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but hey coulbean, the kid thing hits me too. i definitely DONT want a child right now, but i always pictured myself as a young mom.
I've been thinking about since I watched my mom give birth when I was 16. It's only gotten worse as I've gotten older. I'm lucky that I have younger siblings to play with, but my friends are all having babies now and it's really starting to get to me.
I went to this small festival last fall and saw adorable babies everywhere! It just killed me! (It killed Chris too, to see me with this longing motherly look on my face all weekend, pointing out cute babies)
coulbean, you are wise to consider how you might feel in the future about your current beau friend. The best way to predict future behavior is by looking at past behavior. Or so Dr Phil says. And so I say too! You are still young, there is plenty of time before your clock starts ticking really loud. The feelings you are having about babies are normal, embrace those feelings and love on your friend's babies. Think long and hard, because once you have a baby, your life as you know it will change forever. Not in a bad way, but it will so be prepared.
If that is your dog in your avatar pic, I'd say you made a good choice and a good friend.
Kids you say? I'm not so sure about those yet! I love kids....my brothers both have little ones but I just don' t know! I really thought I was ready, but I think I'm a little selfish......I'd rather go to ROO then be stuck at home breast-feeding That doesn't appeal to me ;D But I've still have time(I'm 27).....but I think I'll wait till I'm in my early thirties.....then maybe ;D
i love love love the dixie chicks!!!! always have and always will...i'm listening to them right now as a matter of fact..."taking the long way", "easy silence" and "i hope" are my current favorites....
"White collar conservative flashin down the street, pointing that plastic finger at me, they all assume my kind will drop and die, but I'm gonna wave my freak flag high." Jimi Hendrix
Post by ziggyandthemonkeys on Mar 28, 2007 22:53:24 GMT -5
coulbean said:
yes, it was two different topics! Funny! I have peed on him though. I was sitting on top of him and he was tickling me. I warned him that I was going to pee, but he didn't listen.
It's not that I'm afraid that he'll leave me. I'm afraid that I won't be able to deal with certain things that he does. He lets his job affect him too much and gets cranky at home. He holds himself to these really high expectations and then gets upset when he can't meet them. And I always have to drag the real problem out of him when he's upset... it usually involves digging through this layer of defensive statements before we get down to what is really wrong.
Like I said, I love him dearly, but there's no way I can live with a cranky person for the rest of my life.
The kids issue may be another deal breaker in the future. I do want children. I always have. He's not so sure. I know that this could cause a problem, but I also know that a lot of guys are like this when they're young. I like to think he'll come around. If he treats his kids anything like he does his ferrets, he'll be a good dad.
I don't take marriage lightly... I've watched my parents go through many divorces and I'd really rather not deal with that.
I think a lot of men go through this phase. They feel they need to make a lot of money, and be the ultimate provider, and be perfect, etc etc, but i think eventually most realize that theres more important things. Hopefully this holds true for you.
I hope so too, Ziggy! Because I plan on being a nurse and he's going to have to get used to me bringing home the bacon :-)
Having a kid right now would really be tragic. I have too much I need to get done first. And so does he. So I KNOW that I have to wait. It's jut those millions of years of evolution telling me that I need to pass on my genes. I also know that I have plenty of time. But this isn't a logical feeling!'
Lauraroo, yes that is my puppy. I was teaching him to wave bye-bye tonight. He's so smart!
Post by jambandjohn on Mar 29, 2007 1:24:21 GMT -5
I got booted out of high school twice. The second time, a friend and I split a bottle of Wild Turkey on the morning of the last day of the year. Could hardly walk, let alone drive. Got sent to the office but decided to leave instead. As I was getting ready to drive off, the vice-principal steps in front of my VW and starts yelling for me to get out. I rev the engine and inch the car ahead. After a couple repeats of this he moved and I drove off. Went a couple of miles, took a dirt road, pulled over, got out and passed out. In the mean time the cops had an APB out for me and my 'rents were told I tried to run over the VP. Eventually I went and faced the music. Didn't get arrested or permanantly expelled or have to see a shrink like the school suggested...
Never once did I tell own kids about this while I lectured them about their behavior.
