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Post by Capital Cincy on Dec 19, 2022 9:14:31 GMT -5
Seeing my "comet partner" today. She literally doesn't answer my texts all year and during the holidays when she's back in Cincy she'll reach out. I don't mind this set up to be honest and really like spending that once a year time with her. Nervous!
Seeing my "comet partner" today. She literally doesn't answer my texts all year and during the holidays when she's back in Cincy she'll reach out. I don't mind this set up to be honest and really like spending that once a year time with her. Nervous!
Are any of you either inconsistent bruisers or with partners who bruise inconsistently?
I cannot for the life of me figure out why the person I am seeing sometimes turns pretty colors and sometimes does not despite no appreciable difference in technique or circumstances that I can discern
Yeah, so--many moons ago, like circa 2015/16, I bruised quite easily from impact stuff. Those were the first two years I was more consistently pursuing that sort of play, and as someone who is rather fair-skinned, any medium to harder impact scene would result in lots of pretty colors/bruises.
Nowadays, I am pretty damn hard to bruise. Especially my butt, lol. I guess I just built up bruising stamina? Even when I go months and months without any impact play, once I'm back at it, I return to the hard-to-bruise state, which I find rather interesting.
It isn't like I can't mark at ALL now; hard caning on my thighs (front or back) usually shows up, and spanking mixed with paddles miiiight show up on my ass, but often more so with speckles than all-out full colors like I used to get.
On the one hand, I do miss bruising easily because I love having bruises from a partner like that--they're forget-me-nots that you can poke at and be reminded of the scene. But I obviously don't engage in S&m just for the bruises; I do it for the feeling (both physical and emotional/psychological), and so when I do successfully bruise nowadays, it is just an added bonus/nice surprise.
Considering you've found the need to respond to my threads as if you are threatened by me I offer you some peace my confused counterpart. May you find peace in your restless soul.
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Are any of you either inconsistent bruisers or with partners who bruise inconsistently?
I cannot for the life of me figure out why the person I am seeing sometimes turns pretty colors and sometimes does not despite no appreciable difference in technique or circumstances that I can discern
Oh that is me! I get random bruises that I don't know how I got, and then sometimes I am like, oh that will leave a mark and it doesn't. There is no rhyme or rhythm.
We're all a mess of paradoxes. Believing in things we know can't be true. We walk around carrying feelings too complicated and contradictory to express. But when it all becomes too big, and words aren't enough to help get it all out, there's always music.
Question - new partner, how long do you typically roll with using condoms?
Ah, man, there are so many variables. How much of a risk is pregnancy, and how "bad" would it be if it happened? Is there other stuff being used to mitigate that risk, and is the person doing those things (typically the female in a hetero couple, unless you're planning a vasectomy) down with that responsibility and what comes with it (birth control pill side effects can suck, IUDs can be difficult to manage, etc.)? Has everybody been tested for STDs (doesn't catch everything, obviously - most STD panels don't test for herpes, for example) since their last sexual partner? How does each partner feel about the transition?
Only way to answer any of these is to talk it over with your partner.
Considering you've found the need to respond to my threads as if you are threatened by me I offer you some peace my confused counterpart. May you find peace in your restless soul.
Question - new partner, how long do you typically roll with using condoms?
I've had partners who I dated for 6+ months where fluid bonding was never even on the table, and then others (including current one) where we opened up dialogue about foregoing condoms within the first month or two of dating. Depends on so many factors, but for me personally those 6+ month still-using-condom situations were def influenced by one or both of us having other partners at the time, and perhaps already being fluid bonded with someone. And then with current partner, it was pretty pertinent that not only were we entering the relationship sans other partners, but also he had just had a vasectomy so with that PLUS my iud, pregnancy risk is incrediblyyy low, almost nonexist.
Since I know you're prob coming from mono/no-other-partners framework, then I'd say a couple months in is definitely fine to open up the conversation. But obviously do NOT enter said convo with any expectations! First discussion should just be around the general idea, potential concerns and/or past relational issues around it that could be relevant (e.g. as a woman who has had a male partner lie about fluid bonding with another partner, I have some trauma around it), etc. See where y'all are at with it and then go from there.
Considering you've found the need to respond to my threads as if you are threatened by me I offer you some peace my confused counterpart. May you find peace in your restless soul.
Ah, man, there are so many variables. How much of a risk is pregnancy
So, I had a vasectomy 10 years ago. In my last relationship, I wasn't using protection like 97% of the time.
Whenever I get a new partner, it's like I'm going back to the real world - at least until she gets comfortable enough.
if y’all are mono & you have had a vasectomy…. Yeah I see no issue bringing it up on the earlier end. Still 110% fair if she has concerns and doesn’t want to, but it makes sense you’d be comfortable ditching condoms given your circumstances.
For non mono folks, there’s obviously a lot more that goes into the decision making. E.g. currently my bf & I don’t have other partners just by way of not having been actively trying to date new folks (time, capacity restraints mostly) but once we do, he knows it’ll be a hard boundary for me that we don’t fluid bond w others since we already are.
Considering you've found the need to respond to my threads as if you are threatened by me I offer you some peace my confused counterpart. May you find peace in your restless soul.
Question - new partner, how long do you typically roll with using condoms?
Have a discussion before you have sex. Figure out what you both want and your history. If you both decide to not use condoms it gives you time to get an STI test if you need to do that.
I don't think it's a time thing. There have been people I've dated and we never used condoms. Others where we always used condoms, even for years.
For those traveling and staying with family - how many of you like to get down in your, or S.O.'s, bedroom?
I think it's hot.
The wife and I do it at her parents' in her old bedroom, and I think it's more the being quiet and sneaking around that does it for me. Similar to public places like school or work... But yeah, we'll be getting down Christmas Day through the 27th up there.
For those traveling and staying with family - how many of you like to get down in your, or S.O.'s, bedroom?
I think it's hot.
haven’t during the holidays in a long time because I’ve lived local to my parents for the past 6+ years but I def did enjoy having to sneak around to fuck my college bf during summers/holidays staying there.
Considering you've found the need to respond to my threads as if you are threatened by me I offer you some peace my confused counterpart. May you find peace in your restless soul.
Has anyone here ever masturbated to something non-sexual in nature?
This one time, I took some 2cb at home and just laid on the floor listening to music while staring up at the ceiling, and when the song "Hug of Thunder" by Broken Social Scene came on, I got tingly all over and was inspired to enjoy some me time.
Has anyone here ever masturbated to something non-sexual in nature?
This one time, I took some 2cb at home and just laid on the floor listening to music while staring up at the ceiling, and when the song "Hug of Thunder" by Broken Social Scene came on, I got tingly all over and was inspired to enjoy some me time.
So, yes, but there were drugs involved.
I had a huge breakthrough understanding of my own sexuality on 2cb. Hell of a droog
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