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No matter how much of a knowing tone or joke it is, you should never make slight comments about your partners looks or intelligence outside of a private setting. That's just the way I feel, I understand if you are of a different opinion. Agree to disagree.
You said to tell a guy to BABYSIT your girl while also calling her dumb in the same sentence. Read what you post, again, over and over until you get it.
Tone is difficult to translate over text. Basically, I was turning the guy into my errand boy, and joking around. I have a different kind of frame than most - and any girl that would be with me would laugh at what I said, not be offended because she KNOWS what I mean by it and what I don't mean by it.
I mean absolutely no offense when I say things like this. I am more teasing her in a fun way, like I would my little sister, or one of my friends.
Like, I made a joke about cliches to mayo a couple days back, and Druid mentioned that it may have been offensive. Mayo (said she) didnt take offense and saw it for what it was. Just a joke.
Its all about frame and tone.
Perhaps, but when every posts having to deal with relationships comes off as you conquering a female or breaking a girl's heart it starts to reflect your character. You perceptions might be true for you but they aren't true for everyone. Maybe it's the area you live in and the people you hang around, I don't know.
Wow, I mean, you seem like a nice guy, but I'm having an internal feminist meltdown reading some of the stuff you wrote.
I know some of this stuff is probably hard for people to read, hear or whatever.
The harsh reality is that our urges are often times generated from an outdated hardwiring.
We are kind of having 2 different conversations here. I am talking about science and psychology, and a practical application of those. Others are talking ideals and logic.
In most cases, these things do not cross.
BELIEVE ME, I want this stuff to be different. It sucks, and it makes dating quite difficult.
"wannabe player" I guess I can see how I come off as that. I won't argue with your perception.
But I am not a wannabe. And I am not a player. Anymore.
Just because I date a lot, does not make me a player. I know what I want, and I won't settle for less than everything. And I will not apologize for that.
Surf, you are talking psuedoscience, not the real thing. It is very true that there are chemical and behavioral cues that influence who you are attracted to. However, these are different than distinguishing who the alpha male is. It is hard to read because it is flat out wrong.
Add to that the fact that the human mind and genome are one of the most complex in the animal kingdom, and we only know a fraction of a percent about each, it is very dangerous to assume that any one factor is a bigger influence.
Another note, you keep talking about alpha vs beta. I have NEVER seen a true alpha have that conversation before and I know a lot of people who are born leaders, and run business. You either are, you want to be, or you accept that you are not. Either way, most people don't care one way or another and society has moved to a point that everyone can be friends and still have a role. Maybe you need to take the time to figure out what who you are instead of thinking about alpha vs. beta.
No dating a lot does not make you come off as a player, using (imo) pseudo psychology to try and manipulate your preconceived opinion of women's emotions so they see you as desirable however does make you a player.
Whoa. Slow down there pardner. I do NOT manipulate women. Do. Not. At. All.
I simply would have reacted to that situation differently, and in the end would have been more effective. And I explained why.
How does that make me manipulative again? Sure I manipulated the situation to eliminate or avoid violence, but I did not manipulate the girl. She has a choice. She can either:
1) stay and flirt with the guy I just tooled (because he was trying to tool me) in which case I don't want her
or
2) mingle and catch up with me (or mutually reunite)
I do not feel the need to be chained to anyone in any social situation, although any girl I am with I generally am around them. Don't read too much into this either. I am not inconsiderate to her feelings when it comes to this.
I have to agree with wlviking's post....and to say that there is defnitely a balance between the bad guy & good guy thing.
My husband is one of those guys that I really think is an anomaly - at least compared to most other husband's that I know and I really do think I'm lucky. We are 36 and met when we were 18, our freshman year in college and got married at 23. We have 2 kids (age 7 & 5).
In outward appearances and to people that don't know him he would probably fall into the bad boy category. He's always been the black sheep in his family - the artist that used to have dreads, has tattoos and rides a motorcycle. He doesn't take poop from anyone but he'd also do anything at anytime for people he cares about. He's very passionate and emotional - has an opinion about everything. I can't even buy a pair of shoes for the kids without him having something to say about it. It's bad in some ways but mostly good because being very optionated keeps things lively between us.
After almost 18 yrs together we still never run out of things to talk about, we still laugh, are still finding new and exciting things to do together and can have a good argument without it getting crazy like it did in our younger years. Now that the kids are a bit older and they are out of the harder baby/toddler years I feel like we've really hit our stride and things have never been better. Sometimes I worry that I'm so happy that something bad is going to happen.
