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For the 80 millionth time in my life, I give up on men. I'm apparently attracted to emotional fuvkwits. Why is dating so complicated?!?! Grrr.....
I feel your pain....Ive come to the realization I will never attract a normal guy that doesnt have underlying issues
Same here! But I feel a lot of this situation is my fault too. I've known he had issues from the beginning and yet I've continued to chug along like I don't have a problem with it... sigh...
Ive come to the realization I will never attract a normal guy that doesnt have underlying issues
I don't think there is such a thing. Not limited to guys, though, I just think everybody has underlying issues. And those who don't (or don't have ones that the rest of humanity would consider something worth screwing ourselves up over), take whatever they have and turn them into issues. (Like, I knew a guy once who insisted that he was clinically depressed because of his dog dying . . . three years before I knew him. I love my dogs, and I will be devastated when they die, but come on.) I guess what I'm saying is that it's not you, it's the whole world.
(I realize that this is probably not the healthiest way to look at humanity, but I still think it's true.)
I don't think there is such a thing. Not limited to guys, though, I just think everybody has underlying issues.
Definitely true, I totally get what you're saying! I have relationship issues, and other issues as well, and I'm quite aware of them. This guy is also aware of his issues so I will give him credit for that. We're very good at communicating these issues with each other.
He refuses to say that we're dating (we're just "hanging out" apparently?), and that's a bit strange to me. I don't have candelit dinners and cuddle on the couch with guys I'm just friends with, sorry dude. He's even told me that he likes me. I'm not looking for a boyfriend, a declaration of exclusiveness or a commitment, just an admission that we're dating! What's wrong with that word?!?!
I feel your pain....Ive come to the realization I will never attract a normal guy that doesnt have underlying issues
Same here! But I feel a lot of this situation is my fault too. I've known he had issues from the beginning and yet I've continued to chug along like I don't have a problem with it... sigh...
^^this was exactly what I meant to say...you just spelled it out for me. I think its the "its will get better" or "I can try and fix it" mentality I have sometimes that makes it a disappointment in the long run for me
Ive come to the realization I will never attract a normal guy that doesnt have underlying issues
I don't think there is such a thing. Not limited to guys, though, I just think everybody has underlying issues. And those who don't (or don't have ones that the rest of humanity would consider something worth screwing ourselves up over), take whatever they have and turn them into issues. (Like, I knew a guy once who insisted that he was clinically depressed because of his dog dying . . . three years before I knew him. I love my dogs, and I will be devastated when they die, but come on.) I guess what I'm saying is that it's not you, it's the whole world.
(I realize that this is probably not the healthiest way to look at humanity, but I still think it's true.)
You are right, but theres a way to handle your issues without acting like the victim all the time. I dated a guy that was bipolar (whether it was diagnosed clinically or not he was) and the first thing he would say in any situation "I just want to kill myself" Mind you he had 2 kids. But Im thinking hmmm thats awful selfish to the people that care for you. Then I carried the relationship out waaaay longer than I shouldve because I lived in contant guilt that I was gonna be the reason he killed himself. Im far from perfect, but my issues are mine and if your not with someone that makes those issues a little more bearable then you shouldnt be with them
I don't think there is such a thing. Not limited to guys, though, I just think everybody has underlying issues.
Definitely true, I totally get what you're saying! I have relationship issues, and other issues as well, and I'm quite aware of them. This guy is also aware of his issues so I will give him credit for that. We're very good at communicating these issues with each other.
He refuses to say that we're dating (we're just "hanging out" apparently?), and that's a bit strange to me. I don't have candelit dinners and cuddle on the couch with guys I'm just friends with, sorry dude. He's even told me that he likes me. I'm not looking for a boyfriend, a declaration of exclusiveness or a commitment, just an admission that we're dating! What's wrong with that word?!?!
Being able to talk to each other about your issues sounds like a very good thing, but I can totally see why the "not dating" thing is an issue for you. (I had a couple of good friends in high school who were "not dating" and it was not a good situation, but it went way beyond that because he also did date (at a different time) her best friend, so it was pretty much just a huge mess.) I don't have a lot of personal insight into relationships (I didn't date much before my current boyfriend, and we've been together for nearly 10 years now, so my perspective is limited), but not being able to use the word dating sounds very, well, high school, and I get the impression you are somewhere past high school.
For the 80 millionth time in my life, I give up on men. I'm apparently attracted to emotional fuvkwits. Why is dating so complicated?!?! Grrr.....
I agree.
I think my taste in guys needs to change, or maybe there isn't many normal/sane guys left. ???
Good Luck!!
i'm with y'all. and it's not that i think there aren't any good ones left...this site is proof there are. but i feel like none of them will ever be right for me. i know i'm too young to worry about it, and i don't really, but sometimes you just wish you had someone to share moments with.
Post by ☮ superbek ☮ on Mar 28, 2009 2:44:00 GMT -5
maybe you all just need to make out with a couple of girls or something. it will turn your whole world upside down and you will forget men even exist. we are, after all, the greater sex. ;D
I don't think there is such a thing. Not limited to guys, though, I just think everybody has underlying issues.
