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Really? I need to find a job. I'm only 22 , we have the same degree butch want to travel before moving there. I would, she's amazing. It's just a big decision moving away from my friends and fam for her. Where we both know no one.
If you want her to create your children then go with her.
Post by funkybuttlovin on May 27, 2014 7:53:41 GMT -5
Great poem, I'm sure I'll be back here 'whining' but I'm not going with her. At least not anytime soon, taking it day by day, it's some serious distance.
Again thanks to everyone helping me out and giving me advice. I'll be in New York Ranger gear all weekend, say hi if you see me at the roo.
Post by thebrowncyde on May 27, 2014 9:41:14 GMT -5
For three of my past four Bonnaroo's, I had been stuck in an on and off again, LONG DISTANCE, relationship. Each time Bonnaroo would roll around, there'd be some unforeseen cirumstance that my ex would have to attend too, usually in a different country. Each year I would practically beg her to come along. Offered to buy her ticket each year, yet as it turned out, Bonnaroo was just not for her. At no point did I mope around about it, while at Bonnaroo, because, hah, IT'S BONNAROO, no way to feel sad there. Still, there was a small part of me that wanted to be one of those couples, that would be all quacking mushy and lay together listening to (insert past artist here). Or better yet, dancing my ass off with a pretty girl during Girl Talk in 2011, SKRILLEX in 2012, or Pretty Lights last year. Now, there was plenty of opportunity to do so. And I've always said, there's nothing wrong with DANCING with someone other than your significant other. As long as y'all aren't practically making babies on the dance floor/dirt/grass. I'd dance, yet there was that feeling of guilt that I couldn't shake. Alas. This Bonnaroo has loudly snuck up on us, and I'm very much single. (Which has been an amazing thing. Not to knock the ex but yeaaah) so this year, when cut copy blasts let me show you or free your mind, I will shake what the universe gave me, guilt free. (Assuming there's any ladies that would partake in the dance party, I'm just a simple brown man). There was my whine about a relationship post, THE END.
For three of my past four Bonnaroo's, I had been stuck in an on and off again, LONG DISTANCE, relationship. Each time Bonnaroo would roll around, there'd be some unforeseen cirumstance that my ex would have to attend too, usually in a different country. Each year I would practically beg her to come along. Offered to buy her ticket each year, yet as it turned out, Bonnaroo was just not for her. At no point did I mope around about it, while at Bonnaroo, because, hah, IT'S BONNAROO, no way to feel sad there. Still, there was a small part of me that wanted to be one of those couples, that would be all quacking mushy and lay together listening to (insert past artist here). Or better yet, dancing my ass off with a pretty girl during Girl Talk in 2011, SKRILLEX in 2012, or Pretty Lights last year. Now, there was plenty of opportunity to do so. And I've always said, there's nothing wrong with DANCING with someone other than your significant other. As long as y'all aren't practically making babies on the dance floor/dirt/grass. I'd dance, yet there was that feeling of guilt that I couldn't shake. Alas. This Bonnaroo has loudly snuck up on us, and I'm very much single. (Which has been an amazing thing. Not to knock the ex but yeaaah) so this year, when cut copy blasts let me show you or free your mind, I will shake what the universe gave me, guilt free. (Assuming there's any ladies that would partake in the dance party, I'm just a simple brown man). There was my whine about a relationship post, THE END.
I'm surprised you could dance without letting the music get intense and take over But good luck this year finding a new dance partner that is down for good times.
IDK why I'm in this thread. After this weekend and it's random turn of events, it looks like I'll be posting less in the single mingle thread and more in the hang out thread. But I'm not complaining ::cheesin::
It makes me sad when you write stuff like this, man. Mostly because I know that feeling and I don't wish it upon anyone. We're all here for you. Don't let it sink you.
Oh no, I'm not sad. I'm just bragging that I don't have a relationship to whine about.