I was sort of wild before I met him and what attracted me to him wasn't just the bad boy/alpha male thing which he really was but also that I was tired of that lifestyle and he had really good morals and we wanted the same things out of life and I haven't been disappointed. He's a wonderful husband and father. He's not like some of my friends d-bag husbands who never help with the kids or house and sit on their ass all the time playing video games. Don't get me wrong, my hubby loves the xbox but with him family always comes first. I've never had to complain about him spending too much time on stuff like that.
It really is like he's the perfect mix of both. He really is the nice bad boy!
AWESOME!! He sounds like a quality Alpha man. Kudos on locking that down!!!
No matter how much of a knowing tone or joke it is, you should never make slight comments about your partners looks or intelligence outside of a private setting. That's just the way I feel, I understand if you are of a different opinion. Agree to disagree.
I didn't insult her intelligence. I said she gets distracted by shiny things (which a LOT of people do) But I get your point, too. Agree to disagree
No dating a lot does not make you come off as a player, using (imo) pseudo psychology to try and manipulate your preconceived opinion of women's emotions so they see you as desirable however does make you a player.
Whoa. Slow down there pardner. I do NOT manipulate women. Do. Not. At. All.
I simply would have reacted to that situation differently, and in the end would have been more effective. And I explained why.
How does that make me manipulative again? Sure I manipulated the situation to eliminate or avoid violence, but I did not manipulate the girl. She has a choice. She can either:
1) stay and flirt with the guy I just tooled (because he was trying to tool me) in which case I don't want her
or
2) mingle and catch up with me (or mutually reunite)
I do not feel the need to be chained to anyone in any social situation, although any girl I am with I generally am around them. Don't read too much into this either. I am not inconsiderate to her feelings when it comes to this.
See putting this much thought into all of this is what I was referring to. If I meet a girl I like I wait until the time seems right and let her know. I do not try to turn acquaintances into "tools" so I can further investigate the situation while I am already on a date with said girl. Admittedly I am single now for the first time in several years, but honestly respectful and nice always got me plenty of action, and I did not have to feel like I was running a 3 layer strategy in my head the whole time.
Surf, you are talking psuedoscience, not the real thing. It is very true that there are chemical and behavioral cues that influence who you are attracted to. However, these are different than distinguishing who the alpha male is. It is hard to read because it is flat out wrong.
Add to that the fact that the human mind and genome are one of the most complex in the animal kingdom, and we only know a fraction of a percent about each, it is very dangerous to assume that any one factor is a bigger influence.
Another note, you keep talking about alpha vs beta. I have NEVER seen a true alpha have that conversation before and I know a lot of people who are born leaders, and run business. You either are, you want to be, or you accept that you are not. Either way, most people don't care one way or another and society has moved to a point that everyone can be friends and still have a role. Maybe you need to take the time to figure out what who you are instead of thinking about alpha vs. beta.
1) I never referred to myself as Alpha. I did have talk about Alphas but never once referred to myself as such.
2) Im sorry - but you are absolutely incorrect on all points in this post. It is one thing to agree to disagree, it is another to be flat out wrong.
I don't really want to continue this conversation, for a lot of reasons. Mainly because "although the truth may set you free, first its going to piss you off" kind of thing. No matter how right I am, there are too many people here that see things in a different light, and there is no way I can open minds to this truth that I know without offending people.
Post by EthnicallyCrimean98476 on Mar 28, 2012 11:32:43 GMT -5
I just got metaphorically shat on in a recent relationship for being a nice guy. That's not going to make me want to turn around and change the way I act and try to be some "ultimate alpha male". Alpha is code for d-bag in my book. Respect for myself is paramount.
See putting this much thought into all of this is what I was referring to. If I meet a girl I like I wait until the time seems right and let her know. I do not try to turn acquaintances into "tools" so I can further investigate the situation while I am already on a date with said girl. Admittedly I am single now for the first time in several years, but honestly respectful and nice always got me plenty of action, and I did not have to feel like I was running a 3 layer strategy in my head the whole time.
The walking away is to avoid violence, while disallowing someone to disrespect me.
The breakdown of what result this has in her head is unrelated. You are confusing my motivation.
I just got metaphorically shat on in a recent relationship for being a nice guy. That's not going to make me want to turn around and change the way I act and try to be some "ultimate alpha male". Alpha is code for d-bag in my book. Respect for myself is paramount.
