturally clicked this well with someone in *years* but uhhh yeah I've now been on 3 dates in the past 10 days with the same guy and will be seeing him tonight for my bday too... so unless we suddenly lose interest in each other in the coming week, I'm guessing we will indeed hit "5 dates within three week span" - ooooooooops?
Considering you've found the need to respond to my threads as if you are threatened by me I offer you some peace my confused counterpart. May you find peace in your restless soul.
i've done it in my young-self past but don't plan to ever again lol
WOW THIS DIDNT AGE WELL, RUMBY.
lmao to be fair/to my credit, i haven't naturally clicked this well with someone in *years* but uhhh yeah I've now been on 3 dates in the past 10 days with the same guy and will be seeing him tonight for my bday too... so unless we suddenly lose interest in each other in the coming week, I'm guessing we will indeed hit "5 dates within three week span" - ooooooooops?
Good for you! I did this recently with a new partner because they’re traveling soon so we smushed in as much time as we could before the dry spell
Post by man1cpixiedreamgirl on May 11, 2022 11:17:36 GMT -5
Also my lover got her final shot of Gardasil! It’s still effective to get in your 30’s, so even if you missed the boat as a teen, you can still protect yourself from HPV strains that could cause cancer!
Also my lover got her final shot of Gardasil! It’s still effective to get in your 30’s, so even if you missed the boat as a teen, you can still protect yourself from HPV strains that could cause cancer!
Got my last one a month or so ago! It's approved up to age 45 now for men and women!
i've done it in my young-self past but don't plan to ever again lol
WOW THIS DIDNT AGE WELL, RUMBY.
lmao to be fair/to my credit, i haven't naturally clicked this well with someone in *years* but uhhh yeah I've now been on 3 dates in the past 10 days with the same guy and will be seeing him tonight for my bday too... so unless we suddenly lose interest in each other in the coming week, I'm guessing we will indeed hit "5 dates within three week span" - ooooooooops?
lmao to be fair/to my credit, i haven't naturally clicked this well with someone in *years* but uhhh yeah I've now been on 3 dates in the past 10 days with the same guy and will be seeing him tonight for my bday too... so unless we suddenly lose interest in each other in the coming week, I'm guessing we will indeed hit "5 dates within three week span" - ooooooooops?
If it happens, it happens
oh i know, and im just letting it develop organically which happens to be at a faster pace than i usually do.
it's just funny how that post was literally just a month ago
Considering you've found the need to respond to my threads as if you are threatened by me I offer you some peace my confused counterpart. May you find peace in your restless soul.
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Also my lover got her final shot of Gardasil! It’s still effective to get in your 30’s, so even if you missed the boat as a teen, you can still protect yourself from HPV strains that could cause cancer!
Got my last one a month or so ago! It's approved up to age 45 now for men and women!
I am always just barely over the cutoff for everything.
Post by man1cpixiedreamgirl on May 12, 2022 13:42:33 GMT -5
Had a great date with a femme dom (I’m a switch) and we had two kisses goodbye - first one was sweet, second one was like a slug was trying to snuggle my tonsils. Thank god not a lot of BDSM involves kissing
Had a great date with a femme dom (I’m a switch) and we had two kisses goodbye - first one was sweet, second one was like a slug was trying to snuggle my tonsils. Thank god not a lot of BDSM involves kissing
Oh my. This made me gag a lil. I had a dream I was kissing someone and totally tongued it way you much and woke up very disgusted by myself.
We're all a mess of paradoxes. Believing in things we know can't be true. We walk around carrying feelings too complicated and contradictory to express. But when it all becomes too big, and words aren't enough to help get it all out, there's always music.
Had a great date with a femme dom (I’m a switch) and we had two kisses goodbye - first one was sweet, second one was like a slug was trying to snuggle my tonsils. Thank god not a lot of BDSM involves kissing
Oh my. This made me gag a lil. I had a dream I was kissing someone and totally tongued it way you much and woke up very disgusted by myself.
Anybody have any tips on how to get a partner to open up about what they want in bed?
You can always do “yes and no” questions where you lead with what you like. “I love when someone kisses my neck. How do you like it? Do you like doing that to someone?” etc etc
Anybody have any tips on how to get a partner to open up about what they want in bed?
You can always do “yes and no” questions where you lead with what you like. “I love when someone kisses my neck. How do you like it? Do you like doing that to someone?” etc etc
Yes! And if feeling awkward about starting from scratch with the conversation, I definitely recommend writing down stuff ahead of time individually and then be able to use that to help steer the conversation together. It can be in bullet points/free form or by finding a list online and both filling it out.
Literally am in the process of making our way through our responses on a NINE PAGE kinks/preferences/limits checklist with my new partner hahaha which obviously is quite long and probably more intensive than most would prefer. And we keep reviewing like a page or two while in person together and then uhh getting distracted and thus have yet to finish going through it still lol. But we knew pretty immediately that we have naturally very strong chemistry + kink compatibility, and might be heading towards establishing a more structured dynamic, so going through a long ass list like this is helping get many talks/negotiations done directly and efficiently that would've otherwise come up down the road anyway.
But there are certainly shorter, less detailed ones that go over basics (do you like role play? do you like spanking? do you enjoy anal? etc. etc.) and could open up the conversation for y'all!
