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Post by Christopher Shawn on Feb 14, 2008 14:20:37 GMT -5
No circumstances, no mitigating instances...
My Girl is hanging out with her ex while Im at work. Afterwards she is coming over and we're doing our Valentines day thing. Should I feel strange or jealous?
Post by mulcherry0420 on Feb 14, 2008 14:27:34 GMT -5
dont ask me this. I have trust issues. (I'm a cell phone "searcher"? i guess. lolz. but i'm getting lots better...maybe) But yeah, I'd kinda be like wtf?
Post by Christopher Shawn on Feb 14, 2008 14:28:33 GMT -5
I feel hella strange and Im trying not to be jealous. We've been together since July. Its a coincidence on her part, Im sure he thought about what day it would be on before he invited her.
I feel hella strange and Im trying not to be jealous. We've been together since July. Its a coincidence on her part, Im sure he thought about what day it would be on before he invited her.
i would slash the guys balls and kick him in the tires... wait... the other way around...
I gotta say - nope - I would be very uncomfortable and jealous (but I am the jelous type anyway) plus I have been screwed over by the ex so I prolly should not be answering this question.
mulcherries - I am a cell phone searcher also and myspace and email (and he knows and has nothing to hide - which is why I have his passwords to all that - makes me feel a little better)
Post by Christopher Shawn on Feb 14, 2008 14:33:14 GMT -5
Worst part is she asked me if I minded....I froze up on the question. I said its cool and it caught me completely off gaurd and she seemed like she had no idea why i was surprised. But It is cool that shed ask me something like that.
Post by mulcherry0420 on Feb 14, 2008 14:41:55 GMT -5
lol. Dudes and dudettes. no offense. But a lot of times its hard to believe that guy friends are just that. but like i said. I have trust issues that im working on. Its just hard for me to believe someone if i know they have lied to me. The best is not letting them you know that you know..to the point that they know you know that they did something/said something they werent supposed to.
I'm just going to splurge my little story bc i have been dying to get opinions.
So my gf and i have been together off and on since august. after three months i recieved voicemails from an anyonymous guy telling me all the terrible things about someone you care for, that you dont want to hear. I confronted her, she lied about everything. Then told me the truth about a week into the drama after the calls. We break up, get back together bc i say to myself "its the past it shouldnt matter". So by this point im reading her texts and whatnot after she falls asleep ( sad i know). So time goes by and we are kinda argumentive and not as close, and she gets texts from dudes at like 2 45 in the morning. and i'm just like funk it... we break up, again, for about a week. I was doing okay, and then decide to see her again bc she says thats its "ruining her life". she comes over tues. afternoon and we talk and hang out. then the inevitable comes, "what are we going to do??" and i say the usual thing, "i dont think i trust you," and she goes on and on about how much she cares, and i know that i care a lot still. so all the talking happens and we end up dancing to al green "lets stay together" and it was a really happy moment for me. But then she is in the shower, i look at her phone and she is texting her ex bf and saying how they should have got coffee together, How they missed the way each other smell ..etc some same old bs different day. : /
and as far as facebook and myspace. I left that part of my story. For good reason. FUCK facebook
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Post by sparklybecca on Feb 14, 2008 14:46:21 GMT -5
mulchy, knowing your situation already , this girl is no good. not all girls/men/people are like that. some can have friendships with there ex's. fuck, i have friendships with almost all mine... and guess what i can be trusted... soooooooo it just depends on the person me thinks
and im sorry bout that girl. she is no good. and you my mulchy deserve better
Post by mulcherry0420 on Feb 14, 2008 14:49:38 GMT -5
she said some stupid remark to me like, "are you going to start ignoring me for infobury" last night. hahaha i replied, "you missed your coffee date" i wish i would have said something worse
Yeah I'm totally with you Mulcherries - every circumstance I have thought that a person might change, they don't. If a person hasn't been trustworthy in the past, it's not worth betting your future that they'll change.