I just got metaphorically shat on in a recent relationship for being a nice guy. That's not going to make me want to turn around and change the way I act and try to be some "ultimate alpha male". Alpha is code for d-bag in my book. Respect for myself is paramount.
THIS. I remember taking a girl out a few times back in early 2010, and on the third date, "the group outing" she drunkenly yelled at me in front of everyone on how I sucked because I lacked confidence and was too nice. She is one of those girls that confuses confidence with arrogance. No way I'm going to warp my personality into a bro-hole just so I can get the girl. I think me being a nice-guy is one of my best qualities, and while it may not be attractive to 20-something-year-old party girl, I know there are women who appreciate kindness.
But there is a difference between being a nice-guy and being a p*ssy. If some dude tried to bro-out on me and take my girl, I'd kick him in the knee and headbutt him between the eyes. But I'm never going to act like a d*ck just to get a girl. Even if it means I'll spend most of my days single. Hasn't gotten old yet.
That girl, we stopped seeing each other for awhile, remained casual friends, but one light she came back to me after she got shat on by a huge assh*le (figuratively speaking of course), and I could only shrug and point her in the direction of the greek village.
How about everyone stops trying to be what they think the opposite sex wants and just be themselves and someone who thinks you're way cool exactly as you are will make their way into your life
The less you judge yourself the less you'll judge others, and then you're falling in love with another whole, complete being instead of falling in love with someone's wounds
If some dude tried to bro-out on me and take my girl, I'd kick him in the knee and headbutt him between the eyes. But I'm never going to act like a d*ck just to get a girl.
See, in my view, kicking him in the shin and headbutting him makes one a d*ck.
My whole point as to what I do in situations like this illistrates it quite clearly. Actually reacting violently is weak. You can stand up to this kind of behavior and get a better result by not reacting to him. Or tooling him. Be the better man. Thats how you become more attractive. Beating someone up for trying to take your girl is NOT being the better man.
Diffusing the situation by using your head instead of your fist and emotions is simply BETTER.
How about everyone stops trying to be what they think the opposite sex wants and just be themselves and someone who thinks you're way cool exactly as you are will make their way into your life
The less you judge yourself the less you'll judge others, and then you're falling in love with another whole, complete being instead of falling in love with someone's wounds
How about everyone stops trying to be what they think the opposite sex wants and just be themselves and someone who thinks you're way cool exactly as you are will make their way into your life
The less you judge yourself the less you'll judge others, and then you're falling in love with another whole, complete being instead of falling in love with someone's wounds
BOOM. There it is.
But...I was mostly talking to you! Quack this alpha/beta/omega bullshit. We aren't animals. We're capable of transcending judgement and valuing others beyond what they can do for us.
That being said, there's just as many so-called "nice guys" who see women as objects as "players!" Just as players use overconfidence as a manipulation tool, "nice guys" use their lack of confidence as a manipulation tool.
Any time I hear someone say they want "a girlfriend" red flags fly up all over the place
A partnership should not come of the need to fill a void, you shouldn't be trying to find someone to manipulate and squish into your ideal of the perfect partner
A partnership should be all about your partner The most unique, beautiful, interesting thing in the world to you You love them not because of what they can do for you, but because of who they are
And no matter what you say, deep down, that's what you want...we're all hurting for this kind of companionship
If some dude tried to bro-out on me and take my girl, I'd kick him in the knee and headbutt him between the eyes. But I'm never going to act like a d*ck just to get a girl.
See, in my view, kicking him in the shin and headbutting him makes one a d*ck.
My whole point as to what I do in situations like this illistrates it quite clearly. Actually reacting violently is weak. You can stand up to this kind of behavior and get a better result by not reacting to him. Or tooling him. Be the better man. Thats how you become more attractive. Beating someone up for trying to take your girl is NOT being the better man.
Diffusing the situation by using your head instead of your fist and emotions is simply BETTER.
it's interesting you see it that way. I never thought of myself as a d*ck for having to take physical action, but I can see why it'd be perceived as such.
I will say the one time I had to fight a dude over MY girl did not end well for me, at least for the night. But I look at it as more of standing up for myself than for my girl.
