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The question is, do you WANT to be sexually adventurous? For me, I did and being a monogamous relationship shut that down completely - what I identify with now is just because of being on a level of personal security I didn't feel in my late 20's-early 30's.
So, I'll admit, I'm embarrassed that I have a basically vanilla sex life and the last two days have sealed that up
There is nothing to be embarrassed about, there is no choice on this poll that is inherently better than another.
It's not the number -- it's the years of embarrassments I felt feeling not normal in a monogamous relationship and now we have words for it like poly, sharing, etc. While I was going through college, I was shamed pretty hard for not wanting to be in a monogamous relationship and other people knowing. I also put it down to issues with my parents not showing physical affection ever in my life so -- I'm embarrassed that I'm 36 just figuring this shit out.
There is nothing to be embarrassed about, there is no choice on this poll that is inherently better than another.
It's not the number -- it's the years of embarrassments I felt feeling not normal in a monogamous relationship and now we have words for it like poly, sharing, etc. While I was going through college, I was shamed pretty hard for not wanting to be in a monogamous relationship and other people knowing. I also put it down to issues with my parents not showing physical affection ever in my life so -- I'm embarrassed that I'm 36 just figuring this shit out.
Some people go their whole lives and never figure it out, you’re already most of the way there, be proud of yourself
If you tried to make someone else cum that also was sex.
I need to circle back to refute this because ain’t NO WAY I’m counting like those guys in Hs/early college who fingered me, I gave a half hearted handjob to
So I know this somewhat counters my earlier statement, but I def fingered some girl out and she gave me the saddest attempt at a handjob - and I'm not counting that.
Last night there was 2 or 3 people who chose 0, did they take their votes back? Did they all get laid last night? Maybe they all slept with each other?
I need to circle back to refute this because ain’t NO WAY I’m counting like those guys in Hs/early college who fingered me, I gave a half hearted handjob to
So I know this somewhat counters my earlier statement, but I def fingered some girl out and she gave me the saddest attempt at a handjob - and I'm not counting that.
There's a R-oUGGGGH college handjob that stemmed from a failed orgy attempt, that can't be on this list because it was just so ... bad ... it can't be seen as a sex act
There is nothing to be embarrassed about, there is no choice on this poll that is inherently better than another.
It's not the number -- it's the years of embarrassments I felt feeling not normal in a monogamous relationship and now we have words for it like poly, sharing, etc. While I was going through college, I was shamed pretty hard for not wanting to be in a monogamous relationship and other people knowing. I also put it down to issues with my parents not showing physical affection ever in my life so -- I'm embarrassed that I'm 36 just figuring this shit out.
Hey bud, our friend is right. Some people don’t know that’s not what they want until they’re already married with kids! You’re doing great.
It's really interesting what being in two 3 year relationships will do to your count. My mental count feels below inforoo's average.. goddamn, maybe my 40's will be better?
The question is, do you WANT to be sexually adventurous? For me, I did and being a monogamous relationship shut that down completely - what I identify with now is just because of being on a level of personal security I didn't feel in my late 20's-early 30's.
So, I'll admit, I'm embarrassed that I have a basically vanilla sex life and the last two days have sealed that up
There is nothing to be embarrassed about, there is no choice on this poll that is inherently better than another.
From a different perspective -
I'm definitely in the 1-5 category, and the count itself isn't a problem for me.
There's the times from before, and since, that 9.5 year relationship where I would of liked to have had more partners. The droughts aren't fun.
My question is, for the ones in the higher brackets - how do y'all even get so many partners in the first place?
I didn't go to college until after I had a kid and I was working 3 jobs while in college. But I lived my best, full ho life before (and after) my 13 year relationship and before Jeremy.
1) I do think that Jake Jortles' view/definitions here skew hetereonormative for sure, and I've candidly told him that (not just in this convo but in prior similar ones), but I don't think he's being shitty or dismissive by way of having that viewpoint: it is clearly dictated by the fact that he's a straight dude who has sex with women which, as he's now said, pretty much always involves penetration at some point even if initially it is just oral. That's been his experience, and so it makes sense to me where he's coming from.
As a queer female, of course my personal experiences diverge from just that ^^ and that's going to influence my viewpoint, but I'll be honest - I still don't feel like I have the answer even for what I "count" myself, and ultimately I really don't care - my experiences are memorable for reasons outside of "but was this sex? does this count?" etc. but the Type A side of me *does* want to figure this out for myself lmao. Which brings me to...
2) Initially I did throw my vote on the 30-50 category because, going back to the list topic, I know that the number of names I have on that falls in the 30-50 range. It does not include any male person with whom I've not engaged in full penetrative sex with (V and/or A but tbh I've never done PIA with a partner I didn't already have PIV with...), but for my female-female sexual experiences it definitely isn't as if I only count it when/if a dildo is involved.
But then I thought to the two guys in HS with whom I had mutual oral sex, and although I don't count either as an instance of losing my virginity, it was a form of sex for sure. Do I count them here? What about the one more-than-threesome group sex experience I've had where, for some reason, I do have the only dude person who fucked me during that encounter on my list already but neglected to put down the two women who went down on me. Yet I've counted oral for one-on-one encounters with women/they're on my list...so, what's that about?
