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Post by Fishing Maniac on Feb 23, 2009 10:38:43 GMT -5
I'm seeking suggestions and advice here. This is the deal.
My girlfriend makes lots of money. I don't. This is not an issue. She doesn't expect anything from me that I can't provide. However, she likes giving me stuff and she really did spoil me on Valentine's day. I'd like to do something nice for her in return.
To give you an idea, aside from the records and concert tix she got me a bunch of very hard to find hand made custom fishing lures and a Van Staal reel. A VS is probably the best fishing reel in the world. I never thought I would actually own one.
For the record, I got her flowers and candy. That's all I had money for without giving up my roo ticket. She has no problem with that. I also told her ahead o time not to go overboard and she didn't listen.
So my question is, what can I do that would be extra special for her? She doesn't really want anything. I have very little money to spend. So I want to do something that is really thoughtful. It's not even the amount of money that she spent, but rather the perfection of gift selections and the effort that she had to go through in finding them. (I mean seriously, how many people out there know what a Hab's needlefish plug is or better yet where to find one since Habs is deceased?) It's that kind of effort and consideration that I want to give to her.
Just be good to her, and make her feel like she is the only thing that matters to you. Money shouldn't matter and neither should all the other trivial things, in the end all it is about is how much you care about someone. So give her your all and she can't ask for anything more.
It was but we have some gay selfish BOYS who thought they could try, the only thing they showed was how non caring of BOYS they are! Well the massage one wasn't bad ;D
As you can see - what you got were responses from boys - and I do mean boys! Well except for whycbus - he was on the right track.
I recommend any of the following - because - being a female, I know I would enjoy it if Boz did any of this for me:
1. Clear a day for just the two of you - make sure she knows ahead of time that you want the day - that way she does not schedule anything else
2. Pack a picnic - cheese, crackers, grapes, nice bottle of wine - glasses (not plastic), blanket, etc. - easy stuff but very appreciated
3. Go for a drive - wander around together - just the two of you - listen to music - find a nice sunny scenic place to stop around lunchtime - enjoy being together with no worries.
Now - see that works for me - it is no frills - it shows that he cares because he has taken the time to gather the appropriate food and pack it up.
I used to love it when Boz would "kidnap" me and not tell me where we were going or what we were doing - I just had to go along for the ride and I have had some of the best times when that happens.
As you can see - what you got were responses from boys - and I do mean boys! Well except for whycbus - he was on the right track.
I recommend any of the following - because - being a female, I know I would enjoy it if Boz did any of this for me:
1. Clear a day for just the two of you - make sure she knows ahead of time that you want the day - that way she does not schedule anything else
2. Pack a picnic - cheese, crackers, grapes, nice bottle of wine - glasses (not plastic), blanket, etc. - easy stuff but very appreciated
3. Go for a drive - wander around together - just the two of you - listen to music - find a nice sunny scenic place to stop around lunchtime - enjoy being together with no worries.
Now - see that works for me - it is no frills - it shows that he cares because he has taken the time to gather the appropriate food and pack it up.
I used to love it when Boz would "kidnap" me and not tell me where we were going or what we were doing - I just had to go along for the ride and I have had some of the best times when that happens.
I totally agree with the word "boys" being used! Boz sounds like a awesome guy!
As you can see - what you got were responses from boys - and I do mean boys! Well except for whycbus - he was on the right track.
I recommend any of the following - because - being a female, I know I would enjoy it if Boz did any of this for me:
1. Clear a day for just the two of you - make sure she knows ahead of time that you want the day - that way she does not schedule anything else
2. Pack a picnic - cheese, crackers, grapes, nice bottle of wine - glasses (not plastic), blanket, etc. - easy stuff but very appreciated
3. Go for a drive - wander around together - just the two of you - listen to music - find a nice sunny scenic place to stop around lunchtime - enjoy being together with no worries.
Now - see that works for me - it is no frills - it shows that he cares because he has taken the time to gather the appropriate food and pack it up.
I used to love it when Boz would "kidnap" me and not tell me where we were going or what we were doing - I just had to go along for the ride and I have had some of the best times when that happens.
I totally agree with this - it would make me very happy. And just to clarify, a nice bottle of wine does not have to cost much. Ask the people at your local wine store to recommend something that is less than $10-15.