You see I'm a small guy. I'm under 6 feet and only weight 145 pounds. So other guys constantly think they can walk all over me just by physical confidence. Working door-man at a music venue for a year helped me overcome this inferiority complex and I learned the gift of using posture, expression and words to strike fear into the hearts of little men in big bodies. But sometimes it doesn't always work (usually whenever alcohol is involved), and sometimes my fist must meet their flesh. I don't go out looking for violence, but when it finds its way to me, I don't hesitate. Would rather go to bed with a few bruises on my face than on my reputation.
jbprez I get it. Believe me. And I hope you didn't think I was specifically calling you a d*ck. I just - I have a propensity to avoid violence, but I also will NOT be walked on. I am not a small man. 5'10 220#. Fairly average. I grew up in rough neighborhoods and learned how to handle myself at a young age. Size is not something I take into consideration in physical altercations, mostly.
Standing up for yourself is ABSOLUTELY VITAL to a lot of areas of your life, self esteem and reputation. We have different methods of doing that, and I respect yours. Its people who jump to fight at the drop of a hat that I was more referring to as d*cks. We all know that type. They try to maintain "respect" (ha) through fear.
When warranted, throwing down is something that must happen. It is a part of life.
I just try to avoid at all costs, without compromising my own set of morals, ideals or self-esteem.
So I tool them. THere are lots of ways to do this. One way is to make them look bad by boomeranging what they did back to them. The other is to get them to laugh and joke with you and like you, and make yourself the center of their attention. Another is to put your hand around the back of their neck with a smile on your face and tell them how cool you think they are. But the bottom line is, you CAN NOT let people walk on you. If you do, you are just giving away your self esteem and feeding someone elses.
jbprez I get it. Believe me. And I hope you didn't think I was specifically calling you a d*ck. I just - I have a propensity to avoid violence, but I also will NOT be walked on. I am not a small man. 5'10 220#. Fairly average. I grew up in rough neighborhoods and learned how to handle myself at a young age. Size is not something I take into consideration in physical altercations, mostly.
Standing up for yourself is ABSOLUTELY VITAL to a lot of areas of your life, self esteem and reputation. We have different methods of doing that, and I respect yours. Its people who jump to fight at the drop of a hat that I was more referring to as d*cks. We all know that type. They try to maintain "respect" (ha) through fear.
When warranted, throwing down is something that must happen. It is a part of life.
I just try to avoid at all costs, without compromising my own set of morals, ideals or self-esteem.
So I tool them. THere are lots of ways to do this. One way is to make them look bad by boomeranging what they did back to them. The other is to get them to laugh and joke with you and like you, and make yourself the center of their attention. Another is to put your hand around the back of their neck with a smile on your face and tell them how cool you think they are. But the bottom line is, you CAN NOT let people walk on you. If you do, you are just giving away your self esteem and feeding someone elses.
Didn't you say before you have no problem stealing a girl off of someone else, regardless or relationship status?
jbprez I get it. Believe me. And I hope you didn't think I was specifically calling you a d*ck. I just - I have a propensity to avoid violence, but I also will NOT be walked on. I am not a small man. 5'10 220#. Fairly average. I grew up in rough neighborhoods and learned how to handle myself at a young age. Size is not something I take into consideration in physical altercations, mostly.
Standing up for yourself is ABSOLUTELY VITAL to a lot of areas of your life, self esteem and reputation. We have different methods of doing that, and I respect yours. Its people who jump to fight at the drop of a hat that I was more referring to as d*cks. We all know that type. They try to maintain "respect" (ha) through fear.
When warranted, throwing down is something that must happen. It is a part of life.
I just try to avoid at all costs, without compromising my own set of morals, ideals or self-esteem.
So I tool them. THere are lots of ways to do this. One way is to make them look bad by boomeranging what they did back to them. The other is to get them to laugh and joke with you and like you, and make yourself the center of their attention. Another is to put your hand around the back of their neck with a smile on your face and tell them how cool you think they are. But the bottom line is, you CAN NOT let people walk on you. If you do, you are just giving away your self esteem and feeding someone elses.
Didn't you say before you have no problem stealing a girl off of someone else, regardless or relationship status?
I don't think so... What are you referring to exactly?
Nice guys finish in a napkin. Awesome guys finish on her (fill in the blank).
^ DUDE: W. T. F. ? Is this your pathetic attempt at humor with a thinly veiled reference to masturbation wherein you imply that masturbation is an act reserved only for men who aren't successful manwhores? That's wrong on so many levels that I don't know where to begin. I swear to Corncat, you make posts like this just to goad me into a scathing diatribe. Well congrats, pally, you got one!
The sweet/nice guy just is not generally attractive to women. Even though they would probably make a better boyfriend or husband, the sweet boy just does not get women's juices flowing
[/b].[/quote]You are SOOOOOO WRONG here! Guys can be sweet and not effeminate/emasculated, as you seem to suggest. For the record (as as a woman who is willing to enlighten you to our feminine thought processes - at no charge, BTW, so you should be a lot less misogynistic and a helluva lot more grateful for this insight), WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO AN OVERALL PACKAGE, not just a guy who thinks with his package. How many times do we women have to reiterate this to Neanderthal males?
YES, WE CAN BE JUST AS SHALLOW AS MEN AT TIMES! Lord knows I can appreciate well-defined delts and glutes on a guy. But that's not the #1 thing that attracts me, and it's sure as hell not the thing that keeps me attracted. Here's my motto (take it for what it's worth; to you, that's probably not much): IT DOESN'T MATTER IF YOUR BODY TURNS ME ON IF YOUR BRAIN CAN'T.
You wanna know what really gets chicks' "juices flowing"? Honesty. Integrity. Communication. Trust. When those are the foundation upon which you add Passion and Romance (which, FWIW, are two separate things), then you have the makings of an intense relationship. Washboard abs don't build trust. If your passion is based on buns of steel, then passion is what you will get. You get what you give; it's that simple.
You're the male equivalent of some of my sorority sisters who slept their way through every fraternity on campus, then complained that they never had a boyfriend. Well, DUH! If you sell yourself as a cheap item, then nobody wants to buy it because people don't want to buy junk!
Not to mention, Alpha guys are not outwardly sweet generally. Inside they may be, and they may show it away from other people.
^ Based on WHAT example? I know, have dated, and dearly love MANY Alpha males who are outwardly sweet. Being an Alpha doesn't mean a guy has to be a cold, heartless schmuck; it means they have a more assertive nature. A *TRUE MAN* is kind, regardless of whether society has labeled him an Alpha or Beta male. A *TRUE MAN* shows his true colors to everyone. If he doesn't, then he's a coward. And chicks don't dig cowards.
WHOA! When did you grow a uterus and become a woman? Trust me, pal, no we don't. Not ALL women prefer Alphas. I actually prefer a Beta male with a brain & a heart, not an Alpha with a hard body and a cocky attitude. And from personal experience, I can tell you that Beta males make far better lovers because they use their brain instead of their schlong to woo women. The results are legendary: without Beta males, the world would never have the music of Bach, Beethoven and Mozart nor the art of daVinci and Michelangelo nor the poetry of Lord Byron or Shakespeare or any of the other artistic masterpieces that cause cultured women to go weak in the knees. So save your canned, inauthentic generalizations about women because you are as wrong as you are clueless.
(disclaimer: all of this is GENERALITIES, and quite accurate - even though there will be some disagreement)
QUITE ACCURATE? What have you been smoking? Surely you jest! And yes, there will be disagreement, simply because YOU.ARE.WRONG. and so full of yourself it disgusts me and saddens me at the same time.
Look man, you *MIGHT* be a decent guy in real life. You *MIGHT* be an awesome, kind-hearted, generous, giving, warm and caring, funny and amiable gentleman. If that's the case, then GREAT! The world needs more men with those qualities! But based on just about everyquackingcomment you've ever made on this board, you sound like a complete jackasss who is only concerned with getting his rocks off!!! Your vibe suggests that you're an immoral horndog who doesn't respect women. Your posts paint you as a chauvinistic putz who will say or do anything to get a woman in bed - and you're OK with them being there because you sure as hell won't let them in your heart, since emotional vulnerability is a sign of weakness, and showing any sign of weakness is for losers, right? I keep trying to give you the benefit of the doubt, but every day you say something else that makes me want to give up hope of ever finding a shred of decency in you.
DUDE, IF THAT'S NOT WHO YOU REALLY ARE, THEN PLEASE CONSIDER CHANGING YOUR SALES PITCH!!! Why? Because you're coming off as the used car salesman of sex - the kind that wears too much cheap drugstore cologne and polyester fabric. And maybe a bad combover. It's not attractive. And posing as anything besides who you really are lacks authenticity and maturity. Don't be that guy!
Didn't you say before you have no problem stealing a girl off of someone else, regardless or relationship status?
I don't think so... What are you referring to exactly?
Maybe I misinterpreted something you said about the married girl, but thought you at one point said something along the lines of you did not care if a girl was with another guy you were going to hit on her anyway, and if you lucked out it was because he sucked. I am paraphrasing but that is the gist of what I remember.
Nice guys finish in a napkin. Awesome guys finish on her (fill in the blank).