Remember that most people not in relationships want to be in one, and about half the people in relationships want out or are so-so on the idea (as far as I can tell from talking to my friends). Grass is always greener, my friend. Be where you are and enjoy it.
I miss him. I don't want to, but I do. Some days I love being single, and doing whatever I want, and not having to think about the dynamics of being in a relationship. But some days I wake up and he's the first thing I think of. And I know he's not right for me. There were days when I'd ask myself "Why am I even IN this relationship?". Sometimes I didn't even like him. He was overlogical. His roommates did drugs a LOT, and I wasn't comfortable being around them or having my SO be around them all the time. At one point he had to seriously consider whether he would rather do drugs or be my boyfriend. That me feel really small. He was rolling his balls off the first time he said I love you. That's the most hurt I've been in years, and fucked up my Bonnaroo. The sex was only slightly above average. I often felt guilty because I knew I'd much rather be with a girl than a guy. Whenever he tried to look sexily into my eyes it just looked creepy and made me want to laugh. He didn't bring out the best in me, and I didn't bring out the best in him. Overall, we were just incompatible. Incompatible, but very much in love. I think.
And I miss him.
I deserve a happiness that I didn't have when I was with him, and I know I'd be better off with someone else. But fuck, I miss that boy. We were together for a year, and have been broken up for seven months now. It's been a long time since I've been as emotional about it as I am today, but I don't want to have these days at all anymore. I want to move on; to let go (and get low ). I can feel his memory weighing inside me, and I don't want to carry that baggage. Shit, I've still got baggage and defense mechanisms in place from a psycho I dated seven years ago - I don't need anymore. I've grown a lot since we broke up, and I've been doing all the "working on me" stuff that you're supposed to do after a breakup - being more social, working on my hobbies, etc. But some days it takes all my strength to not text him saying I miss him. I'm friends with all my exes - minus the psycho - but as much as I'd like to be his friend, I know I can't. Just the thought of seeing him in person makes my chest tighten and my stomach go all flurpy.
I can, have been, and will continue to get through this, and I know that. But today, I needed to vent. Thanks for listening.
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Post by KushPicasso on May 29, 2014 16:22:19 GMT -5
I'm still salty that my ex sat on my couch with me saying "I really appreciate you taking me to the Jay-Z show so I wanna buy us tickets to the Kanye show coming up." So we looked online and picked out tickets where we wanted to sit. I was SO excited to see Kanye for the first time. Then a few weeks later she texted me "I can't do this anymore. I'm done. Can I come by and pick up my tickets tonight? Just leave them under the door mat outside." I don't think I've ever been more crushed in my life. Maybe even more so about the tickets than the relationship, honestly. I went online and bought a single ticket to the Kanye show by myself. That's when one of Kanye's trucks was in an accident, the stage was damaged and the show would have to be rescheduled. They rescheduled every date, except Minneapolis and we were given refunds. Huge part of why I'm going to Roo this year. To see Kanye and close this chapter.
I'm still salty that my ex sat on my couch with me saying "I really appreciate you taking me to the Jay-Z show so I wanna buy us tickets to the Kanye show coming up." So we looked online and picked out tickets where we wanted to sit. I was SO excited to see Kanye for the first time. Then a few weeks later she texted me "I can't do this anymore. I'm done. Can I come by and pick up my tickets tonight? Just leave them under the door mat outside."
That's brutal. I wouldn't have given her both tickets. Just one (or none at all). The one year I skipped Roo I was doing it for my girlfriend at the time so she could finish up her final college credits over the summer. We had plans to do two other festivals. When we split because she's a terrible person who did terrible things I sold her ticket for cheap. I still regret missing Roo that year because of her but in time you'll be able to get over it and have fun. Bonnaroo is a good place to focus on you and having a great time.
I'm here to whine about my lack of relationship. I'm not one of those people that has to be in one, but it just feels like it's been forever for me and I won't lie I feel pretty lonely.