Ok, being serious now: Cook her dinner. Much cheaper than taking her out, and she'll appreciate the effort you put in. Eating In can be much nicer anyways. You can put her favorite music on, have a nice corn appetizer so dinner will taste better. And for the price of 2 glasses of wine at a restaurant, you can have a very nice bottle.
Well commitment is killer with any guy for the most part, I have a boyfriend and he treats me like he should, but before him I was with total losers who wasn't worth a second thought. I think if you care about someone like I said in my previous thing nothing should keep you away from them and I mean nothing. My bf and I had a rocky start but we got through it and we are amazing together now. So hopefully you and you gf will get through your commitment issues!
Thank you for your input ladies. Lots of things that I had toyed with being mentioned. That makes me happy. Picnic is one that I had already decided on, but will wait until the temps get out of the 20's. Dinner is a good idea except that one of her favorite things to do is cook. I'm a good cook and enjoy it, but she's an elaborate cook and loves it. It'd be sort of cute if I caught her a nice fish on one of the plugs she gave me and cooked it up for us to have on a picnic, but she's alergic to seafood.
I'm trying to come up with something really personalized, because what she did for me was really personalized.
Thank you for your input ladies. Lots of things that I had toyed with being mentioned. That makes me happy. Picnic is one that I had already decided on, but will wait until the temps get out of the 20's. Dinner is a good idea except that one of her favorite things to do is cook. I'm a good cook and enjoy it, but she's an elaborate cook and loves it. It'd be sort of cute if I caught her a nice fish on one of the plugs she gave me and cooked it up for us to have on a picnic, but she's alergic to seafood.
I'm trying to come up with something really personalized, because what she did for me was really personalized.
That would be sweet, what does she love? what is her passions in life?
Lucky you Seakittenmaniac! * Plant spring bulbs and don't tell her. * Ask her friends and family to secretly write happy thoughts about her.Put these warm fuzzies in a beautiful jar or box that YOU decorate.Then give it to her on that picnic Meg spoke of. * I like rooconteur's idea as well.Ya know, in addition to the other stuff.
Instead of dirt and poison, we have rather chosen to fill our hives with honey and wax; thus furnishing mankind with the two noblest of things, which are sweetness and light.
Lucky you Seakittenmaniac! * Plant spring bulbs and don't tell her. * Ask her friends and family to secretly write happy thoughts about her.Put these warm fuzzies in a beautiful jar or box that YOU decorate.Then give it to her on that picnic Meg spoke of. * I like rooconteur's idea as well.Ya know, in addition to the other stuff.
Those are all sweet, now the ? is if these guys will really do what they say, or do they write it on a wall to impress the women. I love love LOVE the jar idea, that is priceless.
Question number one... How many guys on here actually have a girlfriend?
Single as of recently. Although she is probably reading this as we speak, looking for ways to get me back. Which is ironic, because the spying and lying is why I let her go in the first place. Almost change my username (I know for a fact she has used stuff I wrote on here in e-mails)
Lucky you Seakittenmaniac! * Plant spring bulbs and don't tell her. * Ask her friends and family to secretly write happy thoughts about her.Put these warm fuzzies in a beautiful jar or box that YOU decorate.Then give it to her on that picnic Meg spoke of. * I like rooconteur's idea as well.Ya know, in addition to the other stuff.
Those are all sweet, now the ? is if these guys will really do what they say, or do they write it on a wall to impress the women. I love love LOVE the jar idea, that is priceless. [/quote]
I would (have) totally make a girl dinner. Dinner and a movie at home can be much more relaxing, (not to mention inexpensive). Let her pic the movie- The chick flick will be alot more tolerable from the comfort of your couch and your finest corn and corn accessories.
Props to you Fish, if you do the jar idea. I would be way too embarassed to ask people to do that. Also, her friends would blow the surprise- girls can't keep secrets.
Instead of dirt and poison, we have rather chosen to fill our hives with honey and wax; thus furnishing mankind with the two noblest of things, which are sweetness and light.
Question number one... How many guys on here actually have a girlfriend?
Single as of recently. Although she is probably reading this as we speak, looking for ways to get me back. Which is ironic, because the spying and lying is why I let her go in the first place. Almost change my username (I know for a fact she has used stuff I wrote on here in e-mails)
What did she spy and lie about? I love counseling people.. hehe
Instead of dirt and poison, we have rather chosen to fill our hives with honey and wax; thus furnishing mankind with the two noblest of things, which are sweetness and light.