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Welcome back Bonz, but I do not find it strange that your presence being requested in the Orgy thread and then you showing up, like it was the quacking Bonzai Bat Signal.
So about a month into whatever it was, we double dated in Boston with her friend and friend's fiancee. Was at a Newbury Comics, and the guy was looking for ICP albums and complained they were in the bargain bin. Shortly after, it was mentioned all of them went to ICP shows whenever they had stops in Worcester.
What happened to this thread? Why did it fall off? I've got some feelins and a sticky situation.
I've been in a relationship for two and half years, and things are going pretty good. Or well, have been good since I stopped being a schmuck on the regular.
We're all a mess of paradoxes. Believing in things we know can't be true. We walk around carrying feelings too complicated and contradictory to express. But when it all becomes too big, and words aren't enough to help get it all out, there's always music.
We're all a mess of paradoxes. Believing in things we know can't be true. We walk around carrying feelings too complicated and contradictory to express. But when it all becomes too big, and words aren't enough to help get it all out, there's always music.
We can always rejuvenate this thread with another round of bacon is #foreversingle
There is this cute cashier at Whole Foods that I'm pretty sure has flirted with me twice, but I won't/can't do anything about it
Does Whole Foods sell magazines other than holistic sorts? I can't remember. Can you pick up a magazine there that reflects your interests, ie., a music magazine or something, and ask her if she has read that one or something? Then it opens up a conversation for you to say "Yeah, I just got back for Newport Folk Fest" or, "I'm going to ......soon". I think it may be easier for you to talk to her about something you have passion for.
Or a specialty food item "Have you tried this? Is it good? I had ..... my last trip" Simple, benign, everyday conversation that opens up the door for more conversation.
Also, I realize you are an introvert. I'm an introvert who dresses up like an extrovert because I've learned how to. However, I have been painfully shy for most of my life. Things only changed for me in my late 20's when I learned to take advantage of the times when I feel that I can be more "forward", and it grew from there. But I had some issues with self-consciousness that I had to overcome. Anyway, I know that many of us here on this board have probably told you this, but you are a handsome, intelligent, well-spoken, polite, worldly fellow. Remind yourself of that. She would be lucky to have you flirt back, and likely flattered. Easier said than done, I know, but I can assure you it is worth having a "last call" and someone to take to shows and on your hikes and to turn on to your music and watch her smile with delight over it. Doesn't that sound nice? Totally worth it.
We're all a mess of paradoxes. Believing in things we know can't be true. We walk around carrying feelings too complicated and contradictory to express. But when it all becomes too big, and words aren't enough to help get it all out, there's always music.
What happened to this thread? Why did it fall off? I've got some feelins and a sticky situation.
Is this the Thai girl and the Brit? Have things progressed?
Ugh. Me and the Brit broke things off. She knew about the Thai girl the whole time and all that, so I wasn't up to anything shady. No (supposed) hard feelings, we both understood it needed to happen, etc.... at least I thought things were cool.
Fast forward to a week after we broke it off (2 weeks ago) - I get a drink dumped on my head because apparently I'm not paying her enough attention at the nightclub we were all at. Next day I get an apology and a "I was too drunk and blah blah blah bullshit" I told her that absolutely was not cool and that I want absolutely nothing to do with her (no contact or anything). Though I relent and we (again) try and establish that we are JUST friends.
Fast forward a couple days, she and I hang out, have a beer, chat about what our plans our after Thailand, and that is that. Seems like the "just friends" thing is working. Cool right? Wronggg.
Friday night I go out with the Thai girl and run into one of the other teachers. She (of course) tells the Brit girl that I was out at a club with the Thai girl (which SHOULD be a non-issue). The next day she acts really cold and what not so yesterday I send her a message and I'm look "hey man I don't like things being weird you're the closest friend I have here blah blah blah" she again apologizes and says she still has feelings for me (which I know and I try to be respectful of but at the same time we had a conversation about this and came to a mutual understanding). We (again) reach a point were I think we're okay... that is until a couple hours later. The Thai girl comes to pick me up for dinner and Brit girl sees me get in her car. I'm immediately bombarded by FB messages about how inconsiderate I am and how I'm a scumbag coward and all kinds of shit.
I really don't think I'm in the wrong here. The Brit girl was trying to set me up with the Thai girl wayyyyy back before anything happened between us. When things did I happen I immediately stopped all contact with the Thai girl. Things were getting too weird and stuff with the Brit girl and we ended it with an understanding that we are both free to do whatever we want and that it's ridiculous to not enjoy ourselves while we're here. I have tried to be respectful by not bringing the other girl around and stuff like that. But somehow I'm still a bad person? Maybe I am.