Considering you've found the need to respond to my threads as if you are threatened by me I offer you some peace my confused counterpart. May you find peace in your restless soul.
Anybody have any tips on how to get a partner to open up about what they want in bed?
You can always do “yes and no” questions where you lead with what you like. “I love when someone kisses my neck. How do you like it? Do you like doing that to someone?” etc etc
This "Want, Will, Won't" list is a good framework fun to fill out along side a partner and then compare.
You can always do “yes and no” questions where you lead with what you like. “I love when someone kisses my neck. How do you like it? Do you like doing that to someone?” etc etc
Yes! And if feeling awkward about starting from scratch with the conversation, I definitely recommend writing down stuff ahead of time individually and then be able to use that to help steer the conversation together. It can be in bullet points/free form or by finding a list online and both filling it out.
Literally am in the process of making our way through our responses on a NINE PAGE kinks/preferences/limits checklist with my new partner hahaha which obviously is quite long and probably more intensive than most would prefer. And we keep reviewing like a page or two while in person together and then uhh getting distracted and thus have yet to finish going through it still lol. But we knew pretty immediately that we have naturally very strong chemistry + kink compatibility, and might be heading towards establishing a more structured dynamic, so going through a long ass list like this is helping get many talks/negotiations done directly and efficiently that would've otherwise come up down the road anyway.
But there are certainly shorter, less detailed ones that go over basics (do you like role play? do you like spanking? do you enjoy anal? etc. etc.) and could open up the conversation for y'all!
Anybody have any tips on how to get a partner to open up about what they want in bed?
Maybe a stupid question, but what happens when you try broaching the subject? is there resistance? Deflection? Does your partner seem embarrassed, or like they're worried if they say anything, it'll make you feel like you're not doing a good job?
Just asking because I'm assuming the direct approach ("Hey, I really want to blow your mind sexually. What would do that?") isn't an option, and understanding the point of resistance might make figuring out how to tackle it clearer.
Anybody have any tips on how to get a partner to open up about what they want in bed?
Maybe a stupid question, but what happens when you try broaching the subject? is there resistance? Deflection? Does your partner seem embarrassed, or like they're worried if they say anything, it'll make you feel like you're not doing a good job?
Just asking because I'm assuming the direct approach ("Hey, I really want to blow your mind sexually. What would do that?") isn't an option, and understanding the point of resistance might make figuring out how to tackle it clearer.
I've had potential partners look like deer in the headlights when it comes to broaching their likes / dislikes. Total "I dunno" responses. They'd want to talk about it, but then have a total brain fart when discussing things they like.
hygienequeen are they open to telling you what they like, as you're doing it to them? Like, can they tell you "more" or "less" when you're doing something?
We're all a mess of paradoxes. Believing in things we know can't be true. We walk around carrying feelings too complicated and contradictory to express. But when it all becomes too big, and words aren't enough to help get it all out, there's always music.
You can always do “yes and no” questions where you lead with what you like. “I love when someone kisses my neck. How do you like it? Do you like doing that to someone?” etc etc
This "Want, Will, Won't" list is a good framework fun to fill out along side a partner and then compare.
We're all a mess of paradoxes. Believing in things we know can't be true. We walk around carrying feelings too complicated and contradictory to express. But when it all becomes too big, and words aren't enough to help get it all out, there's always music.
You can always do “yes and no” questions where you lead with what you like. “I love when someone kisses my neck. How do you like it? Do you like doing that to someone?” etc etc
This "Want, Will, Won't" list is a good framework fun to fill out along side a partner and then compare.
Love this list! There used to be a questionnaire maybe on fet that had little islands and you could compare your kinks after you each checked what you were interested in. Anyone remember what it was?
Post by man1cpixiedreamgirl on May 12, 2022 18:40:10 GMT -5
Not to pivot the convo, but y'all:
My amazing bisexual girlfriend likes to play with men on occasion (this is how we know sexuality isn't a choice). She had a good coffee date with a potential BDSM play partner, and afterward he messaged her to check up about testing, birth control, etc, because their coffee conversation didn't cover that. She says she's got an IUD (mostly for her period pain management) and he says
"Great because I don't like to use condoms. I test monthly so we're good."
Y'all. Y'ALL.
She is whip smart and goes "So you got a vasectomy?" to which he goes "No, still got my swimmers". She goes "so it falls to the female partners to be on birth control?" to which he replies:
"It will be better for everyone if I don't wear a condom. It really disrupts the flow of the play."
He kept pushing back every time she'd give a reason why condom use, especially before there's a basis of personal safety, was a good idea. Eventually he said "Well for YOUR sake I GUESS we can."
She immediately blocked him after saying "That makes me feel super unsafe and uncomfortable. Bye." And then HE MESSAGED HER ON ANOTHER PLATFORM THEY MATCHED ON to say "I thought you should know I have erectile dysfunction, that's why I don't like condoms".
This is when I got home and saw her, fuming. She recaps the story and then writes to him: "I have been stealthed (removal of a condom without my consent) and sexually assaulted by men and that's why I wouldn't feel safe without one. With everything that's going on with women's reproductive rights, I can't believe you pushed back at all. You are not a safe person and I'll call it out if I ever see you at a party."
Anyway, she's going on a rage-run and I'm buying her dinner and smoking her out tonight.
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