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Post by Britney's_Fears on Jun 19, 2009 14:24:08 GMT -5
Okay so I had the most awesome Bonnaroo ever. So I get home and two days after I return my wife tells me that we should end our marriage. This didn't come right out of the blue as we have been having problems for a while.
But the b!tch of it is: Why didn't she tell me BEFORE I went to Bonnaroo. I was camped next to 3 beautiful women around my own age who were camping alone with no men. I helped them set up their tent and went to a show with them. Of course I wore my wedding ring and was a good boy the whole time.
Bonnaroo didn't have anything to do with it. And the only reason it's related to Bonnaroo is that I could've had an opportunity to meet someone at Roo if she had not waited until after I got back. Not that I'm the type that needs to go from one person to another for fear of being alone but damn, if the buffet's open, let's eat.
Or - from a woman's point of view (not knowing her or anything) she maynot have said anything thinking that you would spend your time at Bonnaroo dwelling on it rather then having a good time.
damn. you gave her too much time to think while you were gone.
You know as a matter of fact these words came out of her mouth: "I had time to think while you were gone."
You hit the nail on the head.
I'm really in a bad situation because I am ready to commit to end this relationship but I'm not so sure she is. She says she is but just this morning I get this sh!t:
"There's always hope." "I sure do miss that make-up sex."
Or - from a woman's point of view (not knowing her or anything) she maynot have said anything thinking that you would spend your time at Bonnaroo dwelling on it rather then having a good time.
I would like to think this is true.
However, only death could ruin my good time at Roo. (I wish I could apply that to the rest of my life. Hmmmm maybe I will.)
damn. you gave her too much time to think while you were gone.
You know as a matter of fact these words came out of her mouth: "I had time to think while you were gone."
You hit the nail on the head.
I'm really in a bad situation because I am ready to commit to end this relationship but I'm not so sure she is. She says she is but just this morning I get this sh!t:
"There's always hope." "I sure do miss that make-up sex."
WTF?
well i guess you're supposed to want to make it work. but i would probably say go find make up sex somefuckingwhere else.
You know as a matter of fact these words came out of her mouth: "I had time to think while you were gone."
You hit the nail on the head.
I'm really in a bad situation because I am ready to commit to end this relationship but I'm not so sure she is. She says she is but just this morning I get this sh!t:
"There's always hope." "I sure do miss that make-up sex."
WTF?
well i guess you're supposed to want to make it work. but i would probably say go find make up sex somefuckingwhere else.
Or - from a woman's point of view (not knowing her or anything) she maynot have said anything thinking that you would spend your time at Bonnaroo dwelling on it rather then having a good time.
I would like to think this is true.
However, only death could ruin my good time at Roo. (I wish I could apply that to the rest of my life. Hmmmm maybe I will.)
I hate to see any marriage dissolve - how long have ya'll been married?
I hate to see any marriage dissolve - how long have ya'll been married?
8 1/2 years. Together about 9 1/2 years.
We've had problems since my son was born 7 years ago. We've been to counseling, rehab, al-anon, etc.
Noone can say we didn't try like hell.
well - as long as you gave it your best shot and tried to make it work - that's all you can do - I wish you all the luck in the world - even if it is something you want - it is still not easy
Amazing: Phish, Bruce, Amadou & Mariam, Vieux Farke Toure, Rodrigo y Gabriela, Wilco, NIN Good to great: Animal Collective, NIN, Jimmy Buffet, King Sunny Ade, Tobacco, MGMT, Passion Pit, Kraak & Smack Glad to have seen: Oakenfold, Grizzly Bear, Beastie Boys, of Montreal, Snoop Dogg
We've had problems since my son was born 7 years ago. We've been to counseling, rehab, al-anon, etc.
Noone can say we didn't try like hell.
well - as long as you gave it your best shot and tried to make it work - that's all you can do - I wish you all the luck in the world - even if it is something you want - it is still not easy
Thank you Meg, it's NOT easy. This is the second time I've had to go through this. At least it is amiable. There's no screaming or arguing or throwing stuff out the window. It's very quiet.
If you've never been through a divorce before, you can tell it's really over by the silence. There's nothing left to argue or talk about. It's all been gone over so many times, it's useless to rehash it.
Thank you for talking to me, I figured this thread would get locked or something like, "Take your personal problems somewhere else." Cause it's only just a teensy weensy bit related to Bonnaroo. Wel maybe not even that much.
But you Inforooers are the sh!t, and I know you all can cheer me up. Some of you already have!
It would have ruined your Roo if she told you beforehand. I know from similar experience...
Just think of the opportunities at your next show/festy, once you're in the right frame of mind.
Best of luck with everything.
Yeah I know what you're saying but even single I think I would still concentrate on seeing the shows. Unless something "dropped in my lap". Like three single hotties borrowing my tent stakes and going to shows with me. Sigh.
Post by Britney's_Fears on Jun 19, 2009 15:17:12 GMT -5
I appreciate from the bottom of my heart anyone replying to this thread and I don't want you all to feel like I am not responding to you, but I must leave my computer now and I won't be back on until later tonight.
Post by dreamingtree on Jun 19, 2009 16:00:06 GMT -5
Good luck with everything. If you have done everything you feel you can, then there is probably nothing else to do or say. Been there, and I totally understand where you are coming from.
I hope everything goes smoothly for you and you can remain on good terms for your son Please just remember to never put the child in the middle, and don't speak badly about each other in front of the child. My ex did a lot of that to my daughter and she is emotionally very scarred
Post by guitarheroo on Jun 19, 2009 17:57:26 GMT -5
Dude, honestly, people get married and people get divorced, it happens. Now, even though you're hurting and she's hurting because of so many years together, think about your son. It's gonna be the worst on him. You sound like a good guy so I trust you'll do the right thing and raise your son as best you can considering the situation.
Good luck and stay positive. once the little guy's old enough bring him to 'roo and we'll have a party
Post by tehoemusic on Jun 19, 2009 18:26:01 GMT -5
This is so weird i was just going to post a similar thread. I'm not married but I too returned home from Bonnaroo with my girlfriend of 9 years telling me she wasnt in love with me anymore. I'm absolultely heartbroken and ever since i came home i have been in such heartache. I've never felt so hurt in my life and I can't seem to stop crying. I love her so much and would do anything to make things better, but for some reason, she doesn't want to try. I'm 25 years old and met her when I was 16. I will miss her dearly. Why does this sh!t have to happen?? ??? I'm seriously bummed.
Post by hibouxdufromage on Jun 20, 2009 2:57:52 GMT -5
Man, Fears and Tehoe, this really sucks. I feel bad for both of you guys. I wish I had some nugget of wisdom to share, but it would probably just end up sounding trite or patronizing, so I'm just gonna go with what twohills said. I hope every morning from here on out gets a little bit better.
Post by awolfatthedoor on Jun 20, 2009 3:02:35 GMT -5
I'm sorry guys for everything going on in your respective lives. I'm too inexperienced in any of this stuff to even feign advice so all I got is I'll pray for y'all. Good luck arriving at what the best route is for both of you.
You funny!