Anyway, these questions led me to shift myself to the 50+ category but now as I think on it further, I really think being in the 30-50 resonates more for me personally (and I'm gonna move back there) because it's OK if I count sex with women differently and that even across genders, there are times when the act of oral did comprise sex for me and other times it didn't.
3) I do think it is also important to raise though that some people genuinely do not like or even feel comfortable with PIV/PIA even if they've got the "parts" to do it. A key example of this is someone who is non-binary or trans and has body dysmorphia in such a way that doing penetrative things doesn't feel right for them. Ain't no way in hell I'd tell that person that they "aren't having sex then." And what about queer dude sex where they don't enjoy anal? Can mutual oral count for them? I think so.
So many questions. Not enough answers. What an interesting topic to ponder/analyze, tbh.
Considering you've found the need to respond to my threads as if you are threatened by me I offer you some peace my confused counterpart. May you find peace in your restless soul.
So what we've learned here is that putting a number on something that is generally ambiguous and differs from person to person is not a good way to measure inforoo's horniness or compare yourself against the group.
However, along the way we've also answered the question the poll was created for: Inforoo is horny af and we accomplish sexual gratification through varied methods.
There is nothing to be embarrassed about, there is no choice on this poll that is inherently better than another.
From a different perspective -
I'm definitely in the 1-5 category, and the count itself isn't a problem for me.
There's the times from before, and since, that 9.5 year relationship where I would of liked to have had more partners. The droughts aren't fun.
My question is, for the ones in the higher brackets - how do y'all even get so many partners in the first place?
It’s easy!
Just lose your virginity at 17 on the floor of a Scottish Inn in Henderson, KY, to a girl you met at Model UN, wonder if you really like sex at all given how bad that was, then meet a girl on vacation after graduation and who shows you how awesome it can be, meet a girl in college who becomes your best platonic friend until the two of you try to do a FWB thing that works until it doesn’t, move to NYC at 22, play rugby, get drunk a lot, experience a bunch of random hookups that ultimately leave you feeling kinda hollow, discover the downtown theater scene and dive into it headfirst as one of the only straight men in your particular sliver of the community, have a lot of showmances and just general sexual encounters with women who blow your provincial little mind with their artistic bent and perspective on sexual liberation and the sensuality of performance, discover casual dating sites on the internet, post naked pictures of yourself there for the thrill of it, get a surprising response that makes you feel good about your body for the first time in your life, mistake that for true validation, meet up with a ton of people you meet online, discover that you appreciate the female form in all its various manifestations and not just the unrealistic stereotype bred into you by a patriarchal system thereby widening your playing field, get involved in a few group activities, fall in love with one of your cast mates, start a serious relationship, watch it slowly die as she becomes increasingly depressed and won’t do anything to help herself, push down your pain around that rather than dealing with it in a healthy fashion, start a band, become attracted to one of your band mates, cheat on your girlfriend with your band mate, feel your self-hatred skyrocket because you’re being a horrible person, end your relationship to start a new relationship with your band mate because you’ve mistaken creative connection for constructive personal connection, end up the abusee in an emotionally abusive relationship that you stay in because don’t you really deserve it after the last one you were in and the horrible shit you did, have that relationship go down in flames along with the last shred of your self-affirmable self esteem, decide that the only way you can feel at all good about yourself is if other people desire you and so engage in a campaign of consensually casual encounters that are fun and make you feel good about yourself temporarily but aren’t a substitute for real self-worth, slowly heal and discover a much healthier way to engage in kink and casual sex that isn’t just about trying to throw validation into a gaping abyss, use the shit out of FetLife and other sites like it, have a couple of great FWB relationships, date some with partners who agree with you that knowing whether there’s physical chemistry from the jump is an important part of fostering a healthy romantic relationship but don’t have those dating situations work out long-term, then eventually find one person on OK Cupid with whom you click on that level and many others and marry that person.
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Last night there was 2 or 3 people who chose 0, did they take their votes back? Did they all get laid last night? Maybe they all slept with each other?
Life's mysteries.
they realized oral or mutual masturbation can count
I think a lot of you are ignoring the fact that in simplest terms, sex is when the in penis out of down a against the hole sideways back to from the back vagina with out of again.
There is nothing to be embarrassed about, there is no choice on this poll that is inherently better than another.
From a different perspective -
I'm definitely in the 1-5 category, and the count itself isn't a problem for me.
There's the times from before, and since, that 9.5 year relationship where I would of liked to have had more partners. The droughts aren't fun.
My question is, for the ones in the higher brackets - how do y'all even get so many partners in the first place?
I mean the answer to the last question for me was, as a single person (not now), getting into unreal physical shape, going to bars and forcing myself to become charismatic, and swiping on apps to find someone who is also only interested in having sex with nothing more.
I'm definitely in the 1-5 category, and the count itself isn't a problem for me.
There's the times from before, and since, that 9.5 year relationship where I would of liked to have had more partners. The droughts aren't fun.
My question is, for the ones in the higher brackets - how do y'all even get so many partners in the first place?
I mean the answer to the last question for me was, as a single person (not now), getting into unreal physical shape, going to bars and forcing myself to become charismatic, and swiping on apps to find someone who is also only interested in having sex with nothing more.
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