I'll just start with: I'm 28 and I moved from Nashville down to Florida 2 years ago come Bonnaroo time. I've truly despised it since I've moved here. To try to keep this brief and not go into too much detail I'll just say that there were numerous reasons for the move (I came down to live with my parents for a little while). Some of those reasons are: an Ex gf that I just couldn't stop letting back in my life (even though she treated me like shit), quitting the job I was at for a few different reasons, my mom was having major surgery and I used that as an excuse to runaway for a while (to help take care of her, because my dad is always working), and just a general need for change and direction in my life. So to the relationship things...for some dumb reason I started talking to some girl that I met one time before I moved. I was homesick so talking to someone from back home was nice, but it also made me despise being here and trying to hatch a makeshift plan to get back to TN. This girl was really into me and I think I liked her? We skyped all the time and would text/talk on the phone everyday and then out of the blue she just stopped talking to me. It hurt very slightly, mainly because I like to understand things in life. I mean I get it, I'm 1000 miles away and don't know when I'll go back to TN (that has always been my plan) I wouldn't want to start some kind of relationship under those pretenses either. I think I just appreciated the virtual relationship more because I was lonely here and didn't know anyone. So I visited Nashville a couple times after that. Both times I stayed with a girl that I had had a fling with before I moved down here, and after the 2nd visit we both had strong feelings for each other (again why am I doing this to myself?) I went back to FL and we stayed in close contact with each other this time. To segue to my next point, around/slightly before I went on the 2nd trip up to TN, there was this new girl at work and I had that love at first sight feeling(I hadn't really ever felt/believed in it). For months of working with this girl and getting to know here she never mentioned a boyfriend to me, but to other people she did, so I found out she had one. A few months later TN girl was coming down to visit and I was really excited about it. Well a week before she got here, the girl at work suddenly wanted to hang out. So the week leading up to arrival of TN girl I started hanging out with the FL girl. Having never heard directly from her about having a boyfriend I went with it, hell I was crazy about this girl the more I got to know her. I also just assumed they had broken up. It was the first time in a while that I remembered what it felt like to be on a date. We went and saw a movie, then afterwards went and had some dinner. What followed after that really affirmed the love that I had for her...we were trying to decide what to do next, you could obviously tell that neither of us wanted the night to end. So I asked her what she wanted to do...she grabbed my by the arm and took me to a fucking arcade! I am no video game nerd (no offense to people who like video games to the extreme), but it just really impressed me for some reason and I was not used to a girl being into that sort of thing. We hung out that next couple of nights, but then TN girl was coming into town so I had to make an excuse for a few days of why I couldn't hang out. With that being said I had committed to seeing some band on that weekend with her, at the time I wasn't even thinking that TN girl was still in town. Well I got to see my TN girl, I was really excited to see her, but to be honest my mind really was elsewhere. On the night I was supposed to go to to the show with the FL girl I lied to the TN girl and said I had to work late, which I worked 2-10pm and in the aviation industry it is very likely you will be staying late for some jets to come in at any hour of the night. All my intention was to go to this show for like an hour or two and go home, mainly so I could show face with this new girl (who lives here and I really wanted a relationship with) but that didn't go as planned and I wound up going down to Miami with her and her friends blah blah blah, I stayed at her house cause we were both too drunk and things happened, which hadn't happened previously. I woke up to missed phone calls from the TN girl (I swear I'm not a bad guy, this was just an awkward and unique situation for me and in my mind this girl lived here, the other lived 1,000 miles away so I tried to justify it all in my head plus it wasn't my intention for that to happen), when I got home I just gave a generic excuse about hanging out with some people from work because it was so late and she had already went to bed and that I drove them home cause they were too drunk(which wasn't a lie, but not the whole truth). So anyway TN girl goes home, I'm sure she knew things were different. OK NO MORE DETAILS except a few weeks after that FL girl told (after some relations) that she was kind of with someone (her and her bf hadn't spoken in like 3-4 weeks prior to when her and I started hanging out) she asked me what I thought about that and what I