Definitely true, I totally get what you're saying! I have relationship issues, and other issues as well, and I'm quite aware of them. This guy is also aware of his issues so I will give him credit for that. We're very good at communicating these issues with each other.
He refuses to say that we're dating (we're just "hanging out" apparently?), and that's a bit strange to me. I don't have candelit dinners and cuddle on the couch with guys I'm just friends with, sorry dude. He's even told me that he likes me. I'm not looking for a boyfriend, a declaration of exclusiveness or a commitment, just an admission that we're dating! What's wrong with that word?!?!
I am in the exact same situation!!! Sometimes I just want to fucking scream. But I don't, and I'm doing my damnedest not to let it get to me. For now, I'm just going with the flow and trying not to get too attatched
Does anyone see my name in yellow? Because I don't. And in the scheme of things in life, like war, famine, and no universal health care, it is really bugging me.
Does anyone see my name in yellow? Because I don't. And in the scheme of things in life, like war, famine, and no universal health care, it is really bugging me.
Does anyone see my name in yellow? Because I don't. And in the scheme of things in life, like war, famine, and no universal health care, it is really bugging me.
Are you seeing it in black (or maybe that's really dark navy blue?)? I'm seeing most names in yellow, except for the ones I've clicked on to view their profiles . . . those I see in black. I think my own also is black.
Back in February, I bought a pair of tickets for myself & my usual Bonnaroo buddy. He bought a pair of tickets to both nights of Phish @ Alpine Valley the week following Bonnaroo. We worked out a swap - he'll let me have his extra Phish ticket for each night as partial payment for the Bonnaroo ticket I bought him.
He started seeing this girl about a month ago, and it's already serious enough that he's met her mother. My gut tells me I'm going to be screwed out of two nights of sold-out Phish as a result...
the microwave at work takes 5xs the amount of time to half-assedly heat something up....It took 5 min to heat my lunch up today only to find the center was still cold. We are a damn university...why cant we afford a good microwave?
Post by kaleidoscope kristen on Apr 13, 2009 15:35:19 GMT -5
okay, so as I'm writing this I'm really just pissed off and disappointed.
My boyfriend and 2 of our friends went to see the Dead in NC yesterday, and it was about a 13 hour trip. They left Saturday afternoon and just decided to hang out in town since a lot of things would be going on.
Well, the last thing I said to my boyfriend before early Sunday afternoon was to please not do anything stupid. And I even defined something stupid as to something I wouldn't approve of.
Well, lo and behold this morning I wake up to a few missed calls from a strange number I don't recognize. Well it turns out the number doesn't accept incoming calls, and my heart just dropped. I knew it was probably a jail.
So a little bit later the number calls me back & it turns out my boyfriend got arrested going into the show last night. He was holding a beer and since he's underage the cops hassled him. Then they find some type of no no word, which I'm not sure as of now what they found. It's a felony whatever it is.
They're letting him go later today without having to do bail, and he goes to court on June 2nd. Oh, and he's on probation here so he'll probably be in a ton of trouble for not notifying his prob officer & violating probation.
And to top it all.. he didn't even get to see the show. So, he basically drove 13 hours to get arrested.
I know I'm ranting but most of my friends really wouldn't understand. It's not like we're kids anymore.. we're adults. We have a child together and it just bothers me that we went through a rough patch a few weeks ago where he said he would change but things haven't changed.
okay, so as I'm writing this I'm really just pissed off and disappointed.
My boyfriend and 2 of our friends went to see the Dead in NC yesterday, and it was about a 13 hour trip. They left Saturday afternoon and just decided to hang out in town since a lot of things would be going on.
Well, the last thing I said to my boyfriend before early Sunday afternoon was to please not do anything stupid. And I even defined something stupid as to something I wouldn't approve of.
Well, lo and behold this morning I wake up to a few missed calls from a strange number I don't recognize. Well it turns out the number doesn't accept incoming calls, and my heart just dropped. I knew it was probably a jail.
So a little bit later the number calls me back & it turns out my boyfriend got arrested going into the show last night. He was holding a beer and since he's underage the cops hassled him. Then they find some type of no no word, which I'm not sure as of now what they found. It's a felony whatever it is.
They're letting him go later today without having to do bail, and he goes to court on June 2nd. Oh, and he's on probation here so he'll probably be in a ton of trouble for not notifying his prob officer & violating probation.
And to top it all.. he didn't even get to see the show. So, he basically drove 13 hours to get arrested.
I know I'm ranting but most of my friends really wouldn't understand. It's not like we're kids anymore.. we're adults. We have a child together and it just bothers me that we went through a rough patch a few weeks ago where he said he would change but things haven't changed.
I just don't know what to do.
That really sucks! Sorry to hear about that unfortunate happening...
As frustrated as you may be with him, I think it's best that you still try and be encouraging of him, as I'm sure he's scared to death of what's about to come. He's gonna need somebody to be able to rely on and to support him emotionally, even if you disapprove of his actions.
I feel your pain....Ive come to the realization I will never attract a normal guy that doesnt have underlying issues
I was on my deathbed all week finally starting to feel like myself again today. Fluids--lots and lots of fluids