Post by oatmealschnappz on Mar 29, 2007 1:30:10 GMT -5
That's one of the (many) reasons I can't ever have kids. I was suspended (30 days or more) over ten times in middle school. I was eventually expelled. In high-school, I rarely attended more than half a day a week....before being expelled. I actually sported a firm 0.0 gpa, at one point. I was a sh*tty student.....and a real prick. I fear my children would be the same....PLUS!!!
ya i had a similar situation in my school days. got asked to leave. i agreed. and right when i agrees they told me if i was ever found on school property or school functions the police would be called and escorted me off the property. needless to say they didnt like me. and i wont be telling my son any of those stories either. not till hes done with school anyhow
My dad and mom have both 'fessed up tp some of the crazy shit they did in high school, but I'm sure they haven't told me everything. We all grow up and realize that our parents aren't the super-heroes we thought them to be. :-)
My dad and mom have both 'fessed up tp some of the crazy nuts they did in high school, but I'm sure they haven't told me everything. We all grow up and realize that our parents aren't the super-heroes we thought them to be. :-)
My mom and dad still wanna act like they were angels in high school and never ever did anything wrong in their lives - I love 'em - but come on - nobody is that perfect
Post by amantesuena on Apr 2, 2007 11:53:14 GMT -5
so a couple of you guys know that i just went through a move. my mom came down and helped one day. (she really is a good motivator but she started drinking around 2 and after that it was over.) she was packing up the kitchen and found our straw dispenser--the 70's kind in the tube--tubeless. not knowing, she asked my sister if she should just throw it away bc it was "broken." my sister chimed in "its not broken, your youngest daughter made a [tobacco smoking apparatus] out of it." a little dazed by this unnecessary attack on my otherwise sparkling character, i respond, " mom, i just thought youd be proud that i could make my own [tobacco smoking apparatuses]." she really wasnt, but she accepted my status as the family black sheep long ago. and has since told the story to the rest of the family and friends.
Post by poopzilla33 on Apr 4, 2007 14:29:10 GMT -5
i'd rezlly like to do somethign epic, but i dn't have the moeny. i never have any money. i'm too nice. i always let people borrow money or pay for thigns for people. i Hate money, and i like making people feel good so it makes sense that i spend a lot of money; but i never have anything saved up. i want to move mroe than anythign in the world, but i know i won't be able to for at least a year till i ahve the money saved up. i'm gonna try to be a little tighter with my money, even though i really don't want to. i hope it works, i'm feelign very unsatisfied at this stage of my life
i'd rezlly like to do somethign epic, but i dn't have the moeny. i never have any money. i'm too nice. i always let people borrow money or pay for thigns for people. i Hate money, and i like making people feel good so it makes sense that i spend a lot of money; but i never have anything saved up. i want to move mroe than anythign in the world, but i know i won't be able to for at least a year till i ahve the money saved up. i'm gonna try to be a little tighter with my money, even though i really don't want to. i hope it works, i'm feelign very unsatisfied at this stage of my life
You are young - you have your whole life ahead of you. It is great that you always make people feel good - if more people were like you - we prolly would have less violence in the world
so a couple of you guys know that i just went through a move. my mom came down and helped one day. (she really is a good motivator but she started drinking around 2 and after that it was over.) she was packing up the kitchen and found our straw dispenser--the 70's kind in the tube--tubeless. not knowing, she asked my sister if she should just throw it away bc it was "broken." my sister chimed in "its not broken, your youngest daughter made a [tobacco smoking apparatus] out of it." a little dazed by this unnecessary attack on my otherwise sparkling character, i respond, " mom, i just thought youd be proud that i could make my own [tobacco smoking apparatuses]." she really wasnt, but she accepted my status as the family black sheep long ago. and has since told the story to the rest of the family and friends.
If I had a nickel for every story of my mom finding makeshift smoking apparatusses in my room Id be goin VIP. There was the apple, the countless gatorade bottles, the wine bottle and a potatoe. Better yet, (note, i work at the same office my mom does) she tells her coworkers about my extracurricular activities.
i was the first ever reported victim of a carjacking in East Lansing, MI. i also got kicked out of college for smoking (hey.....at least it was some killer nugs).
Post by oleander124 on Apr 4, 2007 17:07:56 GMT -5
My secret is that I absolutely hate my boyfriend's mother. The thought of having to spend time with her makes me want to throw up.