wanted. I'm horrible at speaking my feelings and I just sat there and kept stuttering(ish) what I was trying to say. What I wanted to say was that I wanted to be with her more than anything. What I got out was umm, well, see, I,uh, etc. I am not one who wants to "steal" a girl from somebody else. I don't want a girl to leave someone for me , because I feel if she will do it to him, she will do it to me. Although I feel like that situation was a strange one. They didn't necessarily break up, but in a three year relationship if you don't talk for 3-4 weeks and neither party seems to give a shit, that's hardly a relationship anymore. Ultimately she worked it out with that guy (We were still very close for like 3-4 months and she would text/call me all the time and would hang out here or there, but nothing romantically through all of that) I can't lie I have been in love with her through all of that and as I type still am. She has had that type of effect on me. I have had one short fling between now and then *cough* last October, that's it. Back in March I went to the beach bars with her and two other of our co-workers (who are dating) and we had a heart to heart where we shared our feelings. She says she loves her boyfriend and feels bad about what we did, but that she does still desire me and loves me, but loves her boyfriend. I told her directly that I love her and wish I would have opened my mouth and said anything back when I had the chance and wondered if it would have made a difference anyway. She said if they weren't dating she would love to date me and see if it would work...that's about the end of the story of all that (mainly cause I am done with details, I'm leaving shit out but this is already wayyyyy too long). I said all that to say that I just can't seem to get out and meet other girls. I have turned into a homebody since I have lived here.
So here I am alone and I am sorry for the, not so brief, brief version. I have been drinking so I treated this as my personal diary. I said all of that to say that I have turned into an introvert since I have moved here and don't get out to meet new people, in college I was used to being with people all day everyday and then I moved down here and it makes lonely feel extra lonely. I'll shut up now as I'm sure this post belongs in the Single/mingle thread, drunken rambling thread, and random thoughts thread combined. Sorry to all of those that read this whole thing...Meet me at brunch and I should probably buy you a beer.
I'm here to whine about my lack of relationship. I'm not one of those people that has to be in one, but it just feels like it's been forever for me and I won't lie I feel pretty lonely.
I'll just start with: I'm 28 and I moved from Nashville down to Florida 2 years ago come Bonnaroo time. I've truly despised it since I've moved here. To try to keep this brief and not go into too much detail I'll just say that there were numerous reasons for the move (I came down to live with my parents for a little while). Some of those reasons are: an Ex gf that I just couldn't stop letting back in my life (even though she treated me like shit), quitting the job I was at for a few different reasons, my mom was having major surgery and I used that as an excuse to runaway for a while (to help take care of her, because my dad is always working), and just a general need for change and direction in my life. So to the relationship things...for some dumb reason I started talking to some girl that I met one time before I moved. I was homesick so talking to someone from back home was nice, but it also made me despise being here and trying to hatch a makeshift plan to get back to TN. This girl was really into me and I think I liked her? We skyped all the time and would text/talk on the phone everyday and then out of the blue she just stopped talking to me. It hurt very slightly, mainly because I like to understand things in life. I mean I get it, I'm 1000 miles away and don't know when I'll go back to TN (that has always been my plan) I wouldn't want to start some kind of relationship under those pretenses either. I think I just appreciated the virtual relationship more because I was lonely here and didn't know anyone. So I visited Nashville a couple times after that. Both times I stayed with a girl that I had had a fling with before I moved down here, and after the 2nd visit we both had strong feelings for each other (again why am I doing this to myself?) I went back to FL and we stayed in close contact with each other this time. To segue to my next point, around/slightly before I went on the 2nd trip up to TN, there was this new girl at work and I had that love at first sight feeling(I hadn't really ever felt/believed in it). For months of working with this girl and getting to know here she never mentioned a boyfriend to me, but to other people she did, so I found out she had one. A few months later TN girl was coming down to visit and I was really excited about it. Well a week before she got here, the girl at work suddenly wanted to hang out. So the week leading up to arrival of TN girl I started hanging out with the FL girl. Having never heard directly from her about