So to Squid - I'd feel pretty uneasy in your shoes, but if she's never given you any reason not to trust her, you're probably ok. Be careful though -
I agree, though I think she should have thought on her own that it wasn't the best day to visit with the ex.
I am friends with an ex, the ex that broke my heart and caused me severe anguish... many many MANY moons ago. We're different people now. my husband doesn't love the idea of me hanging with him, but he knows there is nothing going on (we're very different people now and both in happy monogamous relationships).
I consider my husband's silent thoughts (we ladies KNOW when you're pretending to be cool but are fuming or full of jealousy) and only hang with my ex in groups, daytime lunch, etc. where he can feel more secure and give him a heads up and a total recap of the event. I would not ever hang with this guy on V-day, my birthday, his birthday, etc. even though I consider him to be as attractive to me as my sister or girl friend, I think about my mate.
Honestly, I would let your gal know that you trust her implicitly, but you do get goofy jealous twinges. My hubby did that and it reminded me that his feelings are more important to me.
mulcherries - I gotta agree - she needs to be kicked -
my situation is strange - I trust Boz completely but still get jealous twinges because almost all his friends are girls that are old friends - I think there is only 1 or 2 that he was actually "with"
I am just not trusting because of how my ex-HUSBAND totally fucked me over w/ my best friend after 10.5 years of marriage and two kids. So that said - I have serious trust issues with males and females.
it's really not okay to be searching through your partners emails and tex messages.
thats just....wrong. i mean, why not steam open thier mail as well. and install a gps in thier car so you can track thier every movement.
if you feel motivated to get all up in someone personal business, then there are larger issues on hand. its probably time to end that relationship. quickly.
it's really not okay to be searching through your partners emails and tex messages.
thats just....wrong. i mean, why not steam open thier mail as well. and install a gps in thier car so you can track thier every movement.
if you feel motivated to get all up in someone personal business, then there are larger issues on hand. its probably time to end that relationship. quickly.
well - for me - it's not like I do it behind his back - he knows - even sits there at times when I do it - so - it is a non-issue for us - he can check my email and myspace and phone if he wants - it goes both ways
Post by mulcherry0420 on Feb 14, 2008 15:12:25 GMT -5
Some lyrics by Gov't Mule that i find helpful(do yourself a favor and read the lyrics, keep in mind warren sings these beautiful lyrics while RIPPING the guitar);
Nothing Again
We all tried to warn you-but you already knew So you blame it on jealousy-you say the rumors are untrue But you feel yourself slipping away
You awoke from a dream-things were different than now You were gonna be a superstar-Elvis was teaching you how
You met a man in a suit-he said "Sign on the line But you'll need a little something to help you unwind"
You got to ride like Hell-your face into the wind One day you're everything-then you're nothing again
We all know that the journey means more than where you wind up But they don't know what it's like to drink from your cup Still they got something to say
You met a girl on the highway-she made you feel like a man But somewhere along the way-your poor heart just caved in
So you smoke a little that and you drink a little this And soon you can't separate the misery from the bliss
(CHORUS)
Anyone can be blinded-caught up in the lust But we all must go back-back to our own dust Back to yesterday
One cold night in the sixties-in a small town serene A young boy sits and stares at a black and white screen
He's caught up in the rhythm,the words,and the sound And it feels just like a ticket out of this town
(Chorus 2x)
Endless Parade
A primadonna with a premonition feels like he's preachin' to the choir A superstar filled with superstition can't pull himself out of the mire All you ever dreamed of is finally in your reach but careful what you wish for If you don't practice what you preach
The circus came to town, I guess it must have stayed It's like an endless parade
All these people you can see through like ghosts, maybe you've seen too much Nothing's real, nothing you can feel, no one you can touch
Strangers stare in silence, they think they know your mind No place to jump off, that's the way the game's designed
Another new day dawns, another sunset fades It's like an endless parade
Music, music and more music imploding inside your brain The life that you have chosen did it finally drive you insane
Psychophantic tirades fill your head with ammunition Sights set on your enemies but you keep losing your position
Reluctantly you face the day try to get your gameface on What used to be a fantasy has now become a marathon
Every heart you ever broke, all the people you've betrayed Another new day dawns Another sunset fades
Yeh, the circus came to town, I guess it must have stayed It's like an endless parade
Beautifully Broken
Mysterious-blown in with the night-all this beauty Captured in a frame Visibly shaken but never stirred-drives them insane I see the way she plays her men- and I know I've got to know her name
She's so beautifully broken-shaped by the wind Dangerously twisted-Here I go again
I see the way she casts her spell-it's like drowning in moonlight Discards them when she's done-they're lost in her twilight I watch her move from star to star and I wonder why, why it feels so right
She's so beautifully broken-you can barely see the flaw Especially from a distance-which is always how I fall
Why do I fall for the dangerous ones-the ones that Never learned to let go And why do I lie to myself and pretend that I can break her When she's already been so beautifully broken
Why do I fall for the dangerous ones-the ones that Don't know how to let go And why do I lie to myself and pretend that I can break her When she's already been so
Beautifully broken-shaped by the wind Dangerously twisted-Here I go again
And Finally for the "Over her stage"
Slackjaw Jezebel
Babies were crying when you got here I believe they're crying still The world as we know it keeps right on turning I guess it always will
Still, something's changed - I hate to admit it I ain't been the same since you came around My mind is swollen from the weariness Wish you'd never flagged me down
Twisted angel, cast out of some strange heaven Sent down here to pull me out of my shell You show up on my doorstep - honey dripping from your mouth Like some slackjaw Jezebel
Flesh and bones is all I'm made of I couldn't have stopped you if I tried The spell you wer casting - way too heavy Now I can't be satisfied
But you think you're going to save me - you better think again I've had saviors galore And although you are a vision - an angel wrapped in sin I've seen it all before
Twisted angel, cast out of some strange heaven Sent down here, landed on my window sill Now you're walking through my back door - honey dripping from your mouth Like some slackjaw Jezebel
You've got your bag of dust and your divining rod I wonder how I got myself here Wheel's spinning faster and I know I have to jump off Guess I'm weighing the fire against the fear
You spoon-fed my ego, made me feel so young Kissed me 'til my lips were sore But I know you're just a Jezebel with a poisonous tongue I've been down this road before
I'ts full of twisted angels, cast out of some strange heaven Sent down here to put me through Hell You show up on my doorstep - honey dripping from your mouth Like some slackjaw Jezebel Oh like some slackjaw Jezebel
Post by kaleidoscope kristen on Feb 14, 2008 15:20:16 GMT -5
I admit I have gone through my boyfriend's texts before, and I am ashamed. I trust HIM, I just don't trust other girls. lol, not really justifiable, but it's whatever I guess.
But, trust is the basic foundation for a happy, SUCCESSFULL relationship. I've dated Jacob for almost 5 years now, through high school and college, and we've had some rocky roads because of silly boys and girls and drama, but we're at a good point now.
Mulcherries, you should be in a relationship with a girl who's committed to having a monogomaus relationship.. I think she's trying to have her cake (which is you), and her icing too (other guys, ex's..)
the proof is in the texts. But, if you forgive her and get back with her, after she knows you looked through her text messages, she's only going to get smarter if she urges to be unfaithful.. she'll delete her inbox, create stories and alibis.. etc. You seem like a great guy, and no one deserves to be cheated on.. and if someone truly cares for you, they'll only wanna be with you (like that hootie and the blowfish song haha ) good luck!
sad i know). So time goes by and we are kinda argumentive and not as close, and she gets texts from dudes at like 2 45 in the morning. and i'm just like funk it...
, this girl is no good. not all girls/men/people are like that. some can have friendships with there ex's. fuck, i have friendships with almost all mine... and guess what i can be trusted... soooooooo it just depends on the person me thinks 
