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I had dinner with some friends on Sunday and one friend pulled her phone out to Tinder. She would match with people- so hypothetically she already finds them attractive and interesting- and often get exasperated when they messaged her. I am not sure what her goal on that thing is, but in addition to inundation of options, some girls don't really have an excuse as to why they don't message back...
Was it getting the message in general or that the message was offputting in some way?
I had dinner with some friends on Sunday and one friend pulled her phone out to Tinder. She would match with people- so hypothetically she already finds them attractive and interesting- and often get exasperated when they messaged her. I am not sure what her goal on that thing is, but in addition to inundation of options, some girls don't really have an excuse as to why they don't message back...
Was it getting the message in general or that the message was offputting in some way?
Just getting it. There really didn't seem to be a reason. It could've just been her mood. I don't know what her normal MO is.
Welcome back Bonz, but I do not find it strange that your presence being requested in the Orgy thread and then you showing up, like it was the quacking Bonzai Bat Signal.
Was it getting the message in general or that the message was offputting in some way?
Just getting it. There really didn't seem to be a reason. It could've just been her mood. I don't know what her normal MO is.
I get exasperated when friends text me. These are people I presumably like! But I can't stand it. When people point out that I already don't want them calling or tweeting at me, I run out of excuses - I just don't want to talk to anyone unless I want to.
Just getting it. There really didn't seem to be a reason. It could've just been her mood. I don't know what her normal MO is.
I get exasperated when friends text me. These are people I presumably like! But I can't stand it. When people point out that I already don't want them calling or tweeting at me, I run out of excuses - I just don't want to talk to anyone unless I want to.
I don't know how to respond to this without accusing you of being kind of a dick haha
I get exasperated when friends text me. These are people I presumably like! But I can't stand it. When people point out that I already don't want them calling or tweeting at me, I run out of excuses - I just don't want to talk to anyone unless I want to.
I don't know how to respond to this without accusing you of being kind of a dick haha
I didn't even say this, but the biggest culprit is my mom!
I can't deny my dick-ish-ness on this point, I can just say when you meet me in person I'm a lot different.
I don't know how to respond to this without accusing you of being kind of a dick haha
I didn't even say this, but the biggest culprit is my mom!
I can't deny my dick-ish-ness on this point, I can just say when you meet me in person I'm a lot different.
Nah, this is totally normal. Lots of people just get frustrated with the constant onslaught of availability and expectation of immediate responses now. You're not alone on this at all.
Just getting it. There really didn't seem to be a reason. It could've just been her mood. I don't know what her normal MO is.
I get exasperated when friends text me. These are people I presumably like! But I can't stand it. When people point out that I already don't want them calling or tweeting at me, I run out of excuses - I just don't want to talk to anyone unless I want to.
This isn't dick ish at all. I used to be way more plugged into my phone, constantlyyyyy texting. I had a relationship where the expectation was that we would text throughout the day and then usually talk on the phone that night if we didn't see each other. Sometimes, that was nice. Other times, it was a) exhausting, b) distracting when I was trying to go about doing other things in my life independent of that person/relationship and c) caused lots of silly fights by way of talking all the time even when not face to face.
The last person I was in a relationship with hates phones. Told me that from the start of us dating. Some of my best friends in the world hate phones. My sister does too. These are people I adore and I've learned to adjust to their way of thinking and even be more that way myself than I used to be. I've learned to at the very least not become offended when they opt to not respond to me right away if I'm just trying to chat (emergencies are different of course). Sometimes I see a text or missed call from someone I really do like and want to talk to, but later. Maybe later that day. Maybe the next day. It can be so frustrating that the readiness of communication via phones these days creates this expectation of immediacy of response in so many people.
Long rambling way of saying, yeah, I feel you and you're not a dick for having this perspective
Considering you've found the need to respond to my threads as if you are threatened by me I offer you some peace my confused counterpart. May you find peace in your restless soul.
I don't think it's a dick move to dislike the constant dinging of message alerts. I think we all can get tired of that. I was referring to "I just don't want to talk to anyone unless I want to." But I was also kidding. I guess technically no one wants to talk to someone unless they want to talk to someone.
I don't think it's a dick move to dislike the constant dinging of message alerts. I think we all can get tired of that. I was referring to "I just don't want to talk to anyone unless I want to." But I was also kidding. I guess technically no one wants to talk to someone unless they want to talk to someone.
I don't think it's a dick move to dislike the constant dinging of message alerts. I think we all can get tired of that. I was referring to "I just don't want to talk to anyone unless I want to." But I was also kidding. I guess technically no one wants to talk to someone unless they want to talk to someone.
Oh, my phone is ALWAYS on silent.
Haha actually mine stays on silent, too! I hardly ever answer calls. I almost always call people back or screen them. I'd much prefer a text.
Considering you've found the need to respond to my threads as if you are threatened by me I offer you some peace my confused counterpart. May you find peace in your restless soul.
I've said before I'm in a long distance relationship. It's definitely not easy. The past four weekends I've seriously been sooooo so lucky that I've got to spend them with my girlfriend. This weekend that streak won't continue though =/ but it's okay, it just makes me appreciate our time together more. I really really really like her so I'm okay with this, but if anybody asked for my advice on long distance relationships I'd advise them away from it unless they're sure they have a future together or they know they can deal with it, it's not for everybody. But I like her so much =) I really just wanted to brag about that.
I've said before I'm in a long distance relationship. It's definitely not easy. The past four weekends I've seriously been sooooo so lucky that I've got to spend them with my girlfriend. This weekend that streak won't continue though =/ but it's okay, it just makes me appreciate our time together more. I really really really like her so I'm okay with this, but if anybody asked for my advice on long distance relationships I'd advise them away from it unless they're sure they have a future together or they know they can deal with it, it's not for everybody. But I like her so much =) I really just wanted to brag about that.
Good for you! I'm not cut out for long-distance relationships, but I've done them in the past and the time you get to spend with your partner is so rewarding when you're able to see them. I'm glad she makes you happy.
Post by bansheebeat on Feb 26, 2016 8:46:33 GMT -5
I am going on a 4 day beach holiday next week (w/ a lady). This is potentially the biggest mistake I've ever made in my life. I'll report back afterwards.
I am going on a 4 day beach holiday next week (w/ a lady). This is potentially the biggest mistake I've ever made in my life. I'll report back afterwards.
Considering you've found the need to respond to my threads as if you are threatened by me I offer you some peace my confused counterpart. May you find peace in your restless soul.
but I do not find it strange that your presence being requested in the Orgy thread and then you showing up, like it was the quacking Bonzai Bat Signal. 
and you're not a dick for having this perspective 