having a boyfriend I went with it, hell I was crazy about this girl the more I got to know her. I also just assumed they had broken up. It was the first time in a while that I remembered what it felt like to be on a date. We went and saw a movie, then afterwards went and had some dinner. What followed after that really affirmed the love that I had for her...we were trying to decide what to do next, you could obviously tell that neither of us wanted the night to end. So I asked her what she wanted to do...she grabbed my by the arm and took me to a fucking arcade! I am no video game nerd (no offense to people who like video games to the extreme), but it just really impressed me for some reason and I was not used to a girl being into that sort of thing. We hung out that next couple of nights, but then TN girl was coming into town so I had to make an excuse for a few days of why I couldn't hang out. With that being said I had committed to seeing some band on that weekend with her, at the time I wasn't even thinking that TN girl was still in town. Well I got to see my TN girl, I was really excited to see her, but to be honest my mind really was elsewhere. On the night I was supposed to go to to the show with the FL girl I lied to the TN girl and said I had to work late, which I worked 2-10pm and in the aviation industry it is very likely you will be staying late for some jets to come in at any hour of the night. All my intention was to go to this show for like an hour or two and go home, mainly so I could show face with this new girl (who lives here and I really wanted a relationship with) but that didn't go as planned and I wound up going down to Miami with her and her friends blah blah blah, I stayed at her house cause we were both too drunk and things happened, which hadn't happened previously. I woke up to missed phone calls from the TN girl (I swear I'm not a bad guy, this was just an awkward and unique situation for me and in my mind this girl lived here, the other lived 1,000 miles away so I tried to justify it all in my head plus it wasn't my intention for that to happen), when I got home I just gave a generic excuse about hanging out with some people from work because it was so late and she had already went to bed and that I drove them home cause they were too drunk(which wasn't a lie, but not the whole truth). So anyway TN girl goes home, I'm sure she knew things were different. OK NO MORE DETAILS except a few weeks after that FL girl told (after some relations) that she was kind of with someone (her and her bf hadn't spoken in like 3-4 weeks prior to when her and I started hanging out) she asked me what I thought about that and what I wanted. I'm horrible at speaking my feelings and I just sat there and kept stuttering(ish) what I was trying to say. What I wanted to say was that I wanted to be with her more than anything. What I got out was umm, well, see, I,uh, etc. I am not one who wants to "steal" a girl from somebody else. I don't want a girl to leave someone for me , because I feel if she will do it to him, she will do it to me. Although I feel like that situation was a strange one. They didn't necessarily break up, but in a three year relationship if you don't talk for 3-4 weeks and neither party seems to give a shit, that's hardly a relationship anymore. Ultimately she worked it out with that guy (We were still very close for like 3-4 months and she would text/call me all the time and would hang out here or there, but nothing romantically through all of that) I can't lie I have been in love with her through all of that and as I type still am. She has had that type of effect on me. I have had one short fling between now and then *cough* last October, that's it. Back in March I went to the beach bars with her and two other of our co-workers (who are dating) and we had a heart to heart where we shared our feelings. She says she loves her boyfriend and feels bad about what we did, but that she does still desire me and loves me, but loves her boyfriend. I told her directly that I love her and wish I would have opened my mouth and said anything back when I had the chance and wondered if it would have made a difference anyway. She said if they weren't dating she would love to date me and see if it would work...that's about the end of the story of all that (mainly cause I am done with details, I'm leaving shit out but this is already wayyyyy too long). I said all that to say that I just can't seem to get out and meet other girls. I have turned into a homebody since I have lived here.
So here I am alone and I am sorry for the, not so brief, brief version. I have been drinking so I treated this as my personal diary. I said all of that to say that I have turned into an introvert since I have moved here and don't get out to meet new people, in college I was used to being with people all day everyday and then I moved down here and it makes lonely feel extra lonely. I'll shut up now as I'm sure this post belongs in the Single/mingle thread, drunken rambling thread, and random thoughts thread combined. Sorry to all of those that read this whole thing...Meet me at brunch and I should probably buy you a beer.