^ DUDE: W. T. F. ? Is this your pathetic attempt at humor with a thinly veiled reference to masturbation wherein you imply that masturbation is an act reserved only for men who aren't successful manwhores? That's wrong on so many levels that I don't know where to begin. I swear to Corncat, you make posts like this just to goad me into a scathing diatribe. Well congrats, pally, you got one!
You are SOOOOOO WRONG here! Guys can be sweet and not effeminate/emasculated, as you seem to suggest. For the record (as as a woman who is willing to enlighten you to our feminine thought processes - at no charge, BTW, so you should be a lot less misogynistic and a helluva lot more grateful for this insight), WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO AN OVERALL PACKAGE, not just a guy who thinks with his package. How many times do we women have to reiterate this to Neanderthal males?
YES, WE CAN BE JUST AS SHALLOW AS MEN AT TIMES! Lord knows I can appreciate well-defined delts and glutes on a guy. But that's not the #1 thing that attracts me, and it's sure as hell not the thing that keeps me attracted. Here's my motto (take it for what it's worth; to you, that's probably not much): IT DOESN'T MATTER IF YOUR BODY TURNS ME ON IF YOUR BRAIN CAN'T.
You wanna know what really gets chicks' "juices flowing"? Honesty. Integrity. Communication. Trust. When those are the foundation upon which you add Passion and Romance (which, FWIW, are two separate things), then you have the makings of an intense relationship. Washboard abs don't build trust. If your passion is based on buns of steel, then passion is what you will get. You get what you give; it's that simple.
You're the male equivalent of some of my sorority sisters who slept their way through every fraternity on campus, then complained that they never had a boyfriend. Well, DUH! If you sell yourself as a cheap item, then nobody wants to buy it because people don't want to buy junk!
^ Based on WHAT example? I know, have dated, and dearly love MANY Alpha males who are outwardly sweet. Being an Alpha doesn't mean a guy has to be a cold, heartless schmuck; it means they have a more assertive nature. A *TRUE MAN* is kind, regardless of whether society has labeled him an Alpha or Beta male. A *TRUE MAN* shows his true colors to everyone. If he doesn't, then he's a coward. And chicks don't dig cowards.
WHOA! When did you grow a uterus and become a woman? Trust me, pal, no we don't. Not ALL women prefer Alphas. I actually prefer a Beta male with a brain & a heart, not an Alpha with a hard body and a cocky attitude. And from personal experience, I can tell you that Beta males make far better lovers because they use their brain instead of their schlong to woo women. The results are legendary: without Beta males, the world would never have the music of Bach, Beethoven and Mozart nor the art of daVinci and Michelangelo nor the poetry of Lord Byron or Shakespeare or any of the other artistic masterpieces that cause cultured women to go weak in the knees. So save your canned, inauthentic generalizations about women because you are as wrong as you are clueless.
(disclaimer: all of this is GENERALITIES, and quite accurate - even though there will be some disagreement)
QUITE ACCURATE? What have you been smoking? Surely you jest! And yes, there will be disagreement, simply because YOU.ARE.WRONG. and so full of yourself it disgusts me and saddens me at the same time.
Look man, you *MIGHT* be a decent guy in real life. You *MIGHT* be an awesome, kind-hearted, generous, giving, warm and caring, funny and amiable gentleman. If that's the case, then GREAT! The world needs more men with those qualities! But based on just about everyquackingcomment you've ever made on this board, you sound like a complete jackasss who is only concerned with getting his rocks off!!! Your vibe suggests that you're an immoral horndog who doesn't respect women. Your posts paint you as a chauvinistic putz who will say or do anything to get a woman in bed - and you're OK with them being there because you sure as hell won't let them in your heart, since emotional vulnerability is a sign of weakness, and showing any sign of weakness is for losers, right? I keep trying to give you the benefit of the doubt, but every day you say something else that makes me want to give up hope of ever finding a shred of decency in you.
DUDE, IF THAT'S NOT WHO YOU REALLY ARE, THEN PLEASE CONSIDER CHANGING YOUR SALES PITCH!!! Why? Because you're coming off as the used car salesman of sex - the kind that wears too much cheap drugstore cologne and polyester fabric. And maybe a bad combover. It's not attractive. And posing as anything besides who you really are lacks authenticity and maturity. Don't be that guy!
Post by itrainmonkeys on Mar 28, 2012 13:03:57 GMT -5
I dislike it when people say "This is how guys think" or "This is how girls think" when writing about these sort of things. Everybody is different and nobody is an expert.