I guess all the times she got drunk and cried on my shoulder when I barely knew her got to me. Not to mention the time she got drunk at his place and we had to carry her out to the car (and the time she buttoned up my shirt because she thought it was unbuttoned too far). She's also very emotional and overreacts to every single thing, and I'm not exaggerating. I can't forgive her for her behavior, and I don't want to. I put up with her because I love my boyfriend.
i've actually tried craigslist to meet girls - no luck
Once I got bored and filled out an online dating service questionnaire (a big famous one too, but I won't name names) and after a half hour of clicking I was told that there were no matches for me.
Post by blazinhazen on Apr 5, 2007 10:05:07 GMT -5
me too...but that's how i met my husband ! neither of us had ever done the online dating things and when we met it turned out that we lived less than a mile away. we've been together 4 years...married last year in jamaica on may 5th...we're celebrating our 1st year anniversary with a bonnaroo adventure! i'll never say never again.
Post by oleander124 on Apr 5, 2007 10:32:57 GMT -5
I met my boyfriend through match.com and we've been together for 3.5 years, living together for 1.25 years. I tried eHarmony once, but my closest match was in Vermont (I was in NC at the time)!
Post by mranonymous on Apr 5, 2007 13:29:45 GMT -5
In order to keep it somewhat a secret, and since I don't want to bum anyone out at Camp Inforoo, this is under an anonymous name - hence, Mr. Anonymous (I'm sure it can be figured out if someone really wanted to go to the trouble, but I don't see that happening).
When I was 9 years old, my family was in the process of moving into a new house. It was the summertime, and my Mom walked in my bedroom and sat down and talked to me about a few things. When she went to say goodnight, she told me that she loved me very much and no matter whatever happened, she always wanted what was best for me.
She went out that night and shot herself.
I don't know if you know anyone who has ever commited suicide, but it's a certain type of hell on earth. To have it happen to your mom (who I was extremely close to) at the age of 9 where you're old enough to know and remember, but young enough not to know what's really going on... basically, it sucks.
That's a secret that I've kept from about 95% of the people I've ever met, but that's not my big secret. That would be that eventually the same thing is probably going to happen to me. I already know how I would do it, what I would do before and when I would do it (summertime, so that my students wouldn't even know I was gone as opposed to traumatizing them during the school year). Depression runs on both sides of the family, and manic depression has shown up in some family members. I've decided that unlike most of my relatives, I don't want medication - I don't want help. I know that eventually I will pay a serious price for this decision. It won't happen today, but as I get older especially around my mom's age, I do think eventually I will follow in her footsteps.
It's strange in that I feel that there are two forces that are in my head. One school of thought is that I have the potential to do a lot of good, that I can help make the world better (I'll be teaching elementary school) and can do positive things. The other is telling me that I'm a failure, that things aren't supposed to work out and that other than my family, I wouldn't be missed.
I think I know which side is eventually going to win. It doesn't sadden me as much as it disappoints me.
Until that day of reckoning comes, I try to look for the little things like Bonnaroo and the big things like spending time with my sister and her family - I think the reason I may not eventually self destruct is because I couldn't bear for my them (my sister especially) to go that pain again. I wonder though if there will come a point when that won't be enough.
It breaks my heart to think about everything that my mom missed out on - not only in my life, but to never see her granddaughter. Personally, I don't want children because I know what my genetics are, and I can't have them having either seriously troubled souls or if God forbid I did do something drastic, I know what hell would await them.
I could die tonight, or I could live for 60 more years, but I will be haunted until the day I die. I don't know why I don't want help, I guess I don't think I deserve it. Don't worry though, I won't be killing anyone's vibes in Camp Inforoo.
i tear up at almost any sad/sappy parts of tv/movies i'm watching. not anywhere near flat out bawling or sniffling, but definitely enough that i get a few teardrops on my cheeks.
sometimes it isn't even really that sad a part. maybe i'm emotionally repressed? its really annoying when i'm trying to watch movies with friends cause i'm turning my head away constantly when i get a lil choked up and otherwise trying to hide it.
Maybe I'll throw myself to the dogs, but my back's not to the wall Maybe I'll lay some bricks for the man, but the days just aren't that long So if I settle back and chill will I see far enough to feel the angel's dream? I thought it was the Story of the World!
i try so hard to follow my heart and be myself that i usually end up going in circles trying to figure out where that path is even suppose to be going. i have these moments of clarity where i see that my whole life is a contradiction. i dont even know why i'm about to post this. i guess i'm hoping that getting it out will help clear things up in my head. i want what everyone else wants, happiness, friends, family, and that one passion that i can strive for everyday. but it seems like i get bogged down with the daily bs and i loose sight of what really matters to me b/c i'm too busy trying to give all i have to everyone else. just another lost soul trying to find a little piece of mind.
i try so hard to follow my heart and be myself that i usually end up going in circles trying to figure out where that path is even suppose to be going. i have these moments of clarity where i see that my whole life is a contradiction. i dont even know why i'm about to post this. i guess i'm hoping that getting it out will help clear things up in my head. i want what everyone else wants, happiness, friends, family, and that one passion that i can strive for everyday. but it seems like i get bogged down with the daily bs and i loose sight of what really matters to me b/c i'm too busy trying to give all i have to everyone else. just another lost soul trying to find a little piece of mind.
Wow. Nice. Very concise. I approve and agree. My own prayer......
keep my eyes open aware and alert let not the feeling of caring desert i need to be free from the cloud that surrounds me the light to my sight seems much darker these days the haze creeps in without knowing i need to keep growing each day sowing the seeds of engagement the way meant for us for on it we thrive and so we must strive to stay awake for there is too much at stake.
i try so hard to follow my heart and be myself that i usually end up going in circles trying to figure out where that path is even suppose to be going. i have these moments of clarity where i see that my whole life is a contradiction. i dont even know why i'm about to post this. i guess i'm hoping that getting it out will help clear things up in my head. i want what everyone else wants, happiness, friends, family, and that one passion that i can strive for everyday. but it seems like i get bogged down with the daily bs and i loose sight of what really matters to me b/c i'm too busy trying to give all i have to everyone else. just another lost soul trying to find a little piece of mind.
Wow. Nice. Very concise. I approve and agree. My own prayer......
keep my eyes open aware and alert let not the feeling of caring desert i need to be free from the cloud that surrounds me the light to my sight seems much darker these days the haze creeps in without knowing i need to keep growing each day sowing the seeds of engagement the way meant for us for on it we thrive and so we must strive to stay awake for there is too much at stake.
thank you, i'm going to keep that prayer close to me especially over next couple of months. that is if you don't mind.
Post by nooneknows on Apr 16, 2007 11:33:45 GMT -5
ok like Mranonymous I don't want to bum people out but I am also too chickenshit to post this under my real log in.
I am bulimic. I have been for almost 5 years. No one knows. Not even my husband, kids or parents. None of my friends know. Most of the time I have it under control. But periods of high stress lead to binging and that, of course, leads to purging.
That is really my only secret that no one else in the world knows.
Post by mranonymous on Apr 16, 2007 13:12:47 GMT -5
nooneknows said:
ok like Mranonymous I don't want to bum people out but I am also too chickenshit to post this under my real log in.
That is really my only secret that no one else in the world knows.
I wouldn't consider it chickenshit. Personally, I don't want to meet up with other Inforooers online or at the Roo and have them think, "this is the guy whose mom shot herself and he's thinking about doing the same thing." One of the many aftershocks of what happened to me is that people who survive suicide often are reluctant to talk about it because they feel ashamed. I can testify that is true, in fact I usually am reluctant to discuss because I think people will think less of me as a person. People I've told that to tell me that it's crazy to think that, but I guess unless it happened to you it's hard to describe the way and how much it torments your soul.
I don't want to drag anybody else down, as Mr. Jagger would say I don't want to be a beast of burden. I'm looking forward to the Roo as a few days to just enjoy life, enjoy music and enjoy my fellow Inforooers and everyone else. I can't promise that I won't be depressed, but I can promise I won't let it bring down anybody else. Special thanks to my friend on here who has been very supportive to this crazy (thanks a lot, stupid genetics) soul.
I do whatever my Rice Krispies tell me to...
That doesn't appeal to me ;D But I've still have time(I'm 27).....but I think I'll wait till I'm in my early thirties.....then maybe ;D
! neither of us had ever done the online dating things and when we met it turned out that we lived less than a mile away. we've been together 4 years...married last year in jamaica on may 5th...we're celebrating our 1st year anniversary with a bonnaroo adventure! i'll never say never again.