At least you got to tell her how you feel. That was a good move regardless of the outcome.
At least you got to tell her how you feel. That was a good move regardless of the outcome.
True, but I didn't the first time, and maybe things would be different if I had. That's something I will never know though.
Thank you for reading all that. I am reading through it all now and am telling myself to shut the fuck up! haha Apparently when I get drunk I in fact do have feelings and am also very long winded and overly detailed.
At least you got to tell her how you feel. That was a good move regardless of the outcome.
True, but I didn't the first time, and maybe things would be different if I had. That's something I will never know though.
Thank you for reading all that. I am reading through it all now and am telling myself to shut the fuck up! haha Apparently when I get drunk I in fact do have feelings and am also very long winded and overly detailed.
Nooo it is good to let it out. And it isn't crazy at all. It is super super difficult to let it out and you can't kick yourself the first time. You can kick yourself if you NEVER did.. But I think it will all work out for you. I do understand leaving home though. I once moved from Colorado to Vegas. Was suppose to be out there for 2 years getting my Masters. 6 months in on December 31st 2008 I got home, was most depressed I have ever been in my life and literally just started throwing shiz into the back of my car. Was home by afternoon on the 1st. Was one of the best and most crucial decision I have made in my life to date seriously no joke. So my only advice is to follow your heart. If you need to go back to TN get back to TN. Or don't go back to TN but don't kick yourself for the past. Exploring shiz and finding out life is what this crazy train is all about.
Girlfriend just moved 2000 miles away. Long distance relationship for at least a year. Jealousy has already start to creep around in my head.
Just posting to get things off my chest. I was hoping roo would clear my head a bit but it just made me miss her more
You need to have confidence that you're the best thing that can happen to her. If you can trust that she knows that too, you'll be much better off.
Good luck, man. Long distance ain't ever easy.
Second what jimmy said. I was in a semi long distance relationship and that wasn't easy but not close to 2000 miles distance. You'll be fine just trust she trusts you and she's probably trusting you trust her.
In a way, long distance simplifies a lot of things. No pressure or expectations to be there for every little thing but when she does need you it will mean so much more that you are there. So bide your time and make the moments you get count because when she goes to lay down you want her thinking of how you came through not how you got jealous.
(Ignore the pussy part that parts not relevant but I couldn't edit it obv)
So...a nice young lady that I spend time hanging out with (neither of us have expressed interest in taking anything further) let me know how much she thought "it's crazy that we met by chance and you have all the qualities I look for in a man: kind, trustworthy, dependable, smart, funny, easygoing, good listener..."
My blushing stopped when she followed with: 'I just wish I was attracted to you".
Taken together those two things are the nicest thing a lady (of amorous interest or not) has said to me lately. Hey, I wasn't going for her attentions, so I am not crushed. Just not sure why she felt the need to tell me. Pre-emptive, I guess.
Wonder how she would have taken it were the roles reversed and I nuked any chances?
Anyhoo, I gotta go. This race isn't going to lose itself.
She said "the fan on the computer is broken", then I said "you know the place to call to get it fixed", then she said "fine, how about I just call them now and then walk there in the dark alone with it?", then I said "or you could not be a jerk about it, and wait until tomorrow", then she slammed the bedroom door and now it has a crack.
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But good luck this year finding a new dance partner that is down for good times. 
). I can feel his memory weighing inside me, and I don't want to carry that baggage. Shit, I've still got baggage and defense mechanisms in place from a psycho I dated seven years ago - I don't need anymore. I've grown a lot since we broke up, and I've been doing all the "working on me" stuff that you're supposed to do after a breakup - being more social, working on my hobbies, etc. But some days it takes all my strength to not text him saying I miss him. I'm friends with all my exes - minus the psycho - but as much as I'd like to be his friend, I know I can't. Just the thought of seeing him in person makes my chest tighten and my stomach go all flurpy.