I don't think you are the bad person here. She sounds a little "wounded", shall I say. Not by you, but by other things long before you. Keep going out with the Thai girl, maybe slow the contact with the Brit so she can get over her feelings. Such frequent contact makes it like pulling the bandage off really s-l-o-w-l-y.
Just one gal's advice. Also, although this got complicated, I'm happy to know that you are catching feels :-) You are also a handsome, worldly, fantastic fellow who deserves some feels.
We're all a mess of paradoxes. Believing in things we know can't be true. We walk around carrying feelings too complicated and contradictory to express. But when it all becomes too big, and words aren't enough to help get it all out, there's always music.
I don't think you are the bad person here. She sounds a little "wounded", shall I say. Not by you, but by other things long before you. Keep going out with the Thai girl, maybe slow the contact with the Brit so she can get over her feelings. Such frequent contact makes it like pulling the bandage off really s-l-o-w-l-y.
Just one gal's advice. Also, although this got complicated, I'm happy to know that you are catching feels :-) You are also a handsome, worldly, fantastic fellow who deserves some feels.
Thanks. Yeah I mean if it were up to me I would have cut contact completely, but the fact that we live in the same apartment and work together makes it tough. Things with her were fun, but we definitely were better as friends who could just get piss drunk all night and talk about life and stuff.
And thanks. I really like this girl quite a bit. Now that we are more comfortable around each other some of the cultural differences are a lot easier to navigate.
Now it's just gonna suck when reality hits and I have to leave...
Is this the Thai girl and the Brit? Have things progressed?
Ugh. Me and the Brit broke things off. She knew about the Thai girl the whole time and all that, so I wasn't up to anything shady. No (supposed) hard feelings, we both understood it needed to happen, etc.... at least I thought things were cool.
Fast forward to a week after we broke it off (2 weeks ago) - I get a drink dumped on my head because apparently I'm not paying her enough attention at the nightclub we were all at. Next day I get an apology and a "I was too drunk and blah blah blah bullshit" I told her that absolutely was not cool and that I want absolutely nothing to do with her (no contact or anything). Though I relent and we (again) try and establish that we are JUST friends.
Fast forward a couple days, she and I hang out, have a beer, chat about what our plans our after Thailand, and that is that. Seems like the "just friends" thing is working. Cool right? Wronggg.
Friday night I go out with the Thai girl and run into one of the other teachers. She (of course) tells the Brit girl that I was out at a club with the Thai girl (which SHOULD be a non-issue). The next day she acts really cold and what not so yesterday I send her a message and I'm look "hey man I don't like things being weird you're the closest friend I have here blah blah blah" she again apologizes and says she still has feelings for me (which I know and I try to be respectful of but at the same time we had a conversation about this and came to a mutual understanding). We (again) reach a point were I think we're okay... that is until a couple hours later. The Thai girl comes to pick me up for dinner and Brit girl sees me get in her car. I'm immediately bombarded by FB messages about how inconsiderate I am and how I'm a scumbag coward and all kinds of shit.
I really don't think I'm in the wrong here. The Brit girl was trying to set me up with the Thai girl wayyyyy back before anything happened between us. When things did I happen I immediately stopped all contact with the Thai girl. Things were getting too weird and stuff with the Brit girl and we ended it with an understanding that we are both free to do whatever we want and that it's ridiculous to not enjoy ourselves while we're here. I have tried to be respectful by not bringing the other girl around and stuff like that. But somehow I'm still a bad person? Maybe I am.
No, you're not a bad person. Is the Brit girl young? Because the way you describe her behavior reminds me of girls I knew in my teens and early 20s. Anyway, don't let the Brit girl make you feel bad. I see nothing wrong with what you're doing, especially since you have been upfront with the Brit girl. She sounds a bit too dramatic anyway. My two cents.
No, you're not a bad person. Is the Brit girl young? Because the way you describe her behavior reminds me of girls I knew in my teens and early 20s. Anyway, don't let the Brit girl make you feel bad. I see nothing wrong with what you're doing, especially since you have been upfront with the Brit girl. She sounds a bit too dramatic anyway. My two cents.
Thank you! The funny thing is no, she isn't young (she's 28). But yeah she has definitely been a bit dramatic and immature throughout this whole thing, which is why I was glad for us to go back to friends in the first place.
My company has multiple couples. Some met at work. Some brought their significant with them.
That being said.....no to co-workers. It's so uncomfortable to watch people you work with fight. And then have to deal with shitty attitudes in the office.
but I do not find it strange that your presence being requested in the Orgy thread and then you showing up, like it was the quacking Bonzai Bat Signal